15 Signs He’s Just NOT Into You and What You Should Do (Move On!)

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So you got here by searching “signs he’s not into you.” And yet, you’re in denial about why you’re here.

Allow me to illustrate a point in written song:

My mind is telling me no, but my boddddyyy is telling me yesss!!

Ok, I’ll never sing to you through writing again…

… unless it helps me make a point.

Like right now.

So many women know they are in dead-end relationships that aren’t going anywhere

… but they don’t do anything about it.

They convince themselves that the problems are just in their head and that things will get better.

More often than not, they actually fear being alone, and so they stay when their partners aren’t supportive. They stay when they argue all the time. They stay when their partners have fallen out of love, or they’ve fallen out of it themselves.

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Did I hit the nail on the head? Am I talking to you, lady? Then I have one thing to say to you:

It’s time to wake up!

You’re here looking for signs he’s not into you because you think your relationship is over. You want substantial proof — one way or another — so that you can figure out your next move.

Even if it’s a scary one.

Now, I created this video specifically to help you identify the signs he’s not into you. I’m going to reveal 15 telltale behaviors that tell you it’s time to move on because he’s just not into you.

Not every man has the same tells, which is why this video has a list of 15 different potential signs. Your man may exhibit one…or all 15.

Keep an eye out for these, and you’ll know if it’s time to double down on the relationship

… or hit the eject button.

Watch it now, and wake up from the delusion you’ve been in.

You’ll be glad you did.

Your Coach,


It’s human nature — particularly with women — to want to find a mate for life. So it’s understandable that if you’ve been dating a guy for a few weeks or months or even years, that you would feel invested in the relationship.

You want it to work. So you might ignore a few warning signs that would serve as signs that he’s not into you as much as he once was. You might ignore your own waning interest, simply because you want this to work out.

But can’t you see? You’re doing yourself more harm than good. If this guy is exhibiting signs he’s not into you, then he isn’t The One.

No amount of ignoring that fact will change it. The best thing you can do is accept it and move on so that you can find the guy of your dreams.

So start paying attention to his behavior, because if he’s exhibiting any of these signs he’s not into you, it’s time to get a game plan.

Sign He’s Not Into You #1. You KNOW He’s Not Into You

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Check out these signs he’s not into you.

Okay, this is going to sound really basic, but the first way you can tell he’s moved on is if he acts like he’s not into you.

He may not have said this specifically, but his behavior has changed since you first started dating. Maybe he doesn’t hold your hand as much or rarely stays the night. Maybe he doesn’t seem as into sex as he once was.

Whatever the signs he’s giving off, pay attention. If your gut is telling you this isn’t it, then this isn’t it. When it’s right, you’re going to know it.

Sign He’s Not Into You #2. You’re Always the One Making Plans

When a man is into you, he will make the effort to spend time with you. Look back over the last several dates you had. Did you initiate those plans, or did he? Was there a mix?

If it was all you, baby, pay attention, because this isn’t good.Sure, he may be really busy at work. He might be stressed. That could be it. Here’s how to tell: resist the urge to make plans to see him again. I know you’ll want to but don’t.

See how long it takes for him to notice, and for him to ask you out. If he doesn’t, it’s time to say sayonara.

Sign He’s Not Into You #3. He’s Not Interested in What You Do

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He’s no longer interested in what you do.

He used to take an active interest in your scuba diving hobby. He’d ask about the book you were reading. But now, he never shows any curiosity about what you’re doing when you’re not with him.

And when you are with him? You pretty much just have sex. You’re not doing fun activities like you used to. You used to go on hikes or go to dinner. Now you’re lucky if you get Netflix before sex.

If that’s the case, then say goodbye, move on, find the next guy.

Sign He’s Not Into You #4. He’d Rather Spend Time with Other Women

Maybe he insists they’re just friends, but you’re starting to feel like a third wheel because your boyfriend is almost always in the company of other women (who, whether they are or not, you imagine to be impossibly hot and sexy).

Or maybe he’s dating other women. If you haven’t been dating that long and haven’t had the exclusivity conversation, he’s within his right to date other people…but still owes you the courtesy to tell you, especially if you’re sleeping together.

Sign He’s Not Into You #5. He Doesn’t Really Look at You

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He doesn’t look at you the same anymore.

You: Does this dress make my butt look big?

Him: Huh? What? Uh, no.

There was a time when he couldn’t peel his eyes away from your magnificence when he would always compliment you and couldn’t keep his hands off of you.

Now it feels like you could show up on a date in a potato sack and he wouldn’t even notice.

This is another of those signs he’s not into you that you need to trust your gut on. A man who cares about you notices you and pays attention to you.

Sign He’s Not Into You #6. He’s Asking You For Dating Advice…About Other Women

Huge deal-breaker.

I don’t even know what to say about this sign he’s not into you except: why are you still with this guy? You will never change him.

Don’t convince yourself that you’re okay with him dating other people. Because you’re not. Put your foot down and tell him it’s over. You will find a man who is devoted to only you. This isn’t him.

Sign He’s Not Into You #7. He Doesn’t Do Nice Things For You Anymore

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He used to do nice things for you…

You remember when he’d offer to wash the dishes after you cooked, or clean out the cat box. Now you feel like you’re constantly begging him to do the simplest of favors, like opening the door!

He acts all put out because you’re asking, and you’re left feeling like you did something wrong.

But you didn’t. He’s just effin’ selfish. You do not need this. He’s moving on, and you should too.

Sign He’s Not Into You #8. He Actively Flirts With Other Women

There’s no excuse for him to be flirting with other women whatsoever.

Whether he’s deliberately trying to get you to be jealous (to what end, you have to wonder), or if he’s just such a player that he doesn’t realize he’s flirting right in front of you, either way, it’s behavior you don’t have to put up with.

No guy is going to say oh! Baby, I didn’t realize I was flirting with the cashier. She means nothing to me. I love you!

Okay, so maybe a few guys would say this, but you in no way should believe it. Flirting is not accidental.

Sign He’s Not Into You #9. He Doesn’t Care When You Are In Crisis

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He used to come to your rescue.

Men are natural providers, and a man who’s interested in you as a person, if he sees that you’re in a crisis, or knows that there is something wrong, he’s going to want to come and help you fix it.

But this guy would leave you face down in a ditch on the side of the highway.

He’s more concerned about his own needs. He might even be a narcissist.

Ditch him. You need a man who will be a 50/50 partner. Each of you takes care of one another when you need it.

Sign He’s Not Into You #10. He Never Tries to Impress You

Now, men can sometimes go overboard in trying to impress a lady — and that gets annoying — but if he’s not being a little bit of a peacock every once in a while…showing off his cool car, puffing up his chest, or whatever it is that he does, then he’s probably not interested in you.

[And in reality, showing off his muscles isn’t working anyway. A study by England’s University of Kent tracked involuntary responses in the pupils of participants, showing women clothed and unclothed men. There was no difference in the reaction to the two, which says women don’t need to see a shirtless man to imagine what he’s got under that shirt.]

Still, it’s nice when they try to impress you…

Sign He’s Not Into You #11. He Never Opens Up Emotionally

couple arguing

He doesn’t open up anymore.

When you first started dating, you’d ask him questions to try to get him to open up. He was close-lipped then. You chalked it up to the fact that you hadn’t been dating that long. Maybe he needed more time to trust you.

But now he’s had more time. You’ve opened up to him, but he still remains a vault.

This likely won’t change. He’s probably holding his cards close because he sees no value in letting you in if he’s not really into you.

Sign He’s Not Into You #12. He’s Not Really Listening to You

When a man’s heart is really open to a woman, he doesn’t just hear the words that she’s saying, he really listens because he actually cares what she’s saying and feeling.

If you feel like you’re talking to a regurgitating robot — meaning he can spit back whatever you’ve said to him, but he doesn’t seem to have processed or paid attention to it — this is one of the signs he’s not into you that you should really latch onto.

You need a man who will not only hear but who will listen with empathy and care. Let this one go so you can find the right one.

Sign He’s Not Into You #13. He Doesn’t Care About Your Relationship With Other Men

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He used to be jealous…now he doesn’t care.

In an effort to test out whether this guy actually cares about you, you’ve mentioned being asked out by other men. Maybe you even went out with guy friends.

His response?


If a man is really interested in a woman, he is not going to like seeing her with other men, and he’s usually going to show at least small signs of jealousy. He will at least inquire as to the intention of the men you’re hanging out with. Are they just friends? Are you dating them?

Sign He’s Not Into You #14. He Treats You Like Everyone Else

If you were in a crowd of people, he’d slap everyone five, including you. In no way would you stand out as someone special to him.

He’s basically indifferent towards you. You need to realize that you’re an amazingly unique woman, and you don’t deserve to be one of the crowd.

You do deserve, however, to find a man who appreciates your individuality, and who will treat you as someone special.

Sign He’s Not Into You #15. He’s “Always Busy”

busy man

He doesn’t make time for you.

Sorry lady: he’s giving you the classic excuse that men use when they’re not interested… “he’s always busy.”

Now I get it: some guys are just legitimately busy. They have work stuff, they’ve got stuff with their families, whatever it is.

But if he is always busy and can’t put in the time to be with you, then why would you want to be with him? He’s out. Find someone who prioritizes time with you.


I think you and I both know by the end of this article that it’s also the end of this relationship. You now have seen the signs he’s not into you and know that this guy is not the one.

You’ve let go of the idea of changing him, of tricking him somehow into caring for you the way you care for him. But the truth is: you can’t. If he doesn’t like you enough to commit, then he’s not worth your time.

But trust me: there is a man out there (could even be the very next guy you date) who will give you the attention you deserve. Who will make you a priority. Who will only have eyes for you.

But you’ve got to ditch this loser before you can find the winner.

Are ya with me?

What other signs has your guy shown that tell you he’s no longer into you like he once was?

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5 years ago

I think that those signs were not true for me, about 2-3 of those, but not really…even now, when we’re not together anymore (which i want to one day) and he is nice rn, i can always talk to him, he wants to hang out and all that stuff and it’s kinda hard for me.

Sandy Banks
5 years ago

This was interesting; but there’s another one…. he never wants to have his picture taken with you in it and often doesn’t even want you taking his picture at all!!

5 years ago

It also isn’t helpful when a man is telling you he likes/loves you and wants to be with you, but delays some of these behaviours. Very confusing for us

5 years ago

Sometimes I have asked men for dating advice, because I think they’re not interested in me for themselves and maybe they have some good insight. Not because I’m not interested in them. But you know… if someone isn’t open to being in a romantic relationship with you, it doesn’t mean that you can’t still be friends. Obviously, they have good things about them.

Pamela T
5 years ago

Women are natural creatures of feeling and most of the time our gut feeling will let us know that something is not right but even then however we will choose to ignore our gut feelings if we want to try with that person! But in reality once we have gotten the clues we should just walk away and saves ourselves tons, hours, weeks, months and even years of painful hurt and heartache! Even if we don’t end up with that one guy…..THINK ABOUT IT…..ITS MILLIONS OUT THERE SO BE PRECISE AND DETAILED BECAUSE TRUST ME ITS ONE OUT THERE JUST… Read more »

5 years ago

14. Addendum … He treats you “worse” than anyone else. Friends and family get hugs, you get nothing. His manners are tolerable in public for strangers, yet he’s constantly flatulent (belching loudly as well as passing foul gas loudly) around you. It’s just not accidental, not funny nor cute; just plain disgusting.

16. Talks about the ex non-stop, no matter how long ago it was (even over a decade ago – jeez, get over it already).

17. Lies, like a rug! Denies & gaslights like a narcissist! Run!!

5 years ago

When it comes to dating and relationships, some people glorify the good moments and hold onto that while dismissing the bad stuff. When in reality if someone likes you the good moments will outweigh the bad ones with a landslide.

5 years ago

The head can be blind, the heart will lie but you can always trust your gut!

4 years ago

I’ve been seeing a guy for 6 months now. Over the winter when we lived 4 hours apart he would call me every day, when I saw him every few weeks he’d buy me flowers or even a spontaneous present, the sex was always adventurous and as frequent as possible, he called me his girlfriend, I met his family and he was always keen for me to meet his friends. About a month ago I ended up moving muhammad closer to him for work and while trying to find accommodation he said I could stay with him until I found… Read more »

11 months ago

When it comes to romantic relationships, men usually drop subtle hints that show they’re not interested but a lot of women refuse to acknowledge them. If you have a strong feeling that your partner is not really into you and you’re seeing several warning signs in your relationship, it’s time to take a bow.

anG jones
3 months ago

Not interested in my thoughts, feelings, input, im usually “wrong”, doesnt really see me, always too “busy” (stressed, overwhelmed by every possible crises), doesnt kiss me or hold hands anymore,(flinches or twists away or puts hand up preventing contact), never ever makes any plans for alone time or any activity , walks out/leaves when im upset over serious issues, ( dad dying, sad over our marriage , his mother dying, car broken down) , the list goes on etc…, breaks my heart over & over

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