How Men Fall in Love: 5 Steps to Make Him Love You

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Have you ever wondered how men fall in love? Or if it’s a different “process” than women go through when they fall in love?

If so, you’re in luck. This week’s video is a special one. It dives into the five steps most men go through when they are falling in love.

It’ll help you “see the signs” when it’s happening… or when it isn’t happening.

Watch this week’s video: “How Men Fall in Love”

Have you ever noticed these signs? Let me know in the comments below.

Your Coach,

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I’m going be talking about how it is that men fall in love and what are the 5 steps to capturing his heart.

Finding your way to a man’s heart is kind of like solving a Law and Order crime. You need to follow the clues each step of the way in order to make it happen.

The only difference is that you’re looking for love, not murder.

So I’m gonna show you the map to a man’s heart and this map includes the 5 stages men go through as they fall in love.

  1. Physical Attraction

Listen, it’s true. Men are very visual creatures. We fall for a woman initially just based on physical attraction. When we first see that person, if that physical attraction Isn’t there it’s unlikely that we’re going to pursue that woman. Now, this doesn’t, I cannot emphasize this enough… It doesn’t mean you have to be perfect looking in any way, shape, or form, I promise you. And I’ve coached a lot of men over the years. No matter what you look like, there are guys who will be attracted to you and your type.

So that’s the first stage. If he’s physically into you, then you can move on to the next stage: chemistry.

  1. Chemistry

Does the conversation flow? Do you have things in common? Does it feel like you can just talk for hours and hours? Do you have a similar sense of humor? Do you just have great banter? Are you likeable? Is he likeable? Are you guys playful? Do you have an intellectual curiosity with one another? These are the types of things that make up chemistry, and these things really matter.

Now, the good news is that you can really improve your chemistry with men through what you say, but also your body language. Make sure you’re smiling, be open, be animated as you’re talking, and make sure you have great posture.

Most importantly, have a great attitude. Men love women who are incredibly positive, and have a great attitude & vibe. I assure you, you can really start bonding with men and creating that great chemistry you really want.

So now that he’s physically attracted to you and he likes you, this brings me to stage 3: the trust phase.

  1. The Trust Phase

Now, believe it or not, us men, we have feelings too. And if we’re going to get emotionally involved with a woman, we want to know that we can really trust you.

So now he’s attracted to you, you have great chemistry, and he trusts you. On to the fourth stage: long-term compatibility.

  1. Long Term Compatibility

Do you share the same values? Will this relationship logistically work? I mean… do you guys live near each other? Do you want to live in the same places? Do you want the same things out of life whether it’s children, where you want to live, and the things that you want to achieve in your life?

Now, you don’t necessarily have to have the same hobbies and interests. Those things aren’t necessary. But you do need to share the same basic values of how you live your life and what it is that you want out of life. Otherwise there’s just going to be way too much friction between the two of you.

So now let’s say that you pass all of these stages of love, you get to the final stage: the comfort stage.

  1. The Comfort Stage

This is when you finally meet the real person you’ve been dating.

You end up becoming really comfortable with the type of person they are and as you get to know that person you really become best friends. You always wanna spend time with that person, that person supports you, wants to make you happy and works hard every single day to make you happy.

And once you reach the comfort stage, you know, that’s when the love becomes very real and very awesome.

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7 years ago

Interesting. Women are counseled NOT to fall for a guy’s looks, or to bank too much on chemistry. We’re encouraged to put trust first, values second, and long term compatibility, third. It’s not as fun to fall in love this way, but it’s definitely smarter. Maybe guys should wise up too. Yeah right!

Mariam Ridgwell
7 years ago

This is so true! I have seen it evident in my life so many times with amazing guys! The crazy part is I feel like women have steps to falling in love but it sometimes seems more complex. Or at least more than 5 steps. I have dated some amazing men who they can see a future with me but on my end of things not everything matched up the best. If you were to write the 5 steps that women have to falling in love, I wonder if it would be: #1 Does he pursue me? #2 Do I… Read more »

7 years ago

Hey Adam would be cool if you transcribed the main message in text version so I could read it I can’t always watch videos during the day 🙂 just a suggestion.

7 years ago

I have a question, when does the sex come in in these stages, or should it come only after these stages are completed? Things like trust and comfort could take months to build, and if I’m looking for a relationship checking if we’re compatible in bed is really important to me. I see this advice all the time to wait as long as it’s possible to sleep with a guy I want to be serious with, but on the other hand, building something special for 3-4 months and then finding out that the sex is horrible – makes it so… Read more »

7 years ago

I think chemistry is one of the important factors and you have mentioned that in your post. Informative article that is going to help women

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