He’s Losing Interest Due to the Pandemic, What Should I Do?
These are strange times we live in right now, aren’t they? Especially when it comes to dating.
Maybe you have joined the ranks of the people who are flocking to online dating right now. We’re seeing unprecedented numbers of people who still want to make a connection…even if they can’t meet in person for the time being. Maybe you’ve even started a little social distance romance, and you’re excited to get to know this man without the pressures that come with meeting in person.
Only…you feel like he’s losing interest due to the pandemic, and now you’re not sure what to do. This is totally new territory, but I’ve got some tips for you.
The problem right now is: because there are so many people on dating apps, a lot of users are experiencing FOMO: fear of missing out. They keep swiping and swiping, hoping to find the perfect mate. So even if you are completely attractive and interesting, you risk a guy losing interest due to the pandemic simply because he’s got more inventory to peruse.
What can you do about this? Here are my suggestions:
Don’t invest too much emotionally. I know it’s exciting to think of falling in love with a guy you meet online right now. What a story that will make! But realize that, while you can get to know a man somewhat via text or video, you’re still missing out on a huge component: in-person chemistry. You can’t truly know whether you’re a good match until that point. And…we don’t yet know when we can get out and be social again.
Also, don’t chase him. I know your inclination might be, if he’s pulling away, to pull closer to him. But especially right now, this is a bad idea. You don’t really know this guy because you haven’t met in person, so chasing him will only scare him. Match his pace: don’t text or call more than he is.
Have him invest in you. You need to see that he’s willing to put in time and energy into a potential relationship with you so you know he values you. If you’re doing all the work, he’s probably not interested enough to put in that effort.
Remember: he’s not going anywhere. He’s not going on dates with other women. You may be in a rush to get to know him as quickly as possible, but now, more than ever, I encourage you to slow down and enjoy the process. We’re all starving for connection right now. Remember that he’s going through the same pains and frustrations that you are. If he’s the right guy for you, you will get to meet him when this all blows over.
Finally, I encourage you to keep your options open. I say this a lot: until you’ve had a conversation about being exclusive, you are not tied to this man. Keep having those video chats and texts with other guys. Have fun. If it’s mean to be a relationship, it will be. Until then, keep those options open.
Talk to me in the comments below: why do you feel like he’s losing interest due to the pandemic, and what will you do to change that?
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