Is Dating An Older Man Weird? EXPLAINED

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Fun Fact: My mom knitted my uncle this sweater almost 50 years ago.

We see it all the time – the 24 year old actress dating the 45 year old producer or the 28 year old “yo pro” dating the 34 year old engineer.

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Is it weird?

Is it gross?

Or is it perfectly natural?

In this week’s video I’m going to answer the age old question, should you date older men? Watch it below.

What do you think? I’d love to hear from you in the comments section.

Your coach,
Adam

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Amanda
9 years ago

Nope! It’s not weird, so long as he’s within a decade…funny video!

Jessica
6 years ago
Reply to  Adam LoDolce

Hello Adam,
I am dating a young 70 year old, and I’m almost 47, he hired me as a property manager/housekeeper, and we just clicked, but he has been married twice and no more marriage for him, been dating almost a year, i make him laugh everyday, and he thinks I’m beautiful and amazing, without any make -up lol.
He is kind, thoutful, generous, and loving, but I feel this isn’t going to go anywhere?
Thank you,
J

Tiffany
4 years ago
Reply to  Adam LoDolce

Thanks for that video that helped me because I am 27 and I am dating a 30 year old guy and his birthday is July and he will be 31 four years older than me I think that is a good age range right?

Jessica
9 years ago

Yes, it’s gross! Any guy more than 3 years older than me is NOT my guy. But…I’ll make an exception for you Adam!!!! <3

Erin
9 years ago

I dated a guy for almost 4 years and he is 19 years my senior. It was a good relationship for the most part but he was very immature in a lot of ways and waited until we were over 3 years into our relationship before confessing that marriage was “never an option; never on the table”, even though he’d led me to believe it was. Turns out he was so insecure that he just told me whatever I wanted to hear so he wouldn’t be lonely. I definitely agree with Adam on the points he makes in this video… Read more »

Jasmine
9 years ago

I’m 27 and my boyfriend is 35, that’s an 8 year gap. I’m honestly glad we have an 8 year age gap and honestly I can’t tell at all unless he talks about how he went to one of the first Foo Fighters concerts in California at the age of 15. Adam you are so right about older men. He knows what he wants, he doesn’t sugar coat things and tells me exactly what he wants out of our relationship. I’ve dated men my age and even 2 years younger. I’ve come to the conclusion that dating at least 2… Read more »

DD
9 years ago

Totally normal for me. In fact I don’t find men within 7 years older than me attractive at all…they are just so immature.

Rebecca
9 years ago
Reply to  DD

I agree! I need at least a decade older.

Rebecca
9 years ago

First relationship, I was 22, he was 52. He did not take advantage of me for being so young, contrary to what people might say. The relationship lasted one year and I loved him very much. We split because it was also long distance and I couldn’t do it anymore. The time apart made us fight more and it was something we couldn’t get over. I am currently dating a guy (very new) who is twice my age. I’m 24 he is 48. He is so sexy, mature, responsible, there for me when I need advice or someone to talk… Read more »

suz
9 years ago

nope its not wierd , i am in relationship with someone 16 years older than me , and he is so mature , he more care about you,
its nice to have someone older for woman and i should do this earlier
coz when dating or being with same age theres still ego in there and immature thats makes us fighting
thanks adam

9 years ago

I had a very successful relationship with someone 18 years older than me. I was 35 and he was 53. We were very open with each other about our goals and what we brought to the table. I probably learned more from that relationship than any other so far.

Sandy
9 years ago

I am the opposite. I am 50 and want younger men…not too young but I like their energy. Guys my age just don’t want to do anything. I’m not ready for the rocking chair. 😀

Michelle
9 years ago
Reply to  Sandy

I agree….I think a more up to date topic is should you date a man much YOUNGER than you!! I’m 47 and went on a date with a 31 year old. THAT is becoming more and more common

Karen
9 years ago
Reply to  Michelle

I’m thinking exactly the same thing. I’d love to see a video about dating younger. I’m more attracted to them because they tend to be more energetic and have a positive outlook. Guys my age tend to be less interesting to me.

lisa
9 years ago

I disagree! Age is not just a number! Several studies have shown that a bigger age gap correlates with higher chances of divorce! One of such studies (Francis & Mialon, 2014) concluded the following from pooling data from more than 3000 divorced couples. “A one-year discrepancy in a couple’s ages, the study found, makes them 3 percent more likely to divorce (when compared to their same-aged counterparts); a 5-year difference, however, makes them 18 percent more likely to split up. And a 10-year difference makes them 39 percent more likely.” As regards the difference in maturity levels between men and… Read more »

maria
9 years ago

it gross to me .

Now, lets reverse the question. Is it weird for an older woman to date younger man/guy?

helena
9 years ago

I have no problem with any sort of age gap, and I’m 50 years old. Your relationship is with the person, their personality, not the number that is attached to them. When I was 20 I preferred 50 year old men. If my 25 year old daughter wanted to date a 50 year old man, that would be fine with me, as long as he was a good person. When I was 40, I amazingly looked at least 10 years younger than what I was, and I was friends with a guy 7 years younger than I was (not that… Read more »

Liz
9 years ago

Dating older men is not weird at all. I’m 29 and have always dated guys older than me. The age range has been from 2 years older to 15 years older, and I’ve finally figured out that 6-8 years older is perfect for me. I recently started dating a 35 year-old, and couldn’t be happier! Because of our age difference, we’re on the same page which makes every aspect of dating and getting to know each other even more amazing! Plus, older men are actually gentlemen and enjoy being chivalrous!

Michelle
9 years ago

I think a more interesting and forward thinking topic is should you date someone much YOUNGER than you? I am 48 and went on a date with someone last week who was 31 and I frequently have much younger men want to date me. Women dating much older men has been happening since the beginning of time

Liz
9 years ago

I’ve been dating an older man for about four years I recently found out he’s been lying to me and telling me he’s not married he got married why I was with him or year and a half ago and bought a house and has been living with his wife why he’s with me it almost destroyed me when I found out. I believed him when he told me he wasn’t married but now I know that was one big lie my only thing is I wonder how long he was going to string me along it’s been four years.

Debbie
9 years ago

Women dating older men has always been the norm, in society. Its totally accepted. I for one have never dated a man older than me. My question is. How does society feel about women dating younger men? Men in my age group don’t want a woman like me. Its a tough age demographic to be in for single women in their 50s . Every guy that asks me out is at least 10 years younger than me. What’s your thoughts on that Adam?

leonie
9 years ago

I only date older men because they are mostlybin peace with who they are and have more patience and understanding. In the bedroom…oh yes! He reallh knows how to spoil a lady. Mostly I date men 20 years my senior x

G
6 years ago
Reply to  leonie

Yes! So true.

Marni
9 years ago

Older men are more confident and will be gooofy with you without even thinking about it. This has been my experience.
They are also more in touch with their feelings and will communicate more.

paula
9 years ago

Hi Adam, Thank you for this video. However I have a question I would like you to explain Adam. I would like to put the same situation the other way around. Why do divorced men (not all) between 45 and 55. Why do they always go for women 10 to 15 yrs younger. . Is it to show off to there family and friends with this second opportunity they are having because of there age and need to settle for anything. that crosses their path. Or to be with a woman around or close to that .A good skin tone… Read more »

Rukhsana
9 years ago

Its not weird,actually I find it nice coz they r mature and they knw what they want.

Megan
8 years ago

I started dating an older man a few months ago (I’m 27 and he’s 36). It has been great! No games.

Adam I’d love if you did something on dating someone with kids…things are good so far but any advice would help 🙂

Kaley
8 years ago

I dated a guy who was 5 years older then when I was a senior in high school. I had no problem with it and neither did he, or his family. My family on the other hand had a fit. They went so far as to break us up and that was months ago. The problem with this is that even though I’ve dated someone else since then and broke up with them, I still can’t get over the older guy. I don’t what it is buy none of my other relationships have been like that one. So I don’t… Read more »

Camy
8 years ago

Oh wow would do I do if me the 42 yro likes younger man.. Immaturity believe it or not older men can definetly just as bad a younger man, cheaters the same.. My ex of 18 yrs was more mature when I met him he was 19 than now that he’s 39… Adam I like, and once in awhile I talk to a young man he’s 21 well I really like him but I’m so afraid of our age gap.. He’s told me he’s not the into clubbing kinda guy.. But he’s afraid of relationship cuz he’s been deeply hurt… Read more »

Kathryn
8 years ago

I dated someone 16.5 years older than me for 5 years, not weird at all as long as you enjoy eachother. Age is a number, and no he wasn’t rich at all.

Heather
6 years ago

My late husband, who was my third husband and the absolute love of my life, (loved him much more than anyone else I had ever known) was 19 years older (I in my 40s and he in his 60s). We kept our finances separate, so his “resources” had nothing to do with it. I was able to relate to him far better than any of the men closer to my own age had ever been, and for the first time really my lover was also my best friend. I am ONLY interested in older men, preferably at least 10 years… Read more »

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