Dating a Younger Man? Here are 13 Things You Should Know
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Dating a younger man? It can be fun, especially if you’re 40 or older and figuring out what you want in terms of dating and relationships. But realize: dating a younger man is definitely different from dating a man your age or even older. There will be things you like (his energy) and things that drive you crazy (the fact that he has no clue who Max Headroom is).
Tips for Dating a Younger Man
Some women exclusively date younger men: in fact, 31% of older women prefer dating younger men. Others may try it once or twice and decide that it’s not for them. There’s no telling which way you’ll feel about dating an older man until you have your own experience.
Here are a few of the things you should be aware of if you do.
1. He’ll Have a Different Perspective
Michelle, who’s 40, went on a date with the younger man she was seeing; they went out for a trivia night at a local brewery.
A question about Max Headroom came up.
“Who’s Max Headroom?” her date asked.
“Are you kidding me?” Michelle wondered.
Later, a question about the Care Bears was asked. Again, her date was clueless. Because he wasn’t even born when these ’80s pop culture icons were popular, he had no reference for them.
They went their separate ways not long after. Coincidence? Maybe…
Realize that in dating a much younger man, you won’t share many cultural references. A man four years younger than you, sure, will get much of the same things you do, but one around 10 years younger probably won’t.
And you might not get his either. You might hate the music and movies he’s into. It’s a generational divide, and you need to figure out how important it is to you to share cultural references or not.
2. He May Have a Different Sex Drive
While it’s not a blanket statement, younger men tend to have higher sex drives than men in their 40s, 50s, 60s, or older. In a study published in the Journal of Sex Research, female participants found that younger men (at least 5 years younger than them) had higher sex drives, could last longer during sex, were physically ready to have sex again sooner, and had more reliable erections than men their age.
If you’re coming into your sexual peak at whatever age you are, you are probably finding that men your age aren’t as eager to hop in bed quite as often as you are, which can leave you wanting more.
By dating a younger man, however, you may meet your match.
The opposite could be true too, so be aware of that. If sex has taken a back burner in importance in your life, you may disappoint a younger man who still wants to get it on fairly regularly.
3. He May Never Have Been Married or in a Long Relationship
You were married for 20 years…his longest relationship was six months. It may be jarring to meet someone who’s never had a long-term relationship (even if he hasn’t ever been married), and it’s something to be aware of if you hope that this will turn into something more serious.
If he doesn’t have experience in a longer relationship, he may not know how to make one work. And as you know, real relationships take work. How you treat one another, what you say, and what you do all matter.
You may quickly find that this man doesn’t know how to argue constructively and deal with the real issue at hand rather than screaming at you.
He may want to give up the first time things get tough.
He may have trouble opening up to you.
Or…he may so desperately want this to work out that he tries too hard.
He may be looking for a wife, while you’re not ready to go down that road again.
Just be aware that dating a younger man who doesn’t have the long-term relationship experience that you do may mean that you have to work harder to get to a good place, or that it will be too difficult to find even ground in a relationship together.
4. He May Want Kids
Your kids are nearly grown and you’re not interested in having more. Or maybe you can’t. But then you meet a man—a really great man—who says that he’d like to start a family one day.
Sadly, when only one of you wants to have kids, this can be a real dealbreaker. Realize that neither of you will likely change your mind and that it wouldn’t be fair for one of you to compromise what you want (who wants to have a kid with someone who really doesn’t want one? or give up the dream to have kids?).
If you’re dating a younger man, ask whether he wants kids early so that you can make your exit before things get serious and you both get hurt by breaking up.
5. He May Be More Adventurous and Spontaneous
The women I know who have dated younger men tend to love that these guys are more spontaneous and fun. I know women who were married for decades and rarely went out to eat with their husbands, let alone took a last-minute road trip. But then they started dating a younger man and they found themselves doing all sorts of things they never imagined doing.
Use this opportunity to say yes to more things. The more experiences you have, the more well-rounded you will be!
You may not be into skydiving, but why not let him take you on a day trip to see the flowers bloom in the desert out of town?
Never tried chicken feet? This guy can introduce you to new cuisine and expand your horizons.
If you’re used to planning every inch of your life, use this as an opportunity to let go and live a little.
6. He Might Love You Being in Control
On the other hand, your need to control might be something that attracts him. He may like how in order your life is, and may be fine putting you in charge of making plans…or even in the bedroom.
Just be wary of this: no relationship should be extremely one-sided in terms of who has the power. If you’re attracted to a younger man because you can control him, that’s not a healthy balance for a real and lasting relationship.
7. He May (or May Not) Be Less Emotionally Mature Than You’d Like
If this younger guy has limited relationship experience, and depending on his personality, he might not have the emotional maturity that you do. This isn’t necessarily the case, because there are plenty of men who are more mature than even older women, but it’s a common enough thing that I want you to watch out for it.
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Watch out especially for what I call Peter Pan types. You know the ones. They’ll woo you and then forget to pick you up for a date. They might text like crazy…and then stop texting for days. They have no consideration for your feelings, and are totally self-absorbed.
If you’re on dating sites, you can usually spot a Peter Pan pretty easily. His profile will talk about how into surfing, traveling, hiking, blah blah he is. How his dog is his baby. How he’s not looking for anything serious. And his pictures show that, while he might be incredibly hot, he spends an inordinate amount of time partying.
That’s not the guy for you.
It can be hard to gauge how emotionally mature a younger man is right away, so certainly give this guy a shot. But look for signs that he’s not where you are emotionally, and leave before you get in deeper.
8. He May Not Want a Relationship
While this can be true of a man at any age, depending on what age man you’re dating, you might end up with one (or more) who isn’t ready to settle down.
His reasons for wanting to be single may range from the fact that he just got out of a relationship to just enjoying being footloose and fancy-free. But if you’re looking for The One, this man probably isn’t him, and you won’t be able to change his mind.
Again, have the conversation early on about what each of you are looking for. Many men will put what they want in their dating profiles (“hookups only,” “LTR,” or “looking for a woman to spoil”) so don’t ignore what’s right in front of you. Just don’t tell yourself that you’re okay with something casual if you’re secretly hoping that it will turn into more. That’s just a recipe for heartache.
9. He Probably Prefers Texting to Calling
If you’re dating a Millennial, chances are he’d prefer to text you than to call you. While texting can be incredibly helpful in letting you stay connected to friends, you may find yourself adrift using it as a communication tool in dating.
You can always suggest a phone call, but understand that for many younger men, a “phone” is really just a computer they use to text, post on Snapchat, and read Reddit. So you may make him incredibly uncomfortable in changing his preferred communication channel.
Your best bet is to step up your texting game. Learn how to get to know him in a few short sentences, while saving the bigger conversations for when you go out.
Or…if that just makes you crazy…date an older man!
10. He May Ghost You
Certainly, Millennials don’t hold the trademark on ghosting, but consider that 15% of Millennial men have ghosted a woman. They might want to avoid conflict, feel that you’re getting too clingy, or feel like you don’t live up to your online profile pics. Whatever the reason, it can be incredibly frustrating.
11. He Will Make You Feel Incredibly Sexy
Just like there’s a certain assumption that dating a younger man means you basically have a hot pool boy serving your every need, there’s some cachet on his end as well for dating an older woman.
An older woman (a cougar, even) is seen as sexy and experienced. Younger men may love that you could teach them a thing or two in bed, and that you appreciate everything they do for you, from please you between the sheets to make you feel beautiful and adored.
I don’t see anything wrong with that, do you?
12. He Will Be in a Different Place Careerwise
One thing that can sometimes be a drawback when dating a younger man is that you’re likely going to be in different places in your lives, particularly when it comes to your careers. If you’re in your 40s or 50s, you’ve probably established your professional path and have settled into your field, whereas a guy in his 20s or 30s is just starting on that journey.
It can put pressure on a relationship.
It’s important to accept that you have different goals in your life. If you can do that, then it can work out long-term.
13. You May Be Keenly Aware of the Age Difference
Depending on the age gap between you and this guy, you may become self-conscious about that age difference. It can be particularly awkward when you spend time with his friends who are centered around clubbing or doing other things that you gave up years ago.
You may get looks from people on the street. Frankly, I don’t think you should care what anyone says if you’re into this guy, but if you’re sensitive, just be aware that this might bother you.
Conclusion:
For better or worse, there are plenty of good reasons to try dating a younger guy. It can be a great confidence boost, particularly if you took an emotional blow in a past relationship and are looking for a little amp up in that department.
If you’re open to just casually dating, you might have a blast with a younger man. And it is entirely possible that you could fall in love with one and have a long and happy relationship.
Because, as they say, age ain’t nothin’ but a number. You need to focus on finding the man that is your perfect fit, regardless of his age.
So…have you dated a younger man yet? What was your experience? Share it in the comments below!
Yes I went out with a much younger man got to be his girl friend and got engaged after the year of being with him. On the opposite end , I was more sexual but not him I take care if my self my body and health more than him. I had similar or more energy than him to be adventurous at the same time. We love each other. He said I was his soulmate. The things went wrong because he has a drinking problem and let that affect his job and diabetes problems that he doesn’t care to prevent.… Read more »
Yuck sorry about that
Eish Jacquie
I’m so sorry about that.. hope he realizes his mistakes and correct them especially about his health. We only live once and time wasted never regain…
Yes at 22 to 24 was with my soul mate but he to drank to much remained in bed all weekend till Sunday. I left him at his 38 I went so far as I could I could not change over 20 years of alcohol and drug abuse. When my Dad died he passed away the year befor. So yes once was with tragic man who balmed me I said listen you were drinking years befor we met and will be drinking years after I leave. I always felt guilt as I so wanted to marry bbbbut listen I know… Read more »
Don’t marry a toxic guy .. you will baby sit him and that’s not a good deal. Idc
Yes I am 6 1/2 years older than my ex. We had a rocky 10 months together. Would have fun together and the sex was great, but I wanted more and we fought a lot. Also a few factors came into play. I have two kids, I can’t give him children and he was hung up on the age difference. He never wanted to fully commit (become a step-dad and/or my official boyfriend) although his actions (the amount of time we spent together) indicated otherwise. I found him to be very narcissistic and, while I do still see him casually… Read more »
Hi Jeanette I relate to what you saying… sometimes we get to be confused by the GOOD SEX and end up catching feelings though we are aware that this relationship is going no were. If you truly want to get over him then I’ll advise you to end the FWB relationship with him, cause if you continue with it, it’s gonna affect your current relationship. Learn to accept what you have and try to get satisfaction out of it. I know it sounds impossible but that’s the truth. Remember what you focus on expand, so the Choice is yours now.… Read more »
I stopped reading at “narcissist”. Get away from a man that is younger than you and has this personality disorder. The new younger generation are all pretty much afflicted by it. Your FWB is a sexual addiction. End it asap and focus on the new guy. Remember, you are getting older and losing precious time. Don’t waste any more of your time with a guy like the narcissist. They need to make their mistakes and grow up. All you need to do is get out of his way.
I am 40 and got divorced nearly a year ago. I started out by dating men my own age, but found many had let themselves go or were very set in their own ways. As I wasn’t really ready for anything serious right after my divorce, I figured I might as well have some fun and date younger men. I started out by dating some handsome men in their early 30’ies. I was very surprised by the quality of the younger guys that wanted to date me and that most of them were actually wanting something more serious once we’d… Read more »
I too just got out of a 17 year relationship and took a year for myself to grieve and grow. Today I’m happily dating a gorgeous 32 year old man. He’s a real man! Such a old soul. He is incredibly perceptive to all my “ requests and needs”. He is a great communicator and we both are willing to work out our differences. He keeps me in check, sets healthy boundaries which I need and unlike my ex husband doesn’t let me push him or boss him around. He is a very attentive man, although I’m pretty sure I… Read more »
That’s so awesome! Congrats ♥️
Please, there’s no way you look like you’re in your 20’s but the self embellishment only detracts from the veracity of your story. You’re playing into a stereotype and it also sounds like you’re a bit immature for your age, which is another affliction of divorced women in their 40’s. They think they’re getting a new lease on life but as soon as the 25 yr olds friends and family get a whiff of Mrs. Robinson, he’ll trade you in for someone more age appropriate and you’ll be 5 yrs older and your sexual market value will have depreciated by… Read more »
Again…if you were talking to a guy who was dating a younger woman, would this be your attitude, or would you be high-fiving him and saying HE must be a “high value” man if he could get a younger woman…?? Your bias and double standard eliminate your credibility.
Woww!! Brilliant..Please pray for me that I get this younger guy I am seeing turns out to be serious and long term..God Willing…Again it is the confidence, not looking my age at all…lol, good career and daily habits which has driven him crazy for me..and my forgiving nature for his silly comments at times..Amen!!
Silly comments
I fell in love with a younger man and I can say he is the love of my life. He is 4 years younger then me and he is the most fascinating man I have ever met. He is a deep thinker, very profound and does not like hook-ups or anything that would waste his time. He is so involved in his personal development that its a wonder to watch him become even more of what he is. Looking back at guys my own age or older, I had never ever felt anything of the things you mentioned, Adam. The… Read more »
I am a 58 year old widow, married for 32 years and have found myself in a surprising relationship with a man who is 23. I wasn’t hunting, especially for that, I don’t love the term Cougar. He was the pursuer and was a relentless one somehow knowing the exact combination to what I thought was a locked room. I caved and it was terribly exciting, I hadn’t ever felt that way before in any of my relationships. He called it friends with benefits and I didn’t like that but neither of us really knew what to make of the… Read more »
Thank you for your letter. I am a 59 year old woman and have a 29 year old who is interested. I have been very cautious and not crossing over the “friend line”. Thank you for giving me the courage.
Hi is nice to hear this stories I’m 54 year old in a relationship with a 29 year old and ask myself. How crazy I am. I was married for 34 year old and gave myself a year date it older guys but nothing really was happening I was not looking for a 29 year old when I have a kids older then him but jut happen .
Don’t do it and show some dignity for godsake. It will end in humiliation and self hatred when he leaves you at 65 for someone 35. Seriously what is wrong with women, this media BS has rotted your brains. Your sexual market value is near lot value – don’t you want to grow old with someone kind and interesting? Is being cat-lady and Netflix a better outcome at 70? No forethought, no critical thinking – just the “here and now”. No wonder the government can control civil society with a virus for 2.5 yrs.
Hmm…I wonder if this would be your advice to a man if he was with a younger woman…?? When you use expressions like “sexual market value”, you are tipping your hand. And it’s kind of funny to read your derogatory comments, because obviously her SMV isn’t “lot value” to younger men…only bitter older ones. No wonder women are willing to take the risk.
They are MISERABLE these days. Men are no fun and if they are fun.. they have a drug problem or mental illness .. I’m looking for someone who has not been married or has any children. Minus a drug problem/porn problem. Slim pickings! Signed
Dating College Men @ 50
This is very harsh, but unfortunately a harsh truth. I learned my lesson. I’m 44. Thank goodness I did.
Sometimes we don’t want someone to hold up a mirror, because it is painful.
Maybe this could have been said in a less ” troll” tone, but that’s just as harsh as the disillusionment that’s about to hit
I have more faith in the modern woman .. I feel that they are will prepared and just want some real fun and proper sex in their life.
Not even younger women like older men either!!
I lovvve this! I too am 58 and just met the sweetest 25 year old man! He’s long distance and only texts, so it’s going to be a challenge but I could totally see myself with this ball of sweetness!
Gardez les choses en perspective et PROFITEZ-EN!
Thank you, I am 49 and being chased by my friends, 23 yr old son. I met him nearly a year ago and in the last few months, we have become close friends ourselves. I thought, he was just a flirt and teasing me. In the last month, he’s told me he has feeling for me. I can’t lie, I have them for him. He’s told he thought of getting fixed in the past, having one special needs child, from DNA defect in his side. We have lots in common, from religion, music, ideals… It’s the age and being close… Read more »
I have been feeling very strange…I’ve been having this weird relationship with a guy..I think he’s 27..not sure..I’m 52..I didn’t pursue him..he pursued me..and he is my friends son
And she doesn’t know..I feel really guilty…but not sure what to do about it..should I end it??it’s really really intense.
Like almost too much… please give me some advice
Whats the update, Sandy? Curious minds (me) want to know.
I would say end it. If you have to hide it for long then that’s not good. But, who knows! Sounds like alot of fun! Temporarily.
Get out of Pandoras Box NOW
Yes you need their support and if not support .. do not lie or hide anything from them.
This is what I was looking for. I am 60 and had a 32 year old take an interest. I was not even aware that he was interested. He pursued me hard. Its only been a week but wow..The energy. I had been single since my divorce 16 years ago so I wanted to see if this was real or okay. Thank you all for sharing your experiences. It helps me so much.
Dalia, you go girl, and if you guys are still together, I, for one, am very happy for you. There is a guy much younger than I, we are both Gemini, so much in common, yes, we have been to bed 2 x’s, his suggestion, but sooo fabulous. Now, we are friends only, my suggestion, we have so much fun, hanging out, no strings. Congrats!
Wouldn’t kids be easier. Just tragic honestly – 58 and 23.
Do you think you’re some sort of social media crusader or something? You seem to be responding to everyone in the most mean ways. This platform is not for you. No man or woman would ever want to put up with your shit. And you will always be alone because of it.
His probably so miserable, old and unhappy with his life. I am 43 and going out with a 21 year old that makes me feel better then my ex-husband of 5 years We have the best time and fun
That’s wonderful, Mary. I’m married to a man much younger than me. My husband is also 21, I’m 62. 41 years is a huge gap, but we don’t care. He acts very mature for his age, and I can’t stress enough on how handsome he is. Our love for each other is strong as we continue growing even closer, and we are compatible in every way. I love him so much, more than anything. We’ve been married for two years. He wanted us to have a baby. I do anything for my husband, even giving him what I desires, because… Read more »
Wow, that’s great. Nothing wrong with the age gap, and nothing wrong with having a child. I’m on the same boat with my wife, a woman who is very much older than me. I went on a dating app for older women and younger men relationships, and that was how I met her. She was a 62-year-old divorcee who immigrated from Thailand long ago and mother of four grownup kids, and I was 20. Very beautiful in her old age, in good shape, and highly experienced sexually. Our first night together was amazing. We’ve been married for 13 years now,… Read more »
Lucky you! It looks like a match made in heaven. He’s a keeper.
I have been approached by a younger man, he’s 32 and I’m 65! He seems very interested but he doesn’t follow up on his promises, he sometimes doesn’t text me for a couple of weeks. So, a typical millennial.
I’m going to put a stop to it because this is not the way to go about it.
I have had casual sex with younger men and thoroughly enjoyed it, they have so much energy and stamina. Give me a younger man anytime!
SMILES
I’m 53 and would love to meet you.
Very interesting also happened to me
That’s wonderful , I’m happy for you. unfortunately the younger guy I was with, turned out just to be a fling since he liked to date several women at one time, and I am way past that phase of my life , although I still think we could’ve been really good together, we had a lot in common we live next-door to each other and we get along really well . Best of luck to you.
That’s wonderful , I’m happy for you. unfortunately the younger guy I was with, turned out just to be a fling since he liked to date several women at one time, and I am way past that phase of my life , although I still think we could’ve been really good together, we had a lot in common we live next-door to each other and we get along really well . Best of luck to you.
Very nice!
I’ve recently dated a younger guy – 24 and I am 39! Lol I never expected it. But I waited for the 4th date to sleep w him. He’s actually more mature for his age. He’s easy going and fun to be around, he’s very sweet and complimentary. But I found myself Borden pretty quickly – we aren’t the most compatible in bed, and I have realized that I need that mental connection to really get into the sex. He does talk about wanting kids which I will not have any more kids for anyone, so I know it’s not… Read more »
after reading this from today i will never feel guilty about dating this man. I am 47 and he is 31. we have been dating for 5 months. he makes me feel so good. as it is my first time to date a young man i dont even regret it. he works and he is very supportive.
wow…same age difference with my guy….just dating 2 months…and althought we have steemy make out sessions….no intercourse yet….he wants it to be special….
Same here. He offered a non-commitment at the beginning. I was hesitant at first, but our relationship is the healthiest compared to my past same-age ex-boyfriends. Same with him. This month, August, our first year, he opened up; he is thinking about moving to the next level(an actual committed relationship). I told him if we both have doubts, then we should not move up to this level. Brief background, I know his family. I have been matched with his cousins my age and even his dad and uncle. His family is matching him with girls his age. In short, we… Read more »
I’m 47 as well. My fiancé is 19, and we have a daughter four months old. Yes, we had sex when he was 18 and I got pregnant. No regrets, we love each other. He’s been living with me ever since. We want to get married and have another child. He makes me feel so alive. I’ve never been in a relationship before nor had children, until I met this beautiful young man. I love him more than anything, and I’m so excited that I’m going to be his wife.
I’m 48, my boyfriend is 18. I’ve been seeing him for four months, and I’ve been harboring feelings for him since. Last week, I finally had the courage to tell him that I love him. We are lovers now. Having him in my bed has been wonderful. We’re trying to have a baby. He’s going to ask me to marry him, I know it. He is the sweetest, most decent, and very attractive young man I’ve ever known. I would love to have him as my husband.
I dated a gorgeous guy 11 years younger than me (25 vs 36) for a couple of months. At first he was super into me, acted like we were together, took me to hang out with his friends, acted like he adored me and you could see he tried to act more mature to be more on my level. Eventually I moved away but wanted to try to see him long distance until we decided what to do next. He was adamant he did not want it, and when we broke up, he said things such as “I never considered… Read more »
“I want to date someone my age because then we can have kids when we are older together.” Given that the University of St. Andrews and Edinburgh University in Scotland found that women have lost 90 percent of their eggs by the time they are 30 years old, and only have about 3 percent remaining by the time they are 40, it sounds like a terrible excuse on his part to break up with you. Honestly, I’m 34, divorced, and -being that I want to have a family- I would prefer to date someone in in her late-early to mid-20s,… Read more »
Wow! These comments are exactly what I needed for the conformation to proceed with this young handsome 28 year old I just met. I am 42 and he has been that breath of fresh air that I needed. I was opposed to it at first because he is so close in age to my son that it felt weird. They even share the exact birth date. Well it’s pretty fresh so we will she how it goes but I am going to let my guard down, have fun and just enjoy it.
I am 47 and just started a fling with a 27 year old, just a few years older than my own kids. I was tired of being approached by married men my own age who assumed that because I am single I would be desperate for their lame attention. After reading this and these comments I don’t feel guilty or strange to be doing this. As long as we are mutually benefitting from this relationship then we’ll continue it. I don’t see myself ever actively looking for a relationship with a man who isn’t younger at this point.
All these stories are so inspiring! I’m seeing a man 6 years younger (54 v 48), but we are exactly in the same stage, that the age seems a formality only. We have children the same age, we were married in our first marriages at exactly the same year. The sex is atmospheric! I’ve dated other guys my age or older and they can’t keep up. So, I do think that you are both in the same “life stage” is important. That said, a lot of guys are not interested in kids, so the fact that the pressure is off… Read more »
I am actually living with a younger, much younger man. I am 53 and he’s 29. We could not be more compatible on so many planes. I am very much live and let live, vibrant, full of energy, more than he does ahahahah. My sex drive is slightly higher than his but it’s all good. We love the same movies, music, I am a fitness instsructor so the stuff he used to listen to when he was younger is stuff I would use for my fitness classes, great stuff!!! WE are both fitness nuts and very much into healthy eating… Read more »
Nice to hear that I’m In the same situation we have a lot of things we like but the hanging around with his friend drinking and getting. High is a little to much for me I do sometimes but not in a every day or weekends basis we workout together and he is my soulmate. You
That’s awesome! A positive perspective to read. I’m fresh out if a 19 year relationship with a younger man (46 v’s 37). We have two beautiful children: 15 & 4 years old. I was pregnant at 41! Sadly, we grew apart. His desire to party grew as the family responsibilities grew. He holidayed abroad each year my son has lived, with mates from the pub. On our first family holiday- a campsite in Dorset – he worked the first two days. He felt he had to grow up too quickly, and acted this out each weekend and, the last two… Read more »
I have been dating this 10years younger man for 6months now(43v33)i met him while in a divorce process&he has been supportive since…he chat with me almost everyday to check on me…Yes we spoke about our differences as i already have kids&he has none…We agreed that he can have kids but our relationship we still go on cause the chemistry is too high between us.
Yes there are challenges there&there but we always have solutions for them but up to so far he makes me feel young&happy everyday.
I met one of my daughter’s flings on messenger. He was heart broken because she never answered his text after “using” him. I had issues with my daughter because of her life style and the stupid decisions that she makes. She is dating a looser and I actually was trying to get my daughter to date this guy instead. That did not work out to my advantage lol . Everything started because of that. After a couple of dates he told me that he was interested, and even thought my thoughts and principles were against it, I caved in. The… Read more »
Hi, i have been struggling with the age difference i have with the man i see. I am 29 and he is 24. We are a perfect match in how we want to spend our time together, we respect that each of us needs some time to himself, we have the same sense of humor, but i am in that age that i want to find a man that i can see a future life with him you know. And i am not sure that a 24-year-old can do that. We discussed this openly, he said that he does see… Read more »
I’m in the exact same position and the age difference is very similar me 29 and he is 23. We are compatible in so many ways but I can’t help but feel that we are at different stages in our lives. At times it’s the intellectual conversations that I’ve also really missed but aside from that it’s more about settling down that I’m unsure about. We do speak about the future but financially I’m not sure how realistic that is at this point. How long have you dated for?
well I am 64 years young and my husband just left in january of 2019. I was so devistated and very heart broken after 27 years of marriage .checking out dating sites . I started After going thru some some really bad dates I started talking to this 27 year old. We hit it off pretty well , we did the video chat thing and talked on the phone a few times. I thought he was so handsome and very interesting. Hes eygptian and has a very sexy accent . Hes a workaholic and very dedicated to his job. We… Read more »
There is nothing wrong with dating a younger man. I’ve always loved dating older women. I’m a bit concerned about you though, long distance relations almost never work because both of you never get to experience your weaknesses and flaws, talking about them is never the same as experiencing the real him. Please be careful, I have been there and it’s NOT fun.
I’m 36 and was soooo over men. . .a quick G&T on my way home and I found myself in the arms of a 20 yr old Gentlemen. Goodness knows, I think our ages are reversed! Im the social butterfly & as likeable as he is, prefers privacy…my sex drive out ways his by far although he makes me feel like the most beautiful woman by just looking at me (guess he thought me something…when sexy butterfly in the stomach times fades, what is left?? FRIENDSHIP!) At the end of the day…isnt that truly what makes every relationship lasts? He… Read more »
How do you find out the age of the guy I’m interested in? I see him every day, great personality, fun and handsome. He gave me his work number and personal number which he said is right by his ear! Help! I’ve been divorced and want love and fun times.
Google, Facebook, LinkedIn.
Not sure it matters, go out with him.
The 23 year old I met has an amazing ability to make me feel special. He is tentative, and kind. Why didn’t I look for men like this when I was younger?
I have a younger man of 22 years younger and he is well, he is gorgeous, eyes that are hypnotic, and he just told me at some point, “I have never known anyone like YOU!” There were signs tho’ that put this relationship on a hold. He was not educated as I am. Experience, et al. Yes, he was gorgeous. But he kept pointing out how educated I was and he was a high school drop out. Damn. He was absolutely so handsome and so young and I do not know why he spurred on something “hormonal” in me –… Read more »
Sweet heavenly
I am 66 and in a LT/LD with a 50 yo. He is an old soul and we match so well. The age doesnt bother me anymore. It did at first until we met and spent time together. We live less than 3 hours apart and I only work 3 days a week so we have lots of time together. We like each other so much and our connection is spot Fn on. SO if you are dating a younger man…………keep it real. That is what they want. I have looked for this guy my whole life. Good luck to… Read more »
Hi I am 66 and was just wondering if it would be ok. I lost my husband of 34 yrs in July and my mother recently. I am very attracted to the Funeral Director who is 53. He gave me some signs and told me we”ll be in touch. At the time I didn’t respond because I am still grieving. I hope it works out.
I was dating a guy 22 years younger at first the age difference bothered me but not him. After almost 5 years being together we broke up and he’s dating a younger girl and said he didn’t feel comfortable being sexual with me because of our age difference. He has a right to feel that way but he talks like I shouldn’t be interested in sex anymore because I’m almost 50. That part I don’t agree with. If he’s not into me because I’m older that’s fine but don’t talk to me like I’m dead sexually because of my age.… Read more »
Dated man 19 years younger.lasted 8 years, but I stopped bc he was going to take a job distance away and i did not want to move. Dating man 6 years my jr. Seems better.
i dated a younger man 8 years to be precise. we now have a 2 year old together but he is still very immature. he only wants to party all the time but he loves his son. i left him a few months back, now ive only just met another guy and he is also 8 years younger. im torn between trying and being scared of wasting my time.
I got divorced in 2011, started working out, felt great about myself and started a new job. I met a young man(20) at work, at first we were just hanging out. He was into working out, so we had that in common. We would spend so much time together and eventually started dating. This year we celebrated 9 years together. He’s 29 and I’m 50. He’s a great man, he’s very goal oriented and dedicated. He’s not from the US, he moved to this country with huge goals of getting a PhD, having a career and a family. He want’s… Read more »
I’m Czech, and my husband is American. I met and dated him for three months when I was 56 and he was 18, then we married. My first husband died twelve years before, and I felt so alone until I met this innocent handsome young man. We fell in love within a short amount of time. He is so mature for his age, and he always remembers to say “I love you”. He makes love to me so slow and gentle, and the way he kisses me is so breathtaking. We have been married for eight years. Now I am… Read more »
Hi! And Happy New Year!! I just met my 38 yr old guy the last week of December 2021!! I am 59 yr old female and a retired widow. He is a Marine, divorced with a 5yr old daughter. We fit perfectly in what we want as a couple who loves living alone but does want companionship now and then in our dating life. For me this is a dream come true like in the movie an Officer and a Gentleman! I am so happy! Thanks for these blog type articles, they have and continue to help me.
I’m really glad I came across this blog. I was married for 40 years and now widowed (62). I never sought for a relationship with anyone. In December 2021 a young man (25) began pursuing me. Neither of us knew one another’s age. It started out as friendship but evolved in to what it is now (May 2022) which is a full blow intense relationship of deep love, respect, caring, thoughtfulness and generosity—but so much more. Age was never a discussion until a few months ago when he asked me to consider marriage one day. That’s when things shifted and… Read more »
i am a 60 year old widow and when this 37 year old man tried to pursue me fervently i shut him down because i just think the age difference is too big and question whether he is interested in seeking an easier life with an older woman with assets .But after reading so many messages from all you older women happy with younger men i wonder if i was too harsh???
When I was 43, I met my husband. He was 21. I’m from the States, he’s from India. We first met online and chatted for months, until one day I flew to India to marry him. I never imagined that I would fall in love with someone younger than me. That was seven years ago. We are still married and have three kids. He is stepfather to my two kids from my previous marriage. Now, I’m 50 and he’s 28, so young and so full of energy. I’m now pregnant again with our fourth baby.
After being married for almost 13 years, divorced him, and then living with someone for 25 years, he had cancer, now, I have been widowed for more than 2 years. I am very happy to say, yes, I have dated someone younger than I, he just would not leave me alone, lol. We are both Gemini, so much in common, the sex fabulous we don’t see each other, but we are still friends. I have tried meeting dating guys in my age range, but they are “old” the one guy wore Velcro shoes and his cap pulled down too far… Read more »
I don’t ever let society’s norms bother me. If people are bothered by me having such a young husband and children young enough to be my grandchildren, their grief is not my problem. I love very young men. Something about them just turns me on. I developed an interest in young men ages 18 and 19 when I was 45. I began dating and having good sex with 18 and 19-year-olds for fifteen years no matter how much older I’ve gotten. I ended up marrying the last one. He was 18 when we started dating, and I was 60. We… Read more »
omo that one na child abuse o, I like younger men too but aah aah chill
Sexism is not allowed on this platform.
How is it child abuse? By law, they’re both adults.
I’ve now started I am soon to be 38 and he is 27! Doing lots of video calling etc… I am fearful of the age gap, but for now I would take things slowly and see how it goes…. Ps I am always blushing and smiling, guess its the beginning phase lol
I’m married to a man 15 years younger than me. He is so cute. I first met him when he was 18, I was 33. He was so shy as he found me to be so attractive. And he was so adorable that I immediately fell for him. After our first two dates, we kissed and made love, he was not so shy anymore. He told me he loved me, and we became a pair. One month later, I became pregnant with our first child. Two years after that was when we got married, I became pregnant again. We have… Read more »
I’m 49, my husband is 31. I once said that I would never marry a man younger than me, but then I met my handsome young husband. I started dating him when he was 18, and then we married two years later. He is certainly more mature than my ex-husband, and he is so good to my son, who was 3 at the time. I even got a warm welcome from his mother, who is five years older than me, and was accepted into his family, even becoming good friends with her. My young man and I now have five… Read more »
Before my first husband died, I gave birth to my son and daughter. They are now grown up, married and have kids of their own. Five years after he died, I met my current husband. I was 51 at the time, and he was 21. He’s white, and I’m black. We had only known each other for a short amount of time, immediately fell in love and had sex after our first date. When he asked me if I wanted to have his baby, I said yes. I was so excited that I was in tears. I wanted to be… Read more »
Im 39 turning 40 my man just turned 25. He is the most loving and supportive man ive ever been with on our good days. He priorities me and shows me off to all his family and friends. I’ve never been with a man who has ever made me feel like I belong to a family as much as he has. We get loads of criticism from society all the time but we have gotten used to it and joke about it now. He has no children of his own while I’m raising two boys one of them is a… Read more »
That’s wonderful, Bee. I’m 42, and my husband turned 25 last week. We’ve been married for six years now, yes he was 19 at the time and I was 36. He is such a sweet young man, and I’m loved by his family. We have three kids, and I’m currently pregnant with our fourth child, which will be my sixth because I have two kids from my previous marriage.
I am over 60, who just started into a relationship with a good friend of four years who is 46. We just have so much in common. Both of us sing and perform and we love camping. He finally told me a few months ago that he had liked me since meeting me. Somehow he assumed I was around 55 and as of yet hasn’t asked me exactly how old I am. I will not lie to him when and if he asks me. He is extremely intelligent and talks all the time that we are together. I totally love… Read more »
I am 37 years old and my closest guy friend just happens to be turning 23 this coming week. Am I wrong for having strong feelings for him? We’ve known each other for the past year and a half and have grown quite close. I have two children already who are 9 and 12 and he wants kids one day. I am not opposed to more children but am worried I am too old for him? Him and I think in a very similar way since both of us have ADHD and we have a very similar sense of humour.… Read more »
Years ago, I never thought that I would fall in love with someone younger than me. I met a coworker of mine, 22 years old, and he is so sexy. That body of his! I immediately had a crush on him. I was 46. I had fallen in love with him and had sexual fantasies about him but was too afraid to approach him because I was worried about our age gap. I’m old enough to be his mother! One year later, a lady friend of mine convinced me to go for it. So I did. I asked him out… Read more »
I’ve been dating a man 15 years my junior for a few months. It’s been awesome. We both have busy lives, but find time together daily. Went to a Queen Tribute concert last night with my Beau, my brother in our REC center. We danced and sang. Then he came home with me. I feel happy and desired.