11 Signs He Doesn’t Want a Relationship With You (NEXT!)

he doesn't want a relationship with you

If you’re looking up signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you…I’m pretty sure you’ve already identified a few red flags with the guy you’re dating.

Am I right?

Spend your life chasing men who don’t want a relationship with you…

..and I promise you, you will spend your life as that weird cat lady down the street who no one talks to.

Don’t be that cat lady.

I created this video and article to show you a few of the signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you so that you can ditch this guy and make yourself available to the guys who do!

Your Coach,

Introduction

You’ve gone out with this guy a few times. Maybe you’ve even slept with him. And while you’re starting to plan for him to meet your friends or even take a couple’s vacation in a few months, you’re not getting the sense that he’s on board with planning a future with you.

What gives?

If this isn’t the first time you’ve been in this situation, dating a man who clearly doesn’t want a relationship with you, it’s time to break it down and figure out why you keep being drawn to these men.

1. He’s Hot and Cold with His Communication

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You keep in touch about once a week, on average, but probably not every day. For the most part, the two of you text, and maybe you’ve had a phone call or two, but he’s made it clear he’s not a phone guy.

In one study I found of guys who have “back burners,” that is, a relationship prospect that a man will let simmer on the metaphorical back burner in case he wants her down the road, showed that 49% of these guys communicate with at least one of their back burners at least once per week, but only 7% communicated with a back burner every day.

So take a moment to consider who else he might be texting when you don’t hear from him for days. Most people — men and women — like interacting with a romantic interest, so if he’s not that keen to communicate, it may be because he doesn’t want a relationship with you.

2. He’s Still Got Something Going on with a Past Relationship

We’ve all had past relationships that keep coming back. Maybe you broke up then tried to work things out. Maybe your ex pursued you months after you split.

It happens.

But consider that the guy you’re dating has exes too…and it’s entirely possible that he’s got a not-quite-over situation with a past girlfriend.

If he tells you that he’s “just friends” with his ex…but he’s really not investing in a relationship with you, likely he’s still hung up on his ex, and doesn’t want a relationship with you. Know that there’s nothing you can do to make him get over his ex, so move on.

3. He’s Constantly Leaving You Hanging

I had a dating coaching client years ago who was so into a guy. Let’s call him Jake. She told me that when they were together, it was magical. There was fantastic chemistry. But then they would make plans…and he’d bail at the last minute.

He constantly left her hanging.

Does this sound familiar? Unfortunately, this is one of the signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you.

If he blows you off by not returning your calls and text messages or waits days after you reach out…

If he cancels plans at the last minute…

If one minute he’s intensely into you and the next he’s distant…

Then he’s not interested in you enough to be respectful of your time and energy. If he’s acting like this now, imagine what this guy will be like as a husband or a father. Um, no. This isn’t the right match for you.

A man who is interested in you wants to build the relationship, and communication and respect are a major part of that. A man who cancels plans again and again doesn’t respect you. A man who can’t respond to your texts or calls in a timely manner isn’t invested in you.

4. You Are a Ghost to His Friends and Family

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As far as his family is concerned, you’re a ghost!

You don’t exist…at least in the eyes of his friends or family.

They may not even know you exist.

Pay attention: does he mention that he was talking to his mom about you? No?

Does he ever invite you to hang out with his friends? No?

Everyone knows that the moment a guy introduces you to his family, you are officially his girlfriend. He knows this too. That’s why he’s not doing it!

If he doesn’t involve you with others in his life, then that reflects on how little he is actually involved with you. If after three months, he’s not bringing you to meet any friends or family, it’s a sign that your relationship is not moving in the right direction. He’s interested in spending time with you…or at least, having sex with you, but he’s not willing to incorporate you into his real life.

5. His Heart Feels Completely Closed to You

Throughout our lives, our hearts open and close, depending on where we are emotionally. Women may be more open to finding love than men. Men, I’ve found through my coaching experience, may be more closed off (even if they meet a fantastic woman) to finding love.

If a guy is into you, he will be open with you. Part of being open is communicating with you and opening up about his life and past experiences.

He may not necessarily tell you when he took his first steps or who he had a crush on in middle school, but the right guy will share information that is more real. Who he had his heart broken by. What his relationship with his family is.

A man who values you and wants to open his heart to you will do that. There’s no sense in trying to change a guy who clearly is unable to give you his heart. Because: you can never change a man!

It’s natural that a man might go slow in opening up to you at the start of a relationship, but pay attention: when you open up to him, does he reciprocate or clam up? Is he slowly opening up over time, or keeping just as closed off? If he’s not opening even an inch, chances are that he doesn’t want a relationship with you.

6. He Still Has Things to Do

Men are funny when compared to women. They tend to have a long list of personal accomplishments they want to achieve before they settle down in a romantic relationship. Whether that list includes moving up the corporate ladder, paying off debt, or buying a house, he may insist that he’s not ready to settle down as a result.

Is this bullsh#%?

Probably not. Men are just built differently than women: they tend to compartmentalize different parts of their lives. Even if a man starts to have feelings for you, if the possibility of a relationship interferes with other aspects of his life and goals, he can shut off those feelings and focus on what’s priority for him.

You can’t change a man’s mind about the importance of those goals compared to a potential relationship with you, so don’t even try.

7. Beyond Sex, He’s Really Not Spending Time With You

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After sex, he’s not keen on pillow talk. He’s ready to leave!

“But Adam, I’m really into sex too. What’s the big deal if we do it all the time?”

While certainly, sex is a part of a healthy relationship, it shouldn’t make up the bulk of it. Think to the last five times you’ve seen the guy you’re dating. Did you actually go out…or did he text late at night, wanting to come over? It’s fine every once in a while, but a man who isn’t afraid of commitment will want to spend time with you outside of the bedroom.

You are more than your body. If he’s not interested in getting to know what’s going on in your brain, then he’s not worth your time.

8. You’re The One Putting Out All the Effort

From the time you picked up a slice of his favorite cake to make him smile to the fact that you always initiate text conversations with this man, you’re starting to realize that you’re doing all the work. While he might reply to your text (when he gets around to it), he’s not reciprocating the effort you’re investing in him.

A man who wants a relationship with you will bend over backward to make you happy. He will think of you throughout his day and find ways to let you know you’re on his mind. A man who doesn’t want a relationship with you will take, take, take, and never give.

You want a two-way relationship, right? You want a man who will give without needing you to give back (but who you’ll want to give to). This isn’t that guy.

9. He Doesn’t Want to “Put a Label on It”

I know a woman who has dated the same guy off and on for over a year. They split up when he says that he’s uncomfortable putting a label on what they are.

What the heck?

This man isn’t 18, when, sure, he might not be ready to be a boyfriend. This man is in his 50s! By this age, being labeled “boyfriend” shouldn’t freak a guy out if he really likes you.

To me, this is just his way of stringing you along. He can date other people if he’s not technically your boyfriend. He doesn’t have to actually break up with you when he gets bored if he’s not your boyfriend. And he still gets all the perks of your company and having sex with you.

But, my dear…

What do you get out of it? Nothing but frustration. Ditch this dude.

10. He Just Doesn’t Feel The Same

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He can’t force himself to have feelings for you.

Don’t get me wrong: this guy likes you…he just doesn’t like-you like you. He thinks you’re fun to hang around, but for whatever reason, he’s not as enamored with you as you are him.

It happens. When you think about the likelihood of having romantic chemistry on both sides, you realize how rare it really is. Sure, one guy, you’re attracted to physically, but you have nothing in common with him. Another guy might light you up intellectually, but you can’t find a spark of physical attraction. The same thing goes for his feelings toward you. He might even have expressed that he’s interested in a long-term relationship, but if he can’t find that spark, it won’t happen between you two.

It may not be that he doesn’t want a relationship with you, but that he simply can’t force one, and you should respect him for not trying to.

11. He Just Got Out of a Serious Relationship

If you’re on dating apps, you’ll find the gamut of men. Some are looking for their next wife, while others are looking for their next good time. But read the clues, because often a man will put them out there in his bio. If he says he just got out of a serious relationship, realize the likelihood that he will be ready for another relationship is very very slim.

You don’t know what kind of baggage he’s carrying from that experience. Heartbreak? Divorce? Joint custody of kids? Anger? Debt? All of these are unappealing when you’re starting to date a man you hope has long-term potential. And even if he swears he’s ready for a relationship, do you really want a man who can’t be alone?

Conclusion: He Doesn’t Want a Relationship With You

By now you realize that these signs that he doesn’t want a relationship with you are flashing big and red in your dating life. Am I right?

The key is what you do now that you’ve realized there’s no long-term potential with this man. You might be tempted to keep dating him since you enjoy his company. You could do that, but I want you to be aware that you’re settling for a Good Enough relationship. And I never, ever want you to settle in your life.

It takes bravery to stop dating a man because you know there’s no future down the road, but look at it like this: if you don’t end things now, you will start to care for him more and more, and you’ll convince yourself that he can change and be boyfriend material. From here, at this moment, you know that’s not true.

So get out while it’s easier than it will be down the road.

Leave a comment below: have you ever dated a guy who clearly didn’t want a relationship with you? How’d it work out? How long did it take you to figure it out?

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Eme
2 years ago

I was w someone for 11 years w no label off and on. We had cars together, houses together, bank accounts together. But WE werent official. Toughest staylationship ever!. Everytime I tried to move on , Id get pulled right back in. Its hard when you love someone so much you are willing to sacrifice yourself in the process. Its been a year since Ive seen him, no dating in that whole year. Scary thing is if I saw him Id fall in again. I am just working on me for now.

Maryam
1 year ago
Reply to  Eme

I hope you are better now and doing well without him. Work on yourself and be good to you

Renee
1 year ago
Reply to  Eme

Are you happier? Did he cheat on you. I’m in a similar situation. Been with a guy since 9/2017. We now live together. He had left me 5 months into the relationship for a woman who had 3 kids, was on welfare, lived in a trap house but let him use her car…it didnt work out. He came back and used my car everyday. I found out he has been seeing multiple woman some of whom ive even dropped him off at their house…he told them i was his uber. I’m assuming no real relationships since he sits in the… Read more »

SDW
1 year ago
Reply to  Renee

He is using you because you are dependable and will let him get away with the BS. Dropping him off at other women house, paying for his items. You’re his sugar momma, he’ll only have sex with you to keep you thinking he’s interested relationship wise. He will likely lie to you about loving you or caring or make some sort of excuse as to why he can’t say it. Men like that don’t appreciate when you do nice things for them and will only even try to slightly step up if you look like you’re about to take your… Read more »

Jenica
1 year ago
Reply to  Renee

I been in a relationship for almost 8 years & out of the 8 years I say about 4 years I been waiting for this guy to say he’s ready to get an apartment together & still got nothing. We only had maybe one conversation about kids & marriage the second time I brought up the subject hoping to finally get some type of answers. And out of the 8 years we been together we only had sex once & that was me initiating it. His reason why we don’t have sex is he stressed out & or his weight.… Read more »

Ted
1 year ago
Reply to  Jenica

Girl-have some self respect and dump his sorry ass.
A guy

Kiesh
1 year ago
Reply to  Renee

It’s the sex an maybe a little pillow talk I have been in a smaller type of relationship well really just being used for everything I had to give so he dick me down real good an talked them good nothing’s in my ear for year’s an I knew he was unfaithful I still kept on believing that he loved me because I was wanting to be loved but then I realized I have to love myself first an I would always say I loved myself when I was with him but really I didn’t how could I when I… Read more »

Maryelizabeth Marquis
9 months ago
Reply to  Renee

WTF girl? You are so much better than this and deserve so much better. Why would you put up with this creep? I have dealt with low self-esteem with myself but I realized that I deserve to be treated well and not used and taken for granted. You are an amazing woman, kick his pathetic ass to the curb and find your value, find your self-esteem and self-worth, no excuses sister, if I can do this so can you. I am routing for you. Go find a man who will appreciate you and love you for you and not use… Read more »

1 year ago
Reply to  Eme

I’ve been with this guy for four years. We were perfect we always resolved are issues if we had any and we were so love able , he was the sweetest of them all. But recently he told me he isn’t happy with are relationship he doesn’t know why and doesn’t blame, he also compared us to another couple and said I want something like that a more Bestfriend relationship then a bf and gf relationship. He also told me he stopped seeing a future w me which is completely odd because he would always talk about our future but… Read more »

Liz
1 year ago
Reply to  Eme

That was so me but today I finally confronted him. About his líes and infidelity and he denied it like always. But when I told him the facts he put his head down . I thank god I finally could see thing clearly, and I let him go.

Gina
1 year ago
Reply to  Eme

Was dating a guy for 2 years. He said in the beginning he wasn’t interested in a committed relationship but after 1 year it was. The 2 nd year he still saw me but kept trying to say he needed space. We gave it a week or two then we hung out 1 day a week. Then it gradually increasesd tp two times a week then that was too much he flipped flopped me around then went to the beach for 6 days up then a weekend after that. Unending he tells me he isn’t ready for a relationship wtf

Adrian
1 year ago
Reply to  Eme

Have been with him for past 10 years…everything was perfect and i could see my future with him. Past 6 months, his communication with me is on downhill. He used to call me 3 to 4 times a week and would have sex with me frequently, but now its almost 15 to 20 days that he speaks to me or even texts me. I am the one who is making initiative every single time. I have tried talking out with him as to why he is losing interest in me? He has started referring me as his good friend and… Read more »

Janette
5 months ago
Reply to  Eme

Wow – it sounds just like me. I really let anyone in that I admired and it was like a staylationship too. I’d never heard of that term before… but I am actually that also. I guess I was willing to sacrifice myself too and they say that as not everyone is perfect I was happy to see where things went. In the end, it was clear to me that I was never given the time of day and was always made feel like I was a hindrance and never made time for, or he was too busy or distracted.… Read more »

Pat
2 years ago

Thanks for the teaching . You are right it is happening and I have been in that situation

Ellen
2 years ago

Hello ~ So many of the signs I have been through with this certain man. He has always used me for a weekend booty call never taking me out just coming over and having unbelievable sex the sexual chemistry is unreal . Recently he had asked me to meet for a drink which shocked me and then took me to his friends house shocked! Then he introduced me recently to his brothers and sister and one of his kids It really threw me for a loop. I thought he was finally coming around his family made a big deal saying… Read more »

Suz
1 year ago
Reply to  Ellen

Ellen
You deserve better. You deserve to be loved and prioritized. You need to love yourself more, and you should tell yourself and this man that you deserve better! He doesnt deserve you!! this is not what love is

Verona
1 year ago
Reply to  Ellen

I know that feeling please for ur own mental health get out. The waiting for folks to be right is akiller

2 years ago

Men are all the same. I think you need to teach men how to treat women it’s very frustrating to be with a guy who cannot communicate and think they can use women. If this is the way Society is going Society is going to fail until a time when men can compromise, need to go back to classical ways where the men is the Chaser not the woman. Men are built to be the Chasers.

2 years ago
Reply to  Diana Durr

You’re absolutely right but what happens is that they give a little we get a good taste we see potential and then we become the Chasers and they let us chase them and then some way in your own twister Game then they become somewhat uninterested or they become complacent because they’re not chasing anymore we’re chasing because it’s crazy young boys middle aged boys an older Boys in their 50s almost close to the 60 they’re acting like this and if something doesn’t change when they realize that they have no one to love them The Cheeky on the… Read more »

Paige
2 years ago

I dated a guy and jumed right away to a relationship since two months and now he is concerned about family issues and there is a long distance relationship between us. He said he can’t make a long distance, logically it won’t work out and hung up on me after I started to feel and excited about relationship. Do you think there is a future in our relationship and is there any possible hope I expect him to see me in future?

Gaia
1 year ago
Reply to  Paige

No. I also has just experienced the same thing. I have been with a man whom I had known for more than a year. eventually he told me that something special happened between the two of us so we made it. but then he had to leave me for work and we had to do a long distance relationship. it worked for about 5 months but it was full of arguments and fights. He kept having flings and couldn’t stop flirting with other girls (even though it was for ONS only, so he said). But his flirting game was real.… Read more »

Alynkhazzal
1 year ago
Reply to  Paige

if he truly loved u distance wouldnt matter trust me he just wants you for ure body maybe thats wht I believe

Vedika Arya
2 years ago

I have been dating a guy since school time , and now that he is having a job and i am working for my higher studies , he has shut down all the emotions and says he cares but he has stopped feeling most of otger things . He doent want someone else and not want to stay with me either.

He is ready to give the relation a second chance , because alot of fators are involved. I just dont know whats right , because i just love that beautiful soul.

1 year ago

I moved in with him and he would introduce me to his friends and family as his friend! I thought i changed his house into a home, and I stayed with him for 7 months! And he still financially took care of his ex , and would buy her things and pay for her food when we would have a family outing just to find out he’s still married to her ! So I left . And he has the nerve to be mad at me !! And doesn’t talk to me anymore!

Britt
1 year ago

So this guy was in the military 3 years ago. He had to drop out because his father had passed so he had to come home to take care of his mom. And then about 4 months ago we met joked around “fooled around”. When we first hung out we were going to go on a date and then it turned sexual, and then a month later he asks for rides to work because his car broke. And then I became a little obsessive with texting, he got mad blocked me. Didn’t talk to me for a couple of weeks… Read more »

SooSwxy
1 year ago
Reply to  Britt

Britt he is with me

Anonymous
1 year ago

I started seeing this guy 6 years ago. I fell in love with him when we met. Well we started seeing each other a year after we met. He just wanted a friends with benefits. I was ok with it at first. But then after having sex with him i started getting feelings for him. But he told me we couldn’t be no more than friends.So years go by we still messing around andl. The thing is after all these years he’s still not interested in a relationship. We hangout somewhat but mainly at my place. We don’t go out.… Read more »

Mel
1 year ago
Reply to  Anonymous

i was going through kinda the same situation i guess, but not exactly like yours, Anonymous. This guy whom i really liked told me since the very beginning that he didnt want us to date, he’s only interested to be friends with benefits with me; the worse thing is that he admitted one of the reason is he already has a girl that hes not in a committed relationship with (whatever that means). he even said that he didnt want us to look like we’re together in public. but like a fool, i agreed to be in a fwb arrangement… Read more »

Vicky
7 months ago
Reply to  Mel

Sex is NOT love. You can have sex and not be in love. You can be in love and not engage in sex. Be wise. Using sex to manipulate a man will eventually fail. I see many women deceive themselves by thinking that giving him sex will make him love them. A man who doesn’t love you will not change his mind because of sex. If he is in it for the sex, ‘better sex’ will take him away from you.. If you have made the mistake of trying to use sex to buy this man, now is the time… Read more »

Laura
5 months ago
Reply to  Mel

I met this guy from my church. He pursued me . He explained early on that we’re not a couple, we’re not dating, we’re not in a relationship , and that we’re only friends and the he can see other people and I can do the same. We ate both 51 years old. Him never being married or having children. Me married twice and have grown girls. Fast forward. It’s now been 7 months since we have been “ just friends” we go on bike rides together, have gone out to dinner, etc. I have not met his family ,… Read more »

Hari
1 year ago

I feel like is me they’re talking about.
I face all this signs in my relationship
You no what I’m not in anymore
Thank you

Kim
1 year ago

I’ve been dating a guy for about 5 months. We have amazing chemistry and he’s very sweet and helpful to me (I recently broke my leg and had surgery on it) he cleans for me takes me to my appts. But he is a bad communicator. It can sometimes take him hours to answer a text or he’ll say I’ll see you tonight and then not show up. We have not had a relationship talk but he has called himself my boyfriend, he told me he would be there for me and that from now on I can mark him… Read more »

Kim
1 year ago

So we have met when I moved in in the room next to his. I have been there for him though his bouncing back from his breakup and then trying to find love somewhere else. At the beginning he told me he doesn’t feel much for me and I was chill with it. But then we slept together and it kept happening and then we started talking more and more about life and principles and we match in so many ideas. We think the same way almost and when we fight we don’t stay mad at eachother more than a… Read more »

bry
1 year ago
Reply to  Kim

you’re wasting your time girl. I was recently in a situation with a guy like this. he was so sweet and mentally we were on the same page, many of the same interests. we have great chemistry and the sex is so bomb and when we’re together we are just so happy and always laughing but there’s a girlfriend he’s been with for 3 years and we got together while they were broken up. but then he was lying to me about who she was but so I recently decided to cut it off and move on. It makes me… Read more »

Monique
1 year ago

It’s a shameful sham, I just left a long fwb because I couldn’t take it anymore. He would always bring up his past, point out which of his fb friebds he’d been with and would still hang out with them. He even had his brothers girlfriend living with him and she was allowed to flash herself and get handsy with him . The final straw was when I had to ask again if he would have sexy with this girl and he said as long as I’m around she doesn’t look attractive. I decided I wasn’t a babysitter especially for… Read more »

1 year ago

I love a guy, we are not dating, we just had sex 2 to 3 times and am crazy about him. He has a child and a girlfriend.. They have been together for 9 years but they are not married. I also have a boyfriend who loves me and want to marry me but am lacking chemistry with him. So basically we have bothed cheated and he just want to carry on with his life with his girlfriend. He is always telling me about God and the wrong thing we did about cheating , how he want to do right… Read more »

Shelby
1 year ago
Reply to  Anonymous

You sound very conflicted. I feel your pain. I have been in a similar situation a few years ago. I was with a loving partner who I did not sexual chemistry with for few years but was sexually involved with a man going through a “separation “. The latter was emotionally unavailable and noncommittal. I was a side piece to him. I left the first partner for the one who was unavailable. I was with him for 10 years. There was never a commitment, broken promises and lots of drama with his ex wife and children. He finally divorced her… Read more »

Diamond
1 year ago

I been seeing this for 5 months off and on , he told me he doesnt want a relationship with me so i agreed to that, but we do have connection when we are together. Here is the kicker ill text him and he wont respond like a month it really makes me angry. Should i just let him go?

Shantel
1 year ago

Have been with my boyfriend for 4 years buh am falling in love with another guy.what should I do?I still don’t know this new guy but am trying to and he’s so loving

bry
1 year ago

yes you have love for your boyfriend there’s no denying that, but maybe you are no longer in love with him. If you’re falling for another guy while still in a relationship do everyone and yourself a favor and break up… it will hurt but it won’t be as complicated down the line. Think of how hurt your boyfriend will be if he finds out from someone other than you that you’re falling in love with another guy……

Sosa
1 year ago

He says he’s in love and wants to commit one day then changes his mind the next. It’s going on 3 years.
We spend a lot of time together. He wants to focus on his career first. I do believe when he says that he loves me and that he’s not dating anyone else. I’ve seen positive changes in him, but I don’t understand why he doesn’t want to be committed but he doesn’t want to let me go either. I will have to start keeping my options open, but it’s hard because I love him so much 🙁

Kyla
1 year ago
Reply to  Sosa

Let him go. My boyfriend just broke up with me after 3 years because he just couldn’t commit to me. He didn’t know what he wanted in his life. He would love me like crazy and treat me like a queen everyday, but never really commit to anything future. Each time I did try to leave him, he wouldn’t let me go, but tell me he wants to be with me. I learned now, no matter the love we had if a man has issues with himself and he can’t commit, he will never commit. You’re wasting your time.

1 year ago
Reply to  Kyla

I been friends with a cute Mexican guy. I would hang out with him at his house for severalmonths. I buy him stuff. We would hold hands and hug. On the couch watching TV. He be a gentleman give me drinks. It just water orsoda. He started flirting with his room mate. Buying her stuff. And she gives him cigarettes. My mom gave him some money to help him with food. I didn’t even care about the money that my mom wanted him to pay me back. I care about his friendship. He calls me every day saying how much… Read more »

Wendy Sharpe
1 year ago

I started seeing a guy who married his relationship with his wife was no good, then they recently split up. Which he decided he does not want a relationship but for us to be friends , but he gives me mixed signals towards me one minunite its fun then its ‘oh dont want to get in my way of finding a guy. So im totaly confused what he wants.He texts once a week to see if im okay. So maybe he needs time alone to sort what he wants he been a part of my life for nearly 25 yrs… Read more »

london19bridge
1 year ago

I’ve known a guy for 3 years and we’ve been texting everyday like good morning and good night messages. There was never a time that we missed a day without texting. We’ve only seen each other once a year and everytime I tried to meet up with him, I was being rejected because of conflict in his schedule. He knows that I loved him and he just lets me love him. He doesn’t put an effort or ask me to spend time with him. He even said that he is not yet ready for any relationship. What advise can you… Read more »

Cynthia Enubuzor
1 year ago

Me and a guy was once in a good relationship so he travelled for one week when he returned he felt less concerned about me so I made him angry and it got to our parents so his father adviced him to apologize to me so he showed up at my house we had a conversation he tried kissing me but I drew back till now we still don’t talk to each other but I still love him what should I do

Ani
1 year ago

How strong u are can handle the feeling

Cris
1 year ago

I have a friend, let’s name him Eric (All names have been changed) who I have been friends with for 7 years. 2013 when I met him he was in an open relationship with his now ex of 1.5 year named Natalie. Eric and I hooked up many times and my emotions for him grew. So much I eventually fled and moved away to create as much distance between us because I just couldn’t forget about him. Fast forward to 2018 I went out one night and it was the most random place too, I ran into him. I couldn’t… Read more »

Afie
1 year ago

im having a problem with my man. he is always ignoring my texts, didnt pickup my calls, dont bother to call back, takes forever to reply even though he’s online on whatsapp and facebook. he said to me he needed space and he has his own life instead of texting me 24/7. but u don’t ask for all of his time. it is enough if he says goodnight or im busy. but he completely ignoring me. right now i know he’s back from work and i saw him online but didn’t bother to read my text. he shows no effort… Read more »

Adrian
1 year ago
Reply to  Afie

Omg, Its like you are telling me my own story. This is exactly what is happening with me too. Can someone help Afie and me??

Kyla
1 year ago

I wished that I have listened to all the red flags. My boyfriend of over 3 years was the sweetest and most loving person to me. We didn’t live together, but we enjoyed and had so much fun spending time everyday together. We’d take turn staying over each other’s place throughout the week. He did everything for me to show he loved me. He would buy me surprise gifts , make things for me, go out of his way to make me priory, whatever it took to make me happy. However, his girlfriend of 12 years before me seems to… Read more »

Sabrina
1 year ago

I recently reunited with a guy I met online back in 2014. We talked for about a week or so if I remember correctly. January of this year he contacted me on the same site we met on asking if we could exchange numbers, I agreed, and we talked, and texted everyday all day. The second day of communicating he told me he loves me, want us to eventually move in together, get married, have a baby together etc… His text were so warm, loving, caring, kind, and intense, but his phone conversation, and him in person was a total… Read more »

Lisa
1 year ago

Started dating this guy at work. Which I know for my personal preference co workers are off limits!! But things happen. I knew little about him, except that we had great chemistry and it was pretty obvious to everyone. While dating I learned that he had gotten divorced about 10 months ago, he’s a dad. He’s got some debt. Hes mentioned to me several times that he “hates his life”. Although I try and be supportive and cheer him up. I let him know that I did not mind and I myself am perhaps too busy to date as well… Read more »

Ali
1 year ago
Reply to  Lisa

Sorry girl but you like him more than he likes you. He is physically attracted to you so the purpose of his flirting is to express his physical attraction to you, boost his ego, and take his mind off of his worries / how much he hates his life right now. He is not in the place for anything serious with you. If you can enjoy the flirting and keep it all in good casual fun, you can keep flirting with him. It sounds like you feel deeper emotions though for him. He doesn’t have space in his heart or… Read more »

Debbie
1 year ago

Right so I’ve been seeing my ex for 5 months now, he’s always said he wanted me back so thought I’d give it a go, at first he couldn’t get enough of me, wanted to chat, text, see me, do things with the kids and no one knows we’ve been seeing each other, the excitement is sneaking around has been great, but then it started to hit hurdles, he felt he had to perform in demand, I said why wouldn’t he want me in that way, then next things are going too fast, i said let’s live for today and… Read more »

Jane
1 year ago

I had a guy do this for 2 months, sold himself to be relationship material. Always arranging dates, constantly in contact to suddenly blowing hot and cold bringing up previous exes in a nostalgic way and seemed sad by a relationship that had ended 2 years prior and openly admitted the brief relationship after this was a rebound and he was ready. Well he soon changed his mind to not being ready and he said he told me he wasn’t ready to which he didn’t tell me. Introduced me to his friends and was always asking I was meeting anyone… Read more »

JENnifer
1 year ago

This sounds like my situation and I’m really not sure what to do. My husband walked out on me and my children at the end of January. Just out of the blue slide codes actually he wasn’t happy and he hadn’t been for a long time and he wanted to leave. He went to live with his mum. All of this was a huge shock as upto a few days before we were ‘happy’ had a lovely weekend and lovely new year and Christmas had a new baby just turned one and everything appeared normal so him coming out with… Read more »

Srilalitha
1 year ago

Should we try to change these people….. Or this type of boyfriend’s mind … And is it possible to make them love for ud

akosuamoses25
1 year ago

eve
most of us are going crazy

1 year ago

He was good all along but now, he sees flaws on me.

Kathy
1 year ago

I have recently learned that when a man says he doesn’t want a relationship, believe him. I have been divorced for approximately two years and so has he, we met online when we were both separated. We have been casually seeing each other for exactly two years, I broke up with him after a year because I wanted something meaningful and he didn’t so we both went our separate ways, I was heartbroken……and then approximately after 5 months we saw each other online again and started to talk again, we got back together casually and I asked to be exclusive,… Read more »

Candi Smith
1 year ago

Wow! This is a guy that I had been seeing for about 9 months… I am usually pretty quick to discern and person intent by their actions and cut them off, but this time I decided to do things a little different and observe and “go with the flow without any preconceived expectations.” I went with the flow and allowed him to reveal himself through his actions. In the beginning, We got along really great and I do believe there was a connection but now I realized that he displayed damn near every one of the signs that are listed… Read more »

N J
1 year ago

I have been dating a guy since January. We spend a lot of time together going to dinner, hanging out at his house or mine, being intimate. We don’t really go places other than that but we are always talking and planning. About 4 month in I checked in with him and he stated that he though it was too soon to put a title on it even though he said he said he wasn’t seeing anyone else. He still said the same thing 2 months later. Now we are 8 months in. I love him. I told him last… Read more »

Meg
1 year ago

Sigh!! Back to the freaking drawing board. I have no clue why this guy I am seeing tells me everything is fine yet does not make any plans and does not commit to any plans I suggest. Clearly everything is not fine and he is not interested in seeing me anymore. It’s all good, I have my big girl panties on and he can totally tell me it’s not working, but he doesn’t! I just want to move on to someone who wants to be with me as much as I want to be with them. Why is it so… Read more »

Ella
1 year ago

So m dating this guy N he loves him well I guessed so..till we hard issues n he found out I dated one of his friend way back before we met,but just because I didn’t tell him he got mad n stopped talking to me for months…after so much apology he forgave me,well so I taught ,then we started off again but this time on a different note…so now he no longer takes me to his house but n hotel,after sex he goes back home till d next morning…one min he shows signs of love,care the next I wonder if… Read more »

Emma
10 months ago

Me and my sort of “Ex” have recently finished what we had for 5 months. It was everything a normal relationship had but just without the label. I developed strong strong feelings for him and he did too but he couldn’t commit and is scared to fall in love again due to his past. Last week i told him i wanted him to meet my dad and that obviously freaked him out so he bought an issue up that was exaggerated and got him so worked up to the point where he told me a didn’t want a relationship with… Read more »

Aila
8 months ago

I met him last February and now he tells me he doesn’t want a relationship but he wants to continue seeing me. Like WTF?!!! The red flags were all there when he cancel plans the last minute and promise me to take me somewhere and he doesn’t. I told him he wouldn’t care if I dated other men and he says that I’am single and I’m free to do whatever I want. Heartbroken he continues to tell me he has a crazy life and he likes being alone. When I met him he got out of a 8 year toxic… Read more »

sarah laurain Garrett Johnson
3 months ago

i started seeing someone before his divorce was over. I had already known him since i was 9 years old and hes 10 years older than me. We have been seeing each other since feb.2002 and now its almost July he doesnt want a relationship with anyone.He says he cares alot for me but im in love with him. our sex life is off the chain. Hes 77 and im 67. I want him so badly b. he has left me bout 3 times cause he knows i love him. What should I do?
 

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