4 Ways You Might Be Turning Guys Off By “Trying Too Hard”
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Are you usually the cat?
Think about it…
All of the men that you DO NOT want are chasing you around the bar.
All of the men that you DO want really want nothing to do with you.
So, why does nature create such a game of cat and mouse?
It’s simple. When you actually like a guy, instead of being that fun, playful “challenge” that all men adore, you transform into your alternate ego, attempting to “make him work for it.”
Please watch this video to learn specifically how you might be turning guys off by “trying too hard” and ways to avoid it in the future.
“Trying too hard” is unattractive; however, being a legitimate challenge is sexy. @adamlodolce
So, now that you’re much more aware of how you might be playing “hard-to-get”, it’s time to take this newly found awareness into the “field” for testing.
The next time you’re out with your friends meeting guys, I want you to be keenly aware of your body language, your voice tonality, and your conversations with guys that you are clearly not attracted to.
Then, I’d like you to take note on the same actions and reactions with guys that you are NOT attracted to.
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How do they differ?
Do you notice that you act much differently with guys that you really like? How? Let me in on the details in the comment section below.
Now that you’re more aware of the difference, it’s time to bridge that gap, and treat him just like every other guy you have met.
With Love,
I seem to act like a crazy person when I really like a guy. This is exactly what I needed.
You’re not a “crazy person” Besa, it’s natural for our minds to go a little bonkers when we like someone. It’s just a matter of staying as objective as possible throughout the process.
Hey Adam,
I think I’m a bad closer, I find the conversation side a breeze but maybe it comes off just as friendly instead of flirtatious? How do you make sure you’re striking the right balance and not just sending everyone (as I seem to do accidentally) to the dreaded friendzone?
Hi Sal, I understand. Try stepping up the “touch game” a bit. If you’re talking to a guy you like, lightly touch his fore arm every time you make an important point. Also, smile at him a bit more than any other guys. You need to be willing to “give a few hints” for him to be willing to push it forward. If you treat him like a friend – then he’ll reciprocate. If you treat him differently, and he’s interested…he’ll reciprocate.
Hi Adam, I like a guy and I wanted to ask if it o.k for me to call him? Or is it a big no no?
Sure, call him, but don’t ask him out. Give him a window of opportunity to ask you out. Remember, fun, playful engaging vibe on the phone when you call him.
Thanks, your are the best!
I do two of those things. But because of the ptsd I do them w everyone I meet n cnt stop myself or control it at all. I relly wouldnt call it bragging though cause I jus cnt stop talking period. The get my whole life story. every detail n all I want to do is shut up n crawl into a hole n die of mortification. I know what Im doing is wrong but I cnt stop myself no matter how much I want to. Its messed up. The other one is interupting. My whole life no one ever… Read more »
Story of my life! Whenever I’m around a guy I like my whole personality changes. I notice it immediately after the interaction. Then I’m say to myself, “Why did I do or say that!?!” (With a big palm slap to the forehead). I get so nervous around guys I’m interested in. It’s like I go into a social black hole I can’t get out of. And, the ironic part is..I’m a bartender. I meet and socialize with new people everyday. But, as soon as my crush walks in, I’m done. It’s like I do a complete 360… It’s very frustrating!