How to (Actually) Love Yourself And Be Happy

How to (Actually) Love Yourself And Be Happy

Adam LoDolce

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The University of London just completed a study that shows the key to happiness is getting naked around other people.

Of all the scientific studies and peer reviewed research I have read on the subject of being happy, this has to be the LEAST practical.

Especially if you’re single!

Imagine the look on the arresting officer’s face as the cold steel of the handcuffs slap around your wrist…

…. while you sit there…

… in the middle of Starbucks…

… sipping your latte…

… in your birthday suit.

But Officer, I’m Finally Happy!!!”

Luckily, I’ve got you covered right here with some practical advice that actually works.

Oh, and it will keep you out of prison!

In today’s video I’m going to break down 5 surefire ways to actually love yourself and be happy.

(Loving how you look naked is fantastic… but that ain’t one of ‘em)

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Chances are, if you work on just one of these five things, you’ll feel and experience a dramatic shift in your levels of happiness and wellbeing.

If you’re like most women I’ve coached over the years, number 4 will probably be something you immediately recognize is holding you back.

Your coach,

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Summary –

1. Protect yourself from emotional harm

If your friend is spending time with a guy who’s treating her like total garbage, what would you do? You would talk to her and fight for her. You would want her to have the power and courage to get out of the relationship. The problem is, people who don’t love themselves won’t fight for themselves. They’ll fight and protect their friends, but they won’t do it for themselves.

When you find yourself in a bad situation, be willing to walk away. Be aware of how other people are affecting your emotions, be willing to fight for your own happiness, and be able to leave a man that isn’t good for you.

2. Continued self improvement

People who love themselves will actively try to improve and be a better person… they know they are worth the investment. No one is inherently perfect and there are things in your life you’ll want to work on. This will also change and evolve, and could be anything from your dating life to your professional life.

Ask yourself, where can I improve?

I’m in the self-help industry and know it’s a really great place for people to look at themselves in a new and different light. People against self-help complain that the industry wants to makes you feel like something is wrong with you. However, it is because of your self love and energy that you’ll understand how important self improvement is.

3. Open to seeking advice from the right people

When you love yourself you surround yourself with people who support and guide you towards success. You’re open to change and willing to get advice from the right people. This is your expert. An expert could be a therapist or a coach, and has motivated me to developed my newest one-on-one coaching program, Platinum.

On the other hand, if you don’t love yourself you are likely to surround yourself with people who put you down. You think you deserve this treatment, but you don’t. Discover your expert to help guide your today!

4. Avoiding Perfectionism

Let’s face it, you’re going to make mistakes in your life. You’re going to get rejected, be embarrassed, and have oversights. People who love themselves accept this and avoid perfectionism. If you go along hoping to be perfect, then you will forever suffer with anxiety anytime you’re “not perfect.”

Nobody’s perfect. If you live your life trying to be perfect you’re going to resent yourself and never live up to your own expectations. I want you to realize that you are a beautifully flawed individual whose work on improving your life is what really matters.

5. Willing to give back with no expectations

People who truly love themselves are willing to give back to people in need without expectations of receiving anything in return. This might sound a little morbid, but the easiest way to die with regret in life is to look back and realize you did nothing but serve yourself.

It doesn’t have to be a giant gesture. Your positive energy is both powerful and influential when you give back in small ways. You could pick up the phone and reach out to a friend who is struggling, be a mentor, or volunteer in your town. It’s these little things that allow you to give back receive a sense of joy, happiness and purpose.

How to (Actually) Love Yourself And Be Happy

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Adam LoDolce

Love Strategist

My true passion in life is transforming your love life by giving you specific tools and techniques that you can use to attract long lasting love. I got started when...Read Adam's Story

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Aleyna akyasar
4 years ago

I absolutly love all your tips , they have not only made me a more confident women , but be more understanding of the male mind . Especially with these lists of thing i find myself already doing most of them on my own but never realized it. I have realized i have been getting happier and content with myself. But ,not only that ! I have been comfortable being single and becoming good at picking out the wrong guys vs. The good ones.

4 years ago

Adam; this is absolutely beautiful. Simple, yet beautiful. Specially number 1. As I even said to my ex (whom I sill think I love and adore) I said see here is the thing , i still love you and adore; however, I am learning to love myself . And as such that means that i need to stand by my own sense of self worth and self value as little as that may be ” thus I need to remove myself from this situation. Its hard when one is just learning to love themselves. I love reading your emails as… Read more »

Jacqueline Callander's
4 years ago

About the best advice so far.

4 years ago

Hi Adam, I got across your channel recently and it changed a lot of things. Thank you very much.

4 years ago

Adam what if we love a friend… who loves us back and cares, but ” does not have chemistry for us”? it is not someone abusive, someone causing emotional harm.. from that yes i would run! but it is someone who i am not in love with but i love, and i can go out with tons of amazing men, kind caring and great, and i do love myself and know i deserve to be loved back. but i also know i love someone and if he needed, i d give him one of my kidneys right here right now…… Read more »

Lydia Thieme
4 years ago

Bravo! Beautiful!
Adam~ I am so happy that you touched upon the subject of self love.
It is so important for women ( and men! ) to really KNOW and feel how worthy and divine they are. It is good for the individual, and , consequently, good for the world! 🙂

Thank you for the much needed reminder. ESPECIALLY #4!!
I am posting that where I can see it daily!

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