Why You Should ONLY Date guys with money (and How to Find out he has Any)
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Today’s video is going to be a little controversial and to be perfectly honest… it might piss a few people off.
“Money shouldn’t matter if you’re in love,” my critics will say.
But it does.
The reality is that money DOES matter. Find out exactly why I insist that a man’s financial health is so important when it comes to a serious relationship in today’s video.
Facts are facts.
Just like mental and physical health, financial health has a HUGE impact on your relationship.
I’m not saying you should be “all about the Benjamins,” but there are a few things that you need to consider before you go “all in” with someone.
How has money affected your relationships in the past? And what have you done about it? Share your stories in the comments below!
Your Coach,
Adam
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Summary –
Most people out there say you should never marry for money, and always marry for love.
That is definitely not true.
Did you know one of the top reasons for divorce is due to financial stress? Anyone who says money doesn’t matter in a relationship either has a ton of it, or has never been in a long-term relationship.
According to a recent survey, 35% of all respondents experiencing relationship stress said money was the primary cause.
Studies also show that disagreements about other issues like sex, household chores, or how much time spent together doesn’t predict breakups. But money definitely does predict relationship success.
With that said, I’m not proposing you should ever be a gold digger.
Go for a man you’re in love with, but don’t be naïve about the challenges you’ll face if he is absolutely terrible with money. Try to get a handle on those issues before they become a much bigger problem. Turning a blind eye to those issues can lead to waking up one day in complete financial misery and a relationship that’s falling apart.
What I’m encouraging you to do is to be smart and realistic about the impact financials have on a relationship.
By the way, this is a two way street here. This is the twenty-first century and women are equally responsible for a family’s finances.
Regardless of who is the “breadwinner,” I feel strongly that it’s important to understand each other’s financial philosophy. Here are a few steps to help you with that:
1. Don’t be terrified to talk about money.
We all have egos and we sometimes don’t like to talk about the challenges we have in our own lives.
But if he has $250,000 thousand dollars in college debt and bought a brand new Audi last week, it is appropriate to ask him how he plans on paying off his debt.
Does he even have a plan?
What are some things you can do as a couple to save money?
These are the types of questions that are appropriate to talk about once you’re further along in a relationship.
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2. Watch out for signs that he’s terrible with money.
If he has a gambling problem… that is a major problem and red flag!
If he has crazy credit card debt… that is a major problem and red flag!
If his lifestyle doesn’t match his paycheck… red flag!
3. Find a guy who’s financially savvy, not just a guy who is rich.
I really don’t care if you marry or date a rich guy. Just because he has money now doesn’t mean he’s going to have money in the future. I would rather you date someone who spends his money frugally, invests in his home, and lives within his means.
So let me ask you, how has money affected your relationships in the past? Leave a comment below.
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I was with someone who was quite financially sound. I was not. It drove him crazy. We were crazy in love with each other and had no issues…except financially. We made plans to pay my debt (and I didn’t have a lot of it) and I didn’t stick to any plans we had made. I took it for granted. We split up, money wasn’t a part of it for me but it was for him. We remained friends. Years later, his next relationship after me ended….and he’d asked me out again. I was so excited for a second chance. Guess… Read more »
He sounds like a stick in the mud unless you are a truly extravagant spender.
Oh holy Heck I couldn’t agree with you more. I fell in love with my last boyfriend before we dated, and he fell for me, dumped his gf and went after me. I normally wouldn’t even considered a guy who makes minimum wage or works part-time at low-wage jobs but I really thought he was for me in so many other ways. Within two weeks he was asking ME to pay for his meals and that was after I was already buying our meals together, doing all of the cooking and cleaning. I figured he would turn his finances around… Read more »
I liked this video. I just broke up with a guy for money reasons. He had way to much of it. Seriously . And a never ending supply too. He didn’t have to do anything, work, pay bills, clean his house etc it was all taken care of for him. He was boring as hell, and a binge drinker. Cute as,a bug though. Lol. His unjust entitlemen was truly embarrassing. Happy to let rich man go.
You are Brilliant I truly appreciated this video, especially from a mans perspective, a married girlfriend of mine warned me about this exact thing. She said “I’m not saying it should be the main thing but it’s important it is a big deal. You don’t want to be with someone and 5 years from now your struggling, it’s not fun”.
Another things to look for regarding a man isn’t just if he has money but how he views money. Is it something he uses to control or lord over others with. Does he think he’s the hottest thing around because he has it, you should want it, other women do so you’d better keep him happy to get it guy. I have money so I rule is this guy. Also Mr. Cheap regardless of how much money he has is a terrible investment. He isn’t into to sharing or generosity. He could make hundreds of thousands of dollars and still… Read more »
Βest video ever!!! So true!!! I always say to my loved one money does matter… all relationships are tested in that area!!!
Thank you for covering the topic of money. When I think back to my relationships with guys, in hindsight I broke up with them as I felt they were not good providers if we were to have a family. The first one went from job to job and wasn’t stable. The second guy would spend everything he made and never thought about tomorrow. We had a business loan and he came home one day with a car to add to his collection without even discussing it with me. He then ended up finding a job and leaving me with the… Read more »
Good advice! Glad you’ve landed on your feet!
To be honest, being a guy who does not have money really sucks. Not even speaking about serious relationships – I am really not that type of person who is just happy to be with bf/gf and do nothing but laying around in the house. I do not believe in that bullshit “The most important thing is that we are together”. Well if you are 60 year old grandma who couldn’t do anything but sit at home and knit the new pair of socks, maybe it fits the situation. But for me it sucked that everytime I suggested to go… Read more »
Wow, perfect timing on this video! Thank you! I’ve been weighing the value of staying with my guy, as he’s in financial stress. (As well as becoming a stepmom to his teenagers is an art!) But he’s financially savvy, frugal and carefully planning a successful biz model. He’s been rich before. He lost his beloved biz during a divorce. Your video gave me the confidence to speak openly with him. He revealed his debt statements, bank statements and plans for rebuilding his biz. I appreciate his skills even more now! And his openness! On my side: I have only medical… Read more »
How has money affected my relationships in the past?
Good question. One of my ex boyfriends stole $500 cash out of my wallet when I left it on his coffee table. And I paid his rent one month but he never paid me back. Needless to say the relationship didn’t last long. With my other two boyfriends money was never an issue. We had the same financial beliefs.
Great video!
I once went on a first date with a guy I met online. When I asked him what we should do on our date he replied, “oh, let’s just go for a walk”. I was fine with that and agreed. Well, the weather that day wasn’t good and it looked like it would start raining soon. So while we were walking I said, “oh, that’s a nice café over there, shouldn’t we just go for a drink? It looks like it will start raining every minute”. He was like “oh, no, let’s just walk on, it’s going to be fine.”… Read more »