Body Language of Men: Discover The 6 Signs That He Is Into You

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When it comes to the body language of men, are you fluent or struggling with basic comprehension?

You’re far from alone if you have trouble reading a man, but the truth is:

The body language of men is really not that complicated.

But if you’re like most women, you completely overthink the signs a man is attracted to you sexually and don’t even know how to read that he’s even interested in you at all. Ladies, men are not trying to be cryptic with their body language! It’s all a matter of knowing what to look for and how to interpret it.

So in this video, I’m going to be walking through a few different signals a man might throw on a date, and explain the body language of men so you can read them.

I guarantee, the next time you’re on a date, you’re going to be like wow! Adam taught me that move! and you’ll know how to react.

You’re welcome (in advance).

Your Coach,





Guys are cryptic. When you’re on a date, you spend so much time trying to interpret the signs a man is attracted to you sexually that you forget to eat your salad.

He leaned to the side and rubbed his belly. What does that mean??

He keeps touching his mouth. Do I have spinach in my teeth and he’s trying to tell me?

You’re overthinking it again, sexy lady.

Another issue is that you’re trying to read the signs that a woman would send. You know what you’d do to communicate that you like a man, so you’re looking for those same types of signals.

But you can’t. Because, as we all know, men and women are totally different.

Women are more attuned to paying attention to body language. Men, on the other hand, aren’t that great at communicating through subtle body actions. So you can see…you’re rather at odds from one another. So the secret to success in becoming fluent in the body language of men is understanding that it is an entirely different language from the one you communicate with your own body.

Allow me to teach you a few key cues that men are likely sending you without you being aware of what they mean.

Body Language of Men #1: He Tilts His Head

man tilting head

To understand the body language of men, start listening!


If a man tilts his head when he meets you, it is very likely that he is attracted to you. There’s warmth in a head tilt

It can mean he’s curious about you, or that he’s inviting you over to talk. People do it completely subconsciously. We don’t even think about it when we do this. Chances are you do this when you meet guys that you like. Combined with eye contact, it can be one of the really powerful signs a man is attracted to you sexually, so keep an eye out for it.

Even if you’re in a professional situation, like at work, and meet a man, don’t assume there’s no attraction there.

He may not say “damn girl, you hot”. He’s just going to say, “it’s very nice to meet you”. He’s being professional, after all. But there’s a certain level of warmth and intimacy that goes along with tilting his head, so if he does that, know he doesn’t want to keep things strictly professional.

What to Do Back: If he’s tilting his head at you, make sure your own body language indicates interest. Lean in when he talks, and make lots of eye contact.

Body Language of Men #2: He Fidgets

nervous man

If he fidgets, he’s totally into you.

Back in the day when I used to coach men on how to go out and meet sexy single ladies like you, I used to take them out and we’d go out to a park or to a coffee shop, and, yes, I would actually push them to go out and meet women, to confront their social fears.

One of the biggest things that a lot of these guys would do is they would fidget. They’d have a lot of nervous energy.

You’ve probably noticed that a lot of times when you were on a first date: the man kept fidgeting. And it might have been a turn-off to you because you thought it showed a lack of confidence.

But here’s something I’d like you to acknowledge: having the courage to step up and talk to you or ask you out takes a lot of courage. It takes guts. So give the guy just a little bit of room there to fidget, to be nervous. It’s totally natural, and hey, doesn’t it feel kind of awesome that you’re the thing making him so nervous?

Here’s something interesting: men fidget twice as much as women! A study in the journal PLoS ONE found that fidgeting only reduces stress in men, not women (it lowers levels of cortisol). So cut him some slack if he fidgets and know that he’s stressed out on this date and wants it to go well!

What to Do Back: Try this and see if his fidgeting diminishes: compliment him. It’ll boost his confidence a bit and he might feel more relaxed. Then the nice thing is: once a guy feels confident around you, you’re going to get to know the real him even faster, not that Nervous Nellie who is crazily tapping his foot against the table.

I should say, by the way, that I found that a lot of the guys who were nervous when meeting girls ended up being really good, genuine guys. It’s unfortunate that, because they have this nervous body language, they fidget a lot, and women sometimes aren’t attracted to them.

So if you find yourself on a date or talking with a fidgeter, please give him a little bit of time to get to know you and feel more comfortable around you, and then you can get to know the real him. He might just completely surprise you and, who knows, that might be the guy you end up with!

Body Language of Men #3: He Touches You

man touching woman

Where he touches you communicates different things.

Now I think most women will agree that the easiest way to creep out a woman is when a guy that you’re not attracted to touches you. But if you are attracted to him, chances are if he touches you, you’re going to feel much more connected to him. You’ll purr like a kitten.

If he touches you on the hand or the arm, that may be more cordial, more like he’s into you as a friend only. But if he’s touching your shoulder or your lower back, he’s giving you signs that he’s attracted to you sexually, that he’s seeing where this could potentially go.

If a guy is breaking that touch barrier, it’s likely that he’s interested in just a little bit more than being friends. And that’s good news if you’re into this guy!

What to Do Back: If he touches your back, lean into it to communicate that you are receptive to his touch. Reciprocate the touch sometime during the date. Put your flat palms on his upper chest or touch his neck.

Body Language of Men #4: He Holds a Hug a Long Time

man hugging woman

The longer the hug, the more he’s into you.

You: Hi Billy. It’s so good to see you.

Him: Wow, you look great.

[You hug.]

[Still hugging…]


You’ve probably had this happen to you. A guy you’re into hugs you…for a looooong time. He doesn’t want to let you go. It means he cares about you. There’s something going on there. There’s something more there than just a friendship. Friends don’t hold on to hugs for longer than a few seconds. It’s just a quick hug.

But if he’s really holding on, he’s taking that time for your bodies and your energy to connect with one another

And hey, there’s nothing wrong with a good long hug! Science shows that we get a hit of oxytocin when we hug, which helps us bond with the person we’re hugging. Hugs can even boost the immune system and calm the body (see #2: fidgeting).

Virginia Satir, an American psychologist, goes so far as to say we need hugs to survive and thrive: “We need 4 hugs a day for survival. We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth.”

So let that guy hug you long and hard!

What to Do Back: Hug back! But realize a hug is not a hug is not a hug. Don’t hug like a limp fish. Embrace his back firmly and warmly. Maybe snuggle into that space between his shoulder and neck. Let him break away first.

Body Language of Men #5: He Touches His Face

man touching face

He wants to make sure he looks good for you!

This was one of those signs a man is attracted to you sexually that even I have been guilty of when I was going out and meeting women back in the day.

I met my now-girlfriend, Jess, on New Year’s three years ago, and she commented that I was constantly touching my face when we first started dating. It’s something I do when I’m nervous. I’ve even done it when I speak in front of large audiences, even though I don’t consciously know I’m nervous.

So what’s up with a man touching his face? In fact, it’s his way of grooming himself, or to make sure he doesn’t have anything on his face or on his lips. It’s the equivalent of you touching your hair to make sure it looks good on a date.

It also depends what part of his face he’s touching. If he touches his throat, which represents vulnerability and communication, he may be worried about saying the right thing. If he touches or smooths his hair, he’s doing the same thing you do: trying to make sure he looks okay. If he strokes his cheek with the back of his fingers, touches his ears, or rubs his chin, he is totally into you and may be thinking about kissing you or even having sex with you, since these are signs a man is attracted to you sexually.


What to Do Back: Try flashing your wrists! Sounds crazy, but holding your wrists toward him indicates your own sexual interest. Why? Perhaps because way back before Daisy Dukes shorts women were covered head to toe in clothing…except their wrists (and ankles), so it was the only skin they could expose.

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Body Language of Men #6: He’s Constantly Smiling

smiling man

He’s smiling because he likes you!

The easiest body language of men to interpret is a smile.

Humans smile when they’re interested, when they’re happy, when they’re engaged.

So if he’s constantly smiling when he’s with you, that’s a big SCORE.

He may also try to get you to smile or laugh by cracking jokes. Don’t let your own nervousness get in the way of you smiling back to let him know you dig him too. Nobody likes RBF (which, science says, is a real thing).

What to Do Back: One of the best things that you can do to attract an amazing man is to smile at him. I call it smocking, smiling while talking. You may need to check in to make sure you’re smiling at him, especially if his blue eyes are dazzling you and making you forget to smile.


There you have it: 6 ways to interpret the body language of men. These subtle signs give you an indication of when you should keep talking to a guy (because he’s interested) or when you should move on (he’s not feeling it).

I really believe that what separates great communicators from bad communicators is body language. The best way to improve your own body language is by noticing it in others. Pay attention to the signs a man is sending you. Do they feel positive? Do you feel like he’s interested in you?

Then you’re probably right.

So now that you’ve watched this video, you now know more than 99% of people out there about the body language of men because most people don’t even think about it. You’re ahead of the game, Sexy Confident Lady!

What signs has a man given that you didn’t know how to interpret? Leave a comment below and I’ll decipher it for you!

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5 years ago

Adam, great video! How do I take this forward then? There is a guy who exhibits ALL of these signs, especially smiling a lot when he sees me, his eyes are smiling he lightens up every time he sees me, he was touching his face a lot when he first talked to me (prologing that conversation to 40-45min conversation), he is comming to say “hello, how are you?” the majority of times when we run into each other…BUT he never asked me out. CONTEXT; I always run into him when he is at work, and he has been showing me… Read more »

5 years ago
Reply to  Alexandra

Girllllll, just ask him out!!!! It’s so obvious he likes you, he’s just nervous as hell. Just do it. You’ve got this!

5 years ago
Reply to  Alexandra

Ok so I thought a guy rubbing his chin and touching his ear where just normal things… a lot of the times ( not to make this bragging or anything -_-) when boys and elders see me, they do that. I think maybe there is something wrong with my hair, or i need to fix something on me so I try to scram. I go on extreme diets to make my self look thin and , but in a healthy way and keep my self well kept… when i read this i was extremely shocked! I had know idea a… Read more »

5 years ago

Eyes locking from across the room, I feel his eyes are ON me, all the time…is like he can’t keep but lying his eyes on me. Maybe I need to make it a bit more obvious? Holding that damn eye contact till I get uncomfortable? smiling while talking to him? I didn’t do “smiling wgile talking to him” bc I thought it will be too much…I think I need to improve a bit on holding that eye contact more than 3sec… Do you think that and holding 3-4 sec eye contact AND complimenting him next time I may run into… Read more »

5 years ago

Your advice is such a joy to receive : ) Keep up the great work!

5 years ago

Adam, thank you so much for your energy and knowledge you are sharing with us, women! You are putting lots of efforts to teach us and create harmonious relationships! I’m so grateful to you!

5 years ago

EXACTLY this, Adam, I had problems with this: his blue eyes were dazzling me so intense and clear that I was lost in the moment and I forgot to smile.:) !!! I know it sounds crazy, but I just felt he had seen thorough my heart, that’s how INTENSE his eyes were looking at me. My God, is easier said than done…

5 years ago

What does a backward head tilt and stroking his neck mean?

5 years ago

Awesome article. However when a guy gives you a quick hug but lightly runs his fingers down your shoulders blades to your lower back. It’s a mixed signal. He has done it more than once. Thoughts? What should I do

5 years ago

I think that, as long as the girl/woman is not excessively mean, excessively overweight, or excessively ugly then if she asks a single guy on a date he will most likely say yes. I would say 90% would say yes. That does not mean he will date you, but I am sure he will give you a chance. Think it as “if you like me then I like you until you prove me wrong”

4 years ago
Reply to  Brian

Really? Are you really saying: I think that, as long as the girl/woman is not excessively mean, excessively overweight, or excessively ugly then if she asks a single guy on a date he will most likely say yes. I would say 90% would say yes. That is so demeaning to woman!! So only perfect beautiful model quality women should ask a single guy out on a date? Because this is what I m hearing you say.You sound so much like my exHe tore my self confidence to shreds. But since I left him I have had so many guts ask… Read more »

3 years ago
Reply to  Brian

Ah yes mediocre men thinking they deserve a supermodel. The trope of the Western man. Controlled by what the media tells you is supposed to be attractive while pretending its evolution …because that’s what you read somewhere……you’re quite a catch…..and so unique……

5 years ago

This is easy, scary, but easy to do. Say “Do you like me?”. He will say “What?” or “Yes” or “No” or “Maybe”. IGNORE THE ANSWER it does not matter. Then you ask “Do you want to go out on [pick a specific time , date, and place]?”. If he says “Yes” or Yes, but he may need to change the time,place, whatever; then you are in. If he says “No” then say “Ok, here is my [email/cell number] contact me so we can stay in touch.” There, 5 minutes and you know the answer and you have left him… Read more »

4 years ago


4 years ago

What does it mean if the man stays with you for a while then leaves and comes back all the time. He is not interested in sex anymore. I have known him for over 30 years.

If he is really into you, he will make it obvious.
3 years ago
Reply to  Jackie Howard

If he leaves, that’s your sign.

4 years ago

What does it mean when he is constantly rubbing his legs and knees?

4 years ago

Absolutely love it!

4 years ago

Ok I have a question. I have a friend and we have kinda hooked up a few times. Sometimes its obvious he’s into me but he has this thing about wearing sunglasses alot so you can’t see his eyes. He even wears them inside. So what do you suggest in that situation?

Tina Duncan
4 years ago

Hi, I met a man at work who needed my help to access the computer system. I emailed the forms and he had to email them back. He stated he had limited access to email and insisted on Meeting me to bring them. We had small conversation and he kept touching my shoulders about 4 times. He was a nice looking guy. Wore a bow tie, which you don’t see much at work. He had a Southern Andy Griffin look. I had on a black swing dress with hot pink necklace and bronze sandals. I looked nice. I was like… Read more »

Cassandra F.
4 years ago

Hi, okay so had first meet this guy at my workplace a year + ago saw him first when coming down the elevator he semi-smiled then after that I kept on running into him he would not make eye contact or smile he was just mean LOL. Recently we’ve still been running into each other now he smiles and always seem pleased to see me he even holds the door. notice me when Im around BUT he never say anything not sure if he is being nice or find me attractive ? this been going on for months now ???

3 years ago

I have this guy at work.who has told me I am his type, has touched/ rubbed my shoulder during joking around and he fidgets alot. I do notice him stare at me but sometimes he does’nt always make eye contact back like he is ignoring me. I get mixed signals alot.

3 years ago

There is this guy that does not show any of these signs except he touches my hand every time and am worried

Judith Duffy
3 years ago

Thanks for all, Adam. Just still trying to figure out the language of my ukranian icedance coach ! We only see each other at the rink, mostly on ice. He’s bowed to me , hugs me all the time, gives me no charge lessons, bared his very fit stomach to me ? , taken his hat off and ruffled his long curly hair while looking at me-just to name a few. He is a very kind, sensitive person. I was attracted to him when I saw him on the ice 3 yrs ago. Do you think he senses that?

Jessica E.
2 years ago

A guy I know professionally rubbed the area under about an inch below my eye gently with his thumb as if he was examining it or removing something. He then gently touched the whole side of my face with his cupped hand. The whole thing lasted maybe two seconds.
How do you read this behavior? Please tell me what you think! Was he flirting? I had just looked in the mirror, so I don’t think anything was on my face.  

2 years ago

This was very helpful! What about if they kept rubbing one of their wrists while you were talking? 🙂

7 months ago

What if a guy taps your shoulder like in a reassuring manner? Does it include in touching the shoulder with a single tap?

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