Dating an Older Man: Pros, Cons, + Advice For The Modern Woman
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I know a lot of women who prefer dating an older man. Remember when you were a teen and your mom said that girls were two years more mature than guys the same age?
Whether you believed it then or not, dating in your 40s or older reveals that dating an older man can have perks over dating a younger man.
The good news is: 60% of men are attracted to younger women, so you’re a hot commodity for anyone older, whether that’s two years older or, if you’re into it, 20.
Dating an older man can have some pretty great benefits. There are also, however, some drawbacks to be aware of. Let’s look at both so you can decide whether dating an older man is appealing to you or not.
Pros to Dating an Older Man
You’ve dated your share of men your age…and even younger. Clearly, you haven’t found what you’re looking for yet, so why not go with someone older and more wiser? While all of these won’t be true of every older man (after all, many suffer from Peter Pan syndrome), as a whole, you’re going to realize more of these benefits with an older man.
1. He’s Financially Stable
An older man is past the early-20s “what am I doing with my life” phase. There’s a good chance he’s midway in his career, and therefore at least somewhat financially stable.
Being financially stable isn’t about making $300k a year. It’s about being smart with his money. Maybe investing it or buying a house. It basically is the opposite of being broke, which is a libido-killer for most women.
It’s nice to date a man who can afford to pay for dinner.
Whose car doesn’t break down in front of your house…
Who has more than one shirt…
Who could afford to take a spontaneous weekend getaway with you…
There’s appeal in that, and you can’t always find it with a younger guy who’s still struggling to find his foothold in his career.
2. He Doesn’t Play Games
He’s already played games in his 20s…and he’s over it.
A young man doesn’t know what he wants, and so he plays those cat-and-mouse games we all hate. An older man, especially one who’s already been married once, knows what he wants. If he’s ready for a long-term relationship, he’ll make it known. You won’t wonder. He’s not out to waste time; he wants to know within a few dates whether you have potential or not.
Now, I’m not saying every older man is ready to settle down again. Plenty want to continue to play the field. But they’ll be more upfront about it if they’re older. At least then you know immediately whether you want to pursue something with him or not, based on whether your goals are aligned.
3. He Has More Confidence
An older man is more likely to be sure of himself and what he wants.
Chalk it up to older men having more life experience: they tend to be more confident. They’ve been around the block: sexually, financially, career-wise, and in love. They’re not timid about sharing their opinions. They carry themselves with a cocksure attitude that you find appealing.
If you’ve dated younger guys that were wimpy and lacked confidence, it’s understandable you’d consider dating an older man. That take-charge attitude and the desire to take care of his woman is plenty appealing.
4. Jealousy Takes a Backseat
Younger guys tend to be jealous at the drop of a hat.
“Dude. That bank teller was totally checking you out. WTF?”
It’s yawn-inducing, I know. But how nice is it to be with a man who knows that, from time to time, another man will admire his lady…and not freak out about it?
It goes back to that confidence thing. He’s assured of what he has (including you) and isn’t threatened by another man.
5. His Status is Appealing
Some critics of women dating older men say they do so because they have “daddy issues,” but a recent study proved otherwise. Here’s what it said:
“…it is evolutionarily beneficial for women to seek older mates, and that there will be no significant difference in attachment styles between women in age-gap versus similar-age relationships.”
What this means is that it’s an evolutionary pattern that women are drawn to older men, in part because of their status and resources.
Think about it. If you were pumping gas and a gorgeous Lamborghini/Tesla/Porsche pulled up next to you with a good-looking older man in it, wouldn’t you do a double-take?
Don’t you find photos of men speaking on stage on dating apps appealing?
When you find out a guy you just met is a doctor, doesn’t your mouth water?
These are all status indicators, and they’re part of the attraction factor. It’s completely natural for you to be drawn to a man because of his status. It subtly communicates to you that he can take care of you, and that life with him would be fun!
6. He’s Mature
Dating a mature man may be a relief for you!
While most of the above benefits of dating an older man fall under the “he’s just more mature” category, it’s worth pointing out additional perks of dating a mature man.
He has his sh*t together, first and foremost. He’s likely been in at least one long-term relationship, so he knows how to give to his partner and compromise when necessary. A mature man isn’t in the middle of an identity crisis. He knows who he is and what he wants, and he isn’t shy about communicating that.
7. Communication Comes Easily
Speaking of communication, there’s a better chance that an older guy will be a better communicator than a younger one. Again, if he’s been in at least one long-term relationship, the subject of communication more than likely came up, so hopefully, he’s learned how to express himself in constructive ways that will make him a good partner.
Dating an older man may surprise you: he may be a better listener than anyone younger that you’ve been with. And if you prefer talking on the phone to texting, there’s a good chance he does too.
8. Baby Time May Be Over
If you’ve already had kids in your past relationship or don’t want any in the future, dating an older man is a good path for you, because it’s less likely that he’s interested in having (more) kids. He may even have grown children, which may be easier to deal with if you get serious and end up living together or married (you’re not the wicked stepmother to small children).
Having a relationship with an older man without the focus being on raising children gives you the ability to really bond and connect with no distractions.
Cons to Dating an Older Man
Dating an older man may have drawbacks.
Every man is different, regardless of his age. But these are a few things to be aware of if you consider dating an older man.
1. He Might Be a Bit Controlling
Because older men usually know what they want, they can have a strong need to control a situation…and also you.
The older we get, the more set in our ways we are. It goes both ways. But you’ve both got to be able to compromise in order to make a relationship work.
If, when you start dating an older guy, you immediately get the sense that he’s controlling, walk away. You need a man who will let you be you and won’t try to change you.
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2. Life May Be Less Exciting
The last guy you dated took you to parties. You went out for dinner or drinks often.
This older guy wants to stay home every night of the week.
He’s already had his party years. He’s done going out and being social. So you’re left…yawning.
While it depends on the person, you may find that an older man prefers his routines and may not be as keen to go out. If it’s important to you to have an active social life, dating an older man may not be for you.
3. He Might Want To Settle Down Too Fast
An older man may be overeager to settle down.
Like I said in the pro section: older men know what they want. If this one is looking for a long-term relationship, he might move a little fast for your tastes.
If…
…on the first date, he asks your ring size…
…he starts shopping for a house for the two of you early on…
…he tells you he loves you after only a few dates…
…you need to pump the breaks. You likely want a serious relationship too, but you know you can’t rush it. If it’s meant to be with this guy, it will happen. Speeding into becoming an established couple never works.
4. People Think You Have Daddy Issues
Here’s an interesting fact: 20% of men getting married the second time around marry someone who is 10 years or more younger than them. If the age difference between you two is significant, expect some raised eyebrows and negative opinions.
Many people feel that women who date significantly older men are looking for a substitute for their father. Maybe they had a bad relationship with their dads or maybe he was absent while they grew up. Even if this isn’t the case for you, realize that there are a lot of opinions out there about women who date much older men (far fewer opinions about the men in those relationships, which is totally unfair), so be prepared to deal with it.
5. You May Feel Immature
Among your friends, you are the mature one. They turn to you for advice, and you’ve got a level head on your shoulders.
But when you date a much older guy, you may feel like a baby. He’s lived so much more life than you. He’s had more experiences. And if he makes you feel that way, you’ll struggle all the more.
You want a man you can learn from, regardless of his age. Just make sure he’s not taking on the role of your teacher without you wanting him to be.
6. You May Not Get Along with His Friends
His friends may give you the cold shoulder.
This man may be head over heels for you, so he’s willing to compromise on the differences that your ages create. But his friends are another story altogether. They may not understand why he’s dating you and may give you the cold shoulder. It may be challenging to get them to take you seriously. If he’s worth it, you’ll put in the effort, but realize they may never accept you fully.
7. He May Not Be in Shape
Certainly, there are many older men who take care of their bodies, but if you’ve only dated younger men, you may not even know what an older guy’s body looks like. It may, quite honestly, turn you off.
You may have a meeting of the minds with this man, but are you physically attracted to him as well? It takes both for a well-rounded relationship.
Advice on Dating an Older Man
Dating an older man brings you new perspective.
If you do decide to date an older guy, realize that the experience will be different from any past relationship. But 56% of women (who prefer dating older men) clearly have figured out how to get the most out of a relationship with an older guy, so take the following advice to heart to make this relationship successful.
Be Prepared for a Bumpy Road with Friends and Family
I touched on this a minute ago, but things may be challenging as he introduces you to the people who matter to him. They may assume he’s just having a fling with a younger woman, and may not be ready to accept that you two are long-term.
Be patient. It will take time for his friends and family to accept you. Be gracious when you’re with them, and do your best to engage them in conversations to show that you’re interested in developing a relationship with them.
Don’t Be a Trophy
While this isn’t necessarily going to happen to you, realize that some men date younger women as a sort of trophy. It makes them feel powerful and desired if they can snag a much younger woman.
You don’t want to be part of that. If you date an older guy, it’s not because he’s older that you’re attracted to him, but because he’s got a great personality, etc.
If he starts parading you around like food on a platter, that’s a red flag that he’s not into you because of who you are.
If He Has Children, Love Them
Maybe you never planned to have kids and now you’re with an older man who has them. If you’re serious about him, the kids are part of the package, so it will serve your relationship well if you put effort into getting to know them and having a relationship with them.
Depending on the kids’ ages and personalities, they may take a while to warm up to you. Give it time. Don’t try to be a second mother to them, but a friend. Find opportunities to spend time with them on your own and do things they’re interested in. He’ll take notice and fall even harder for you!
Don’t Make Jokes About His Age
Just like you don’t like being called a baby because you’re younger, this man doesn’t like it when you make jokes about him being an old man. It’s not cool. If age really doesn’t matter to you, you won’t make an issue of it.
Ask your friends not to make jokes either.
Respect His Past
An older man more than likely has a past that involves at least one major relationship. If he has kids, his ex may still be in his life. Don’t make things worse by acting jealous or bringing up past relationships. You’re with him now; what’s past is past. You want the same mindset from him.
Be Open to What He Can Teach You
A man who’s been around the block a few extra times has a lot to give. He may have hobbies that you’ve never even considered taking up (sailing, anyone?), so if you’re open, you might find new things that you discover you love to do.
He may also have wisdom gleaned from past relationships that can help you be a better partner. So listen and see what you can learn.
Conclusion:
Dating a mature man can enhance your life in many ways.
If you’re sick of dating younger guys, it may be time for something different. Dating an older man will at least give you a new perspective on men and relationships. You may find that you’re different with an older man versus a younger one. Maybe you’re the one who needs control in a relationship with a younger guy, but you find that you really like being taken care of with an older man.
Bottom line is: it doesn’t matter how old the guy you fall for is. He just needs to have the qualities you’re seeking in a partner. He should be kind and loving and meet you in the middle in terms of effort put into a relationship. He should make you feel like a queen.
What’s your experience dating an older man? Love it or hate it? Share your tips in the comments below.
Haa ha, one thing you left out is he is just getting older and older. If he is say, 55 and you are 30 when you are 40, he will be 65 and will be getting older by the minute. Get ready to change his diaper. And sorry most older men are just not very good in bed compared to their younger more and more energetic counterparts who don’t have to take pills to get it up
That’s a terrible remark to make. Did you really have to say that. Horrible. It’s not nice.
Julie, Laura is correct. I am 64 and dating many men over 60. They have all kinds of health issues. My husband died suddenly of a heart attack at 60, on his first day of retirement! I know men who are very caring and kind, but, as my sister said, men this age are looking for a nurse or a purse. Lots of them have had to pay alimony and child support, so aren’t financially well off. Some have huge medical bills. Just be wise.
Brilliant! You covered exactly my thoughts! We are better off with younger men –
less baggage, more passion for life, better health and better looks. They are
more mentally stimulating and less bitter. There are no positives to date an
older man.
Jasmina, you are honest and THE MEN ARE FAR MORE HARSH WITH OLDER WOMEN in their judgments, so….turn about is fair play! I’m 59 with a 72 year old sweet guy…recent widower…pursuing me. But I am wise to this game.
I am dating a 48 year old right now, did not realize his age when we met because he looks so amazing and he can literally make love for hours everyday if I want him to! guess I lucked out
I’m 30, he’s 44, and he has the libido of a 20 year old and can get it up at the drop of a hat. He treats me like a queen, always satisfies me in the bedroom, and can go for multiple sessions. Guess I lucked up too. Did I mention he’s in incredible shape, too?
This makes me feel positive about my relationship just starting out! I’m 37 and he’s 59. Definitely respects me and treats me like a queen, great conversations, makes me laugh, no immaturity! I do worry about as he gets older will I be able to meet his needs if he gets poorly but I’m sure we tackle that if and when it happens? And vice versa
48 it’s not the same as 68 at 68 most men can’t get it up unless they take the blue pill
I have a friend/lover relationship with a 69 year old. He is a physical miracle snd unbelievable stamina. So don’t assume they all need a pill at that age.
Exactly! I met a man who is 72 and in great shape. He swims every day, and swam the English Channel years ago. But, he lied about his age and many other things as well.
Also, sometimes “needing” the blue pill to get it up is mental. Im 41, hes 64 and he used to need the pill in previous relationships. Our open communication and our acceptance of one another, has increase his libido, he no longer needs the pill to perform.
I understand your perception and you may be correct in some or many instances. I don’t know how anyone else experience, but I can tell you my personal story. I’m 47, my girlfriend is 31. When I was young I thought I was an amazing lover, but looking back on it I wasn’t. I didn’t understand the complexity of arousal and how to truly satisfy a woman. Sure, I may have had more energy back then, but it was like a shotgun blast; some hit the target but other parts of the shots missed entirely. Today, I grab all that… Read more »
I totally disagree with this… sex with my older man is beyond some of the best sex I’ve ever had! It’s AMAZING & I can’t get enough of it. I just turned 30 & he’s 50, this has been one of the best experiences of my life
I’m 30, he’s 44, and he has the libido of a 20 year old and can get it up at the drop of a hat. He treats me like a queen, always satisfies me in the bedroom, and can go for multiple sessions. Guess I lucked up too. Did I mention he’s in incredible shape, too?
Completely disagree with Laura. I’m 26 and he is soon to be 61 but damn my man is fine. Not only is he super smart, he is amazing in bed, he happens to be my best friend and mentor. He’s also in great shape, much better shape than me actually. We both have a past and have agreed to respect each other’s pasts. He’s protective and treats me really well. I feel so lucky and wouldn’t ever wanna be apart from him.
it will not last. Seriously, it won’t. Hope you have something more than sex to fall back on.
It seems you just want a man that will fuck life out of you
Really?
Haa ha! Funny thing is…You’re also getting older. I am 41 now and in a woman’s 40’s her body changes dramatically too! What an immature response
Yes, and it seems to be while the 41 year old woman’s body changes, her behavior reverts back to adolescence (woman child). Strange phenomena I’ve seen with a fair share of older women out there.
Daaannng Laura!!!! You haven’t lived I’m 32 and my very handsome stallion is 49… and man, oh man, I am having the time of my LIFE!!!! I workout 4 times a week, in my best shape, and I can’t even keep up. Also, there’s more to life than “getting it up”. You deserve a man that’ll treat you like the queen you are. Be very protective of you and would cross the ocean to lay the world at your feet. Have meaningful conversations. No time for games and shenanigans. The best quality time and sincere endearment.
Enjoy it while it lasts. Can last well into their 50’s but………
My fist thought was that either your experience was with an elderly decrepit man or that you are just jealous and persecuting people. I myself am in great shape and can be attracted to women of my age or older, but I date younger women because we eventually marry who we date. I want to have children, so women between 25 and 33 are the best fully adult range, frontal lobe development and all. Throughout history, there is nothing wrong with it, so people should open their minds, lose their jealousy, mind their own business, and hush. Most younger women… Read more »
Funny I’m 65 and my gf is 20 we have sex about 4x a day when we’re together which is about 2 weeks out of a month
You are a liar.
unless you are hopped up on Viagra
PS…She is not very bright, either.
You love listening to yourself talk, don’t you? You can’t dissuade people from what makes them happy. Don’t even try.
Whatever, Marjorie Taylor Greene.
What about the opposite, a guy dating an older woman?
Wouldn’t that be a different article? For like minded readers, just search for “dating older women”. I swear, those articles already exist.
What about sorting yourself out…as in whats going on with me that i feel this attraction to an older man…n get the healing you need go through thd process find yourself first…than when your active in who you are n become who you are…youll attract the right man for you…he will find you n see and accept you who you are…
I don’t think its a matter of seeking out older men…. but if you happen to meet and connect with an older man like I have, I’m 34 he is 48 and I was leery about the age gap but he is better in bed that most guys I have been with and the most active person I know! when I met I thought he was about 38 or so!
I don’t think its a matter of seeking out older men…. but if you happen to meet and connect with an older man like I have, I was leery about the age gap but he is better in bed that most guys I have been with and the most active person I know! when I met I thought he was about 38 or so!
Sounds like misconception of what’s going on, mixed with Some good advice. You have a presumption there that something must be wrong with a person leaning toward partners outside of their age group, which studies show is vastly not the case with women Or men in that situation.
I haven’t had much luck dating older men. They often shun newer technology; many are jaded about women and hate relationships, and expect you to make all the changes and sacrifices. I am sure there are great men in all age categories but I am such high energy, I just haven’t had luck with older men.
I agree. I have that same issue and imagine he just wants a nurse in his later years.. he has money but really old fashioned . But I think it’s particular to hk.. not all older men may be like that.
Older does not mean they are financially stable, mature, or appreciate a younger woman. I prefer older men and I am still single because of the immaturity.
True. My older counterpart was bankrupt and was out there portraying the opposite. He was looking for someone who could support him. Pls dont date anybody 5 years older!!!! It will ruin your life.
five years, c’mon that is not a big age gap, same generation.
You mean, “Don’t date manipulative people or liars.”
Age or gender has nothing to do with that. My narcissist ex is a perfect example. And 5 years? That’s nothing, like, as good as no difference.
Why did you say so dear?
Thats soo wrong. Because hes like that doesnt mean they all are.
I’ve recently started dating an older man (9yrs older) and see the benefits of it; but not the superficial ones people may expect. I’ve lucked out with finding a man that truly respects me (in all aspects). Communication, Honesty & Trust are also at the forefront of our relationship; which I appreciate even more. Yes, I do recognize those brief moments when our age difference is apparent; but it has never been to the point of feeling inadequate. I’m not the “gold-digger” type; I actually appreciate a man as he is–not what he can “do for me”. And I know… Read more »
Right on Alicia
Similar to Alicia’s comment (from July 14, 2018), I am currently dating a man who is 12 years older than me. And I can tell you that at least in my personal experience, I could care less what kind of car he drives or if he has a fancy ass job. What drew me to him is how kind and loving he is, how much he appreciates me, and the fact that he treats me like an equal. We are completely in-tune with each other on the way we view life. I am tired of people assuming (while it may… Read more »
I can completely relate to your post. We think alike, we don’t need a man to support ourselves. What we look in a man is something that money can not buy and if you find that in a guy young or older then i think you have hit jackpot! My best wishes for you and your couple.
I totally agreed with you. I am dating someone who is 12 years older than me as well. I am a full time student and worker. I got my own everything but want to find someone who is caring, listens, understands, charismatic, make me laugh, be there through the good and bad, talk about anything and everything, and etc. He is someone special to me. We going on strong for 3 1/2 years almost 4 years this fall. We are there for one another through the good and bad. When he needs advice, cheering up, words of encouragement, laugh, and… Read more »
Yesssss! Couldn’t agree more!!
I’m in a relationship with a man thats 26 years older but he doesn’t look his age at all. He has salt and pepper hair but it makes him look distinguished. Anyway, we are great together and he treats me very well. I was always attracted to older men but this is my first time dating one. He is a huge step up from my previous relationship. Everything you listed above is pretty much dead on. As far as the bedroom activity, there hasn’t been a problem yet and he isn’t taking anything to help. I do realized though that… Read more »
What are you’re ages if you don’t mind me asking. I recently decided to give someone a chance to date me however he is 23 years older than me. Initially, I said absolutely not. However, he is so sweet doesn’t look his age and is so different then I’ve ever dated. I do worry about when he ages though.
I’m telling you….the LIKELIHOOD is that you will be his CARETAKER. That’s fine if you have been married for a long time and have a long-standing relationship of a lifetime together, and even then, it is hard. If you just started with him and are saddled with that…well…good luck!
Why don’t you tell us about your personal experience, Jane? Your comments are sounding very personal, like you have a grudge or something. Unless you have personal experience, then quit being a little bitch and shed your tears elsewhere. Not everyone is you. Deal with it.
I am dating a man exactly 26 years older, and I am 44. Cant be more agree with you. He treats me so well.
You say that now, but if diaper-duty and other major caretaker responsibilities ensue…and you are financially responsible to boot…hope you are as enthusiastic about his “treating you well.” That could possibly stop, too. PS…Chances are he WOULD NOT do that for YOU. Blunt, but true. Sorry.
I’m dating a man 9 years older than me. I have a 9-yr old son and he has two teenage kids. It’s been a few years now and we both decided at the very beginning we didn’t want to get married. We have spoken more recently now that maybe down the road it’s a possibility. I can attest that this is the best sex I’ve ever had in my life! We also have had to learn how to communicate with each other because there are some language differences that interfere from time to time, but we work on our relationship… Read more »
I have recently started seeing an older man (he’s 61, I’m 44). From the very first time I set my eyes on this gentleman I was attracted! So far (3 months since meeting, 4 official dates) I have been completely impressed both sexually and mentally. I have experienced a maturity so far that I am completely smitten with. The same age or younger men I have dated have absolutely no respect for women. Highly recommend!
I’m 44 he’s 61 as well! The frank conversations, ability to budget, plan, willingness to listen. He’s great in bed! (My mom’s BF at 82 still gets it up, I don’t know what those other people are talking about) our older men are wonderful. I don’t mind being a caregiver when if the time comes, but…Might be me needs a caregiver first who knows?!
You are very optimistic (and IDEALISTIC), KA707. Your mom’s BF has RX help in all probability. Good for him! If you are saddled with the caregiver responsibility for someone you have been in a short-term relationship with, be ready for some resentment issues if you hang in there. It will NOT be fun. He PROBABLY would not hang around for you if the situation were reversed. Just stating FACTS. (Check me on this!) 61 is not that old…but….it’s a LOT older than 44! And most men in their 50s start having issues. Just be aware. And MEN ARE NOT AS… Read more »
Interested to know…how’s that going for you now…4 years later?
I’m also into a guy at least 3 to 8yrs older than me..I jus feel like they’d understand me more and be more mature ,understanding and more experienced…I believe its easier dating an older guy cause they are more educated as compared to a younger guy…in my opinion dating a younger guy is like raising another child or sth
I’m 27 and dating a man that’s 48. In the beginning we connected so deep and so fast.. For me, I’ve always been bad at relationships and hurt over and over again..he is a breath of fresh air compared to my past relationships..I mean he’s everything to me.. Now we’ve been together a year and a half and things are starting to get serious.. we’re planning on moving in together.. but he is a bit controlling and set in his ways… he definitely doesn’t like to go out.. which is fine cause I’m a home body but sometimes I would… Read more »
RUN! RUN, FORREST, RUN!!! AS FAST AS YOU CAN! Do not pass go, do not collect $200! Run and find someone else.
Get the f out and don’t look back!
Im 45 n my husband is 65 n the sex is amazing n his kids love me n we got married in 3months n i love n accept him n he loves n accept me..The only thing that bothers me is when we met he talked about his ex wife so much i was a bit insecure because i asked him did he miss her cause he constantly brings her up…im wife #4 i always dreamed bout being married so I hope we can grow old together
right. Sorry, but there will probably be a wife #5.
he sounds like he may be a narcissist. Look that up.
Get the f out and don’t look back!
Honestly age is just a number, when two souls come together and connect it’s a magical feeling no matter the age. I’d never been with anyone more than 5 years older and now I’m with a guy 15 years older (I’m 24) and he is so humble and genuine, sex is amazing and there’s no mind games. We respect each other and treat each other as equals, if your attracted to older men then go for it! At the end of the day we just want to be loved. Also communication is key, don’t be afraid to say what’s on… Read more »
Question for ladies dating an older guy: how did you handle/cope/deal with introducing the older guy to your family? Did you get sideway looks and how did you deal with it? Did your family ultimately accept the relationship? Did the weird comments eventually stop? Thank you for sharing!
I’m 61 (been told I don’t look or act it), never married, average Joe, and I’ve been with my very attractive never married girlfriend, age 32, for one year. I met her through my 33 year old niece, who’s her good friend. She told me she was weary of men her age, and their shenanigans, and decided to look at older gentlemen. She has a career, and is self sufficient, but she’s interested in marrying me. I wasn’t looking for a woman, but my niece was persistent in me meeting her friend. Because a woman is older, that’s no guarantee… Read more »
Hello, I’m am 37 currently dating a 55 year old. I’m concerned with him being set in his ways, is more of a homebody, is somewhat insecure of his body, jealous if any man under 55 looks at me, is still pissed that his 28 year old marriage fell apart and he owes alimony for life. He does not like to go out, spends his $ on real estate, is judgmental at times, and most of his free time is spent with his kids that are all in their 30’s now. He recently broke up with some materialistic gold digger… Read more »
Lori, from the sounds of it, you’re not impressed with his behavior and you’re asking permission to break up with him. I think if the relationship isn’t a hard YES then it’s a soft NO.
I’m 19 years old and a 40 year old guy is hitting on me. He’s a nice guy but I don’t know what to do.
hi i am 28 i am dating a 42 year old man he is my partner but what i am wanting to know is. Is this a good age to be dating him?
My man is 18 yrs older than me. It’s not the age that matters, it’s that’s he has become my best friend. I am very mature for my age in my late 30’s. And I get along with people much older than me than anyone my age. I love that we talk about all kinds of subjects. We both love to go out and have fun. He has gotten me to learn and go scuba diving. And next we are going skiing up north. And we cant wait for the next music festival to go to. And it’s fun having… Read more »
Haha. I guess this is not for us 60 year old women…
I would like to say! I don’t think the heart knows anything other than love! It doesn’t know age, color, height, weight, how much money a person has, what a person looks like! The heart only knows LOVE! When two hearts come together no matter if you like the person or not you will fall in love with that person! I married my soulmate who was 30 years older than me! We fell in love with our hearts! I didn’t look at him thinking I will not have sex! I saw a loving man who loved me for who I… Read more »
Hello
I’m dating a man 33 years older than me. I’m 24 and sometimes I get so many questions in my mind about how it will be with his daughter that im 3 years older than her. I’m so in love with him and so is he and we r together for a year now in a long distance relationship and we are totally having good time. And I want some advices from ppl having the same experience. How it was with his kidsss plzzz ?
Very touching story
Thank you.
Older men takes care of their younger spouse if not that, they are really really authoritative
I am 30 years old, he is 67 years old, he has a good body shape, and also good in bed, he is a good sense of humour, good personality, I know the huge difference age between us , people will judge us , but I really enjoy the time with him, and I love him so much. He said i am a crazy girl, but life just live once, just follow heart, it is not illegal
I first met my husband when I was 20, he was 51. He was a divorced father of two grown-up kids, both of them are younger than me. He and I dated for only two months and then got married after that. Some people thought I was looking for a sugar daddy, but that’s not true. I just fell in love with him. He treats me so well, and makes love to me so passionately. We are still married, I’m now 32 and he’s 63. We have six kids, our youngest was born last year.
Great story, so glad it worked out ya!
Wow, that’s great, Janice. I’m 18, my fiancé is 55. He’s so hot. We’ve actually known each other for six years, only there was no love connection until I had just turned 18. He says I have grown into such a fine woman, and that he’s had a crush on me for years now. He takes such good care of me. He gives me full body massages, and we’re having sex very often. More importantly, he remembers to say that he loves me. I’m so excited that I’m marrying him, and I’m now pregnant with his baby. Is all of… Read more »
Hi, I’m currently dating a man 15 years older than me. When we met, I was 35, and he was 51. Now it is four years later, and things are still good between us. We get along well and never had a fight. I do worry about the future when I know it is inevitable that I will have to take care of him. I’m okay with that and would love to take care of him in his later days. Yes, we are not perfect and have things we need to work out. That is just it, we want to… Read more »
A lot of older men I meet seem to be quite insecure rather than mature. they seem to come out of one relationship and want to jump straight into another. not comfortable about the pace they want to go at
My husband is 28 years older than me. He was my high school math teacher. He didn’t know this at the time, but I had a serious crush on him back then. I hadn’t seen him again until four years after I graduated from college. When we reunited, I was 22 and he was 50, he took me out to dinner. We caught up on what’s happened since we last saw each other. His wife left him two years prior along with their three kids. That was when I finally decided to share my feelings with him, which I kept… Read more »
Im a 56 year old active woman dating a 70 year old. Can he hike 12 km with me? probably not. Can he come to zumba class or 39° hot yoga class. Nope. But can we have long romantic walk? yes. Can he run me a bath, prepare a nice fire and prepare me diner so when I get home I have nothing to do? Certainly. Is he always on my ass to get naked ? Nope. Is he a walking talking boner? Nope. But guess what whenever we make love its always awesome. No blue pills and everything works… Read more »
I once met an old man married to an extremely younger woman. He went on a vacation to the Philippines when he was 71 and met his wife, a Filipina girl. She was 18. Some have argued that she married him for his money, but really her reason was simply because she fell in love with him. He’s now 80, which would make her 27. They have four children, the youngest one is 2. I suppose love comes in all shapes and sizes.
I married my personal trainer. I’m 21, and he’s 48. He’s white, and I’m Asian-American. We had only known each other for four months when we married last year. I guess we were meant to be together. He is so gentle with me, and he is such a wonderful father to our son, born two months ago. We plan on having four more children.
I had a lot of boyfriends, but they were all my age. The very first man I have been with to be older than me is the last man I dated, who is now my husband. I was 27 when I first met him, he was 65. He was a widower, his wife had passed away two years prior. Among the many men I dated, I never imagined that I would become attracted to one advanced in years. And there I was flirting with him. He was starting to take a liking to me too, calling me beautiful. He treated… Read more »
I’m a very old man married to a very young woman. I’m American and she’s Russian. Before, I was married to my first wife, same age as me, and we had five kids. We divorced many years ago. My current wife and I met online and arranged to meet at my place. She was 18 and I was 61. Turned out, she was really attracted to old men. And yes, we had sex that night. In a matter of weeks, she became pregnant with our first child and we got married, and have been for now fifteen years. She first… Read more »
Well I gotta say that seeing a beautiful young girl being so blind, and stupid to waste herself, and throw her life away on some old, ugly, bald(ing) pedophile esc. looking creep who she cannot possibly find attractive at all makes me so sick, and disgusted, to the point where I swear to God that watching somebody throw up is literally far less unpleasant to me than that horrible, disgusting, and highly depressing site for certain too! If I had a daughter who tried doing this, I’d seriously tell her to get the hell off of my lawn, and don’t… Read more »
The man is only a pedophile if the woman is below 18.
My father married my best friend. My mother died when I was 12, and he was a wreck. My friend is a very beautiful woman from Prague, four years younger than me, auburn hair, and has a very gentle personality. I introduced him to her eight years ago. In a matter of weeks, they fell in love and she became pregnant. I guess it was love at first sight. Dad was 59, she was 23. Surprising the whole thing was to me, but I was very supportive of them both. I had never seen my dad so happy in a… Read more »