How to Feel Sexy: 10 Ways to Feel Hot, Attractive & Sexy Every Day

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Do you want to know the secret of how to feel sexy? Of course, you do!

Who doesn’t want to feel sexy? I’m talking how to feel sexier all the time. There’s no rule on where and when you can feel sexy, and that’s the best part, some of the most attractive people out there aren’t the ones who look like Victoria’s Secret models (Although we all wish we could look like them from time to time.)

Some of the most attractive people that you’ll ever come across aren’t appealing because they are particularly good looking. They are attractive because they are the rare few who seem to naturally ooze out sexiness and sexy appeal effortlessly.

It’s like they aren’t even trying. You’re probably thinking to yourself, “but I’m not attractive enough to be sexy!” And I’m going to stop you right there before you even have any more time to think about it. It doesn’t matter how attractive you think you are.

The trick to being sexy Is feeling sexy.

From the moment you wake up until the moment you fall asleep you deserve to feel sexy at any given moment. So here is a guide on how to grease up those hinges, loosen those shoulders (metaphorically speaking of course) and relax into a calm aroma of sexiness.

Because after all, sexiness is a state of mind.

When we feel sexy, we are sexy, and you deserve to feel sexy no matter who you are or what you are doing.

Make a list of the things you love about yourself

How to Feel Sexy Tip #1. Acknowledge and Accept Yourself

The best way to feel sexy is acknowledging and accepting yourself for who you are. And the best part of this is? It doesn’t matter what you look like. Regardless of your shape or size, the first step to feeling sexy is accepting what you look like and loving yourself for it.

The best way to accept yourself is to focus on what you love about yourself the most. Forget what you hate, ignore your body hang-ups stop worrying about the parts you wish you could change and instead focus on your best bits.

We tend to focus on the things we are unhappy with the most, and this makes us feel worse overall about ourselves and our appearance. This ultimate shatters our self-confidence and makes us forget we have anything to offer.

Instead, channel all that energy into the positive. Whether you love your eyes, or your hair or your boobs in that favorite dress – whatever it is that you think of as your best bits – flaunt those assets.

Focusing on your best bits and giving them more love and attention will make you feel overall a little bit more confident about yourself and make you feel sexy because when we are feeling great we feel more at home in our skin and this allows us to let your sexiness.

Practice makes perfect. You have to practice self-love and acceptance every day. Write a list, say mantras in the mirror, keep a journal. Whatever works best for you. Once you can accept yourself for who you are, then you can practice feeling sexy.

How to Feel Sexy Tip #2: Get Out of Your Comfort Zone, Challenge Yourself

Many people who are married or are in long-term relationships want to know how to feel sexy to spark up their love life. The best way to do this is to get out of your comfort zone. Long-term couples have one thing in common, and that’s feeling comfortable around each other, which is great but not when it comes to feeling sexy.

Whether you want to feel more attractive for your husband or partner, or even just for yourself, the best tip on how to feel sexy is to change it up and get out of the routine. Because as much as we hate to admit it, appearances do matter.

Change up your wardrobe, treat yourself to something you don’t normally wear but always wanted to try. Buy some new makeup, attend a makeup class or even just visit a salon for a nice makeover.

If you feel like a new and improved version of yourself, your partner will sense it and it will make you feel sexier without even trying.

The most common way to change up your look is to change your hair. Don’t be afraid to experiment; hair will always grow back. Go for the chop and brave a short new cut or play around with colors. Anything that makes you feel a little better about yourself and gives you that extra kick of confidence will most definitely be noticed by your partner. Changing it up is the best way to feel sexier instantly.

How to Feel Sexy Tip #3: Take Care of Yourself

We can’t feel sexy if we don’t feel at our very best. It might sound like common sense, but most women out there tend to forget to look after themselves on a day to day basis. Life is busy, especially if you have a family to look after. So to feel sexy, you need to dedicate some time and energy into taking care of yourself. All of yourself, your mind, body, and soul. Sounds easier said than done, I know.

Statistics show that low self-image and low body-esteem is one of the leading causes of depression in women. The majority of women (85%) and girls (79%) tend to opt out of important life activities and events when not feeling their best. And no one should opt out of feeling sexy and finding love just because they haven’t taken care of themselves.

Eating right and exercising is the best way to do this. Now I don’t mean go on a crazy crash diet or push yourself to exhaustion at the gym. I mean to be healthy and healthy isn’t a number on the scale. Remember feeling sexy doesn’t come from what dress size you are.

Sexiness is not a number; it’s a feeling.

Self-care is about treating yourself right. Being healthy, getting enough sleep.

Focusing your mind and energy on the positives and lowering stress. Take care of your body and mind, and you’ll be surprised how easy it will be to feel sexy.

Don’t be afraid to send a sexy text message

How to Feel Sexy Tip #4: Flirt

The best way to instantly feel sexy is through your words, conversation and more importantly your body language. While on a date or with your partner the easiest way to feel sexy right away is simply just by flirting.

So the best thing you can do is to brush up on your flirting advice, find a style you feel comfortable with the more comfortable you are battering your eyelashes and teasing your partner with your flirtatious words the sexier you will feel.

Flirting doesn’t have to be hard work either. It can be fun and sexy. Playfully teasing and giving flirtatious compliments is always a good start if you aren’t feeling overly confident about face to face flirting.

Another way to instantly feel sexier is by flirting through technology. It doesn’t matter if you are face to face with your partner. Pick up your phone and send a flirty text message, a nice sexy picture of yourself, whatever you feel like.

The anticipation of waiting for your partner’s response will have you feeling sexy and excited as you wait to see how they will react.

Sexting doesn’t have to be scary. If you are completely at a loss for what to say you can get some sexting ideas online.

It’s the quickest way to spice up your daily tasks. Your partner won’t be expecting it while out grabbing some lunch. The surprise alone will add to the sexiness.

Social media is bad for your self-confidence

How to Feel Sexy Tip #5: Don’t Compare Yourself to Others

The thing that men without a doubt find sexy the most about a woman is her confidence. Confidence is always sexy and feeling sexy gives you confidence so these both work well with each other for your benefit.

After all who doesn’t want to feel sexy and confident? The key to confidence is being able to accept yourself for who you are and to finally stop comparing yourself to others. Yeah, I know this pretty hard to do.

Thanks to social media we spend pretty much every second of our day comparing ourselves to someone else’s and constantly feeWhetheradequate in comparison. Whether that be our appearance or our relationships. It’s far too easy to get caught up in everyone else’s carefully edited lives often forgetting there’s always more than meets the eye.

Every person is different, and every person is unique in their own way. The minute you realize and accept this the quicker you will begin to start feeling better about yourself letting your confidence and sexiness shine through. So stop comparing your self to other people.

So you want to know how to feel sexy?

Easy, stop worrying about everyone else and their life and concentrate on you.

Be selfish; you come first.

You are unique, and your life has a different path to everyone else. No one can be you but you. So embrace yourself, and you’ll suddenly feel all the sexier for it. Even if you aren’t feeling overly confident about yourself, the best tip is to fake it till you make.

The rest will follow.

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How to Feel Sexy Tip #6: Maintain Good Personal Hygiene

This might seem like one of the most obvious tips on how to feel sexy. But you would be surprised how many women fail to keep and maintain good personal hygiene. Or feel that they have a fairly good idea of what good personal hygiene entails but aren’t quite making the cut.

Most of us hopefully have a good personal hygiene routine but it’s always fun to mix things up a little bit. There’s no reason why washing and keeping clean and tidy shouldn’t at least be a little fun and enjoyable…

…especially if sex is involved.

A nice bath, a cool shower after a long day and lathering yourself in lush smelling products can instantly boost your mood. Feeling clean can do wonderful things to your attitude about yourself.

When you feel groomed and sparkly you’ll reflect on it how you act, feel and even move. Instantly making you feel sexier to those around you.

When it comes to the intimate area, keeping good personal hygiene is crucial.

The best way to do this is simply by knowing how to look after your intimate area, what to use and more importantly what not to use. Feeling clean and fresh will boost your self-esteem and your body confidence without much effort. Plus knowing you have good personal and intimate hygiene can also make feeling sexy a more enjoyable and pleasurable experience for you and your partner.

Buy some sexy underwear and have a little fun 🙂

 How to Feel Sexy Tip #7: Wear Sexy Underwear

Another top tip on how to feel sexier comes as simple as getting dressed in the morning. Because, well, it does include how you get dressed in the morning!

Throw out those old eyesores, oversized beige underwear sets, and stock up on some sexy lace sets in a variety of colors to suit any mood and to go with any outfit.

Worried that you don’t know the rules of lingerie? Well, you’re in luck because there aren’t any. It doesn’t have to be difficult or complicated. Simply buy some underwear that you like the look of, that compliments your assets and makes you feel sexier than ever when you slip them on.

Wearing sexy underwear doesn’t always have to be for your partner. But since men tend to be more visual when it comes to sexual arousal, spicing things up with a new set of sexy matching bra and panties certainly can help to mix things up a bit in the bedroom.

You don’t only have to wear sexy lingerie for your partner. You can wear underwear for yourself too. Most people feel sexy knowing they are the only ones who know what is under their clothing. Put on some lingerie you feel super sexy in before work in the morning and feel yourself feeling overall sexier throughout the day. Like your own little sexy secret that only you know about.

How to Feel Sexy Tip #8: Go After Your Dreams and Passions

There is nothing more attractive or sexy than a person who knows what they want out of life and is not afraid to go after it no matter what. Women who go after their dreams and want to pursue their passions are incredibly sexy.

This is because it shows they are mature, they know what they want in life, and they aren’t afraid of the challenges on their way to get there.

And what is sexier than that? Yeah, nothing.

Pursuing your dreams shows you are dedicated,  passionate and that you are a hard worker who wants to achieve something with your life. That you have goals and aspirations and everyone knows that’s one of the sexiest things in a partner. No one wants someone who doesn’t aspire to anything.

There are plenty of steps you can take to achieve your dreams. But before you can figure out a plan on how to get there you have to first identify what it is you are passionate about and what it is you want it of life.

Once you’ve done this, the rest will follow. It’s as easy as that. Once you have your focus set on what you want in life and go after it, you’ll instantly feel a lot better and confident in yourself.

This will, in turn, make you feel sexy and even better will help you to attract a partner who is equally as sexy who also has their own dreams and passions to pursue.

Win, win.

There’s nothing like taking a long hot bath to make you feel a little sexier!

How to Feel Sexy Tip: #9 Pamper Yourself

How to feel sexy in bed? Just like keeping on top of good personal hygiene, another top tip on how to feel sexy is pampering yourself.

Even if you aren’t a fan of going to the beauty salon or even of some at home pampering sessions, this will make you feel much sexier.

Or even if you don’t feel like you have enough hours in the day to keep aside some, “me time,” there’s a lot of ways you can pamper yourself without breaking the bank or taking hours to get ready each day in the bathroom.

Plus, if a little self-pampering and tender loving care can help you feel sexy, what’s the harm in making an effort? Smooth skin, feeling and smelling good will give you that little extra boost in self-esteem to helping you feel sexy.

How to Feel Sexy Tip: #10 Dress Properly

If you want to know how to be more seductive, you have to learn to dress the part. Now that you have your beautiful new sexy lingerie on its time to take it up a step and dress to impress in something that makes you feel the sexiest you have ever felt. The best way to start is by finding some sexy looks that work for you. Find something that makes you feel sexy and empowered not awkward and uncomfortable.

But what about during the colder months I hear you ask? How can you possibly look and feel sexy when its cold outside under so many layers? Believe it or not but you can look sexy in the winter time. There is no such thing as blaming the weather for your bad wardrobe choices anymore.


There are so many different ways to feel sexy. Between the instant sexy feeling of a new look, simple flirtation or the long road of self-love, care and confidence there are so many changes you can make in your day to day life to boost up your self-esteem and having you feeling sexy in no time.

Once you have mastered the art of being sexy, there won’t be anything standing in your way.

You will and can be the sexiest version of yourself you can be by following all the steps in this guide. Learning how to be sexy will not only turn your partner on, but it will turn you on too, making you feel great and love being in your own skin.

Every woman deserves the chance to unlock her confidence and learn how to be sexy.

Just remember its all about how you feel, confidence is key and in no time you will feel sexier than you ever have before. So what are you waiting for? Start feeling sexy right away and watch how better you feel about yourself instantly.

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Tracy Carmack
5 years ago

All of these sites keep talking about flaunting your best assets – but what if you don’t know what they are? Or what if you think you have a “best asset” but nobody else seems to think so? Is there a way to determine what most people would think your best assets are?

Tommi Smith
5 years ago
Reply to  Tracy Carmack

I think your best assets are what ever YOU want them to be. With high confidence people will begin to see you and your assets. Another thing, assets don’t have to be physical. It could be your attitude or your love for animals. Confidence can be an asset. What do you think?

4 years ago
Reply to  Tracy Carmack

Most people’s best assets are there eyes! That’s why you should try to draw attention to your eyes more with something like smoking or using a similar shade of eye shadow to your eye colour for example if you have blue eyes you could use a lavender colour.

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