If He Doesn’t Want a Relationship, Don’t Give Him Benefits
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Are you still hooking up with a guy that you really like, even though he’s made it clear he doesn’t want a relationship?
I need to tell you something that you probably don’t want to hear about the guy you’re dating:
If he doesn’t want a relationship, you won’t convince him otherwise.
Consider what you’re doing. You’re essentially giving him what he wants (sex) in the hopes that he will fall head over heels for you.
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In this video, I will shed light on why this behavior is actually stunting your emotional growth and keeping you from finding the man who’s right for you.
This is another example of how men and women see things differently. I shared a story in this video about how a woman I had a casual thing with felt like I was cheating on her when I talked to another woman. I thought we were dating. She clearly thought we were in a relationship. Very different points of view.
Realize that you and this man see things from completely different perspectives. You see sex as an emotional binder that is part of a relationship…
…but he sees it as sex. Period.
I want you to realize that the more you give, the less he will appreciate you. So pull back from giving this man the benefits of a relationship without you getting the emotional connection that you need. You are worth so much more. There is a man out there who is ready to commit to you, who wants it all: hot sex and passionate love. Let this guy go so you free yourself up to find that man. He’s out there. I promise.
Talk to me in the comments below: do you realize that you’re giving this man all the benefits of a relationship without getting what you want in return? Tell the Sexy Confidence community that you’re done with this behavior!
Your Coach,
Thank you coach
Thank you soooo much Adam! Women need to listen to this especially since it is coming from a MAN!, As women we try to explain this to our female friends who are doing just what you describe—-using sex to keep a guy around , or deluding themselves into believing that they actually mean more to the guy than just a sex partner. However, we are met with denials, and sometimes anger and hostility when we try to gently point this out. Women have to stop seeing each other as competition and instead VALUE themselves and see that they have so… Read more »
I hear you. I am stuck in this exact situation. I have been trying to extract myself from it. Problem is, it is so emotionally painful. Everyday is a struggle to let him go which is kind of ridiculous because I dont think he would be devastated to lose me. I’ll keep working on it because I dont want to be somebidy’s option, I want to be the destination!
Thanks alot my fav love teacher. I really appreciate the fact that you surrendered your time so that you can guide us in our love lives.
Bt still am confused with what to do with my man. He tells me that he loves me alot bt he also loves my friend.
am now wondering is t possible for a man to love a girl n also have another as jxt a crush
shld i stay with him or i shld beta leave him for someone else
I am going through this exact situation at the moment so I’m glad this e-mail has appeared. I am slowly getting over him. He has had what he wants from me and now I am left with the memories we had.
I also work with him as well so I am constantly seeing him and trying to move on and re-build my trust in men
Nice article!