7 Things Men Do When They’re Extremely Attracted to You

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Here’s what you need to know about us men: when we are really into a woman, we get very excited! Although we might desperately want to play it cool, we can’t help ourselves.

So, if you’re looking for signs that a man is extremely attracted to you, pay attention to these seven things.

  1. He’s going to want to spend time with you alone

I’ve worked with thousands of clients over the years, and a common story I hear from women is this: They went out on a first date with a guy, and things went great. The next thing you know, he’s invited her over to his place to cook her dinner.

Yes – if a man is extremely attracted to you, he will want to spend time alone with you, whether his intentions are good or bad.

However, I recommend pacing the progression of your connections (Little Love Step #5) so that you don’t rush into anything too soon. I would not recommend going to his place or yours for the first three to five dates – keep it PG and public.

  1. He finds ways to touch you

Another sign that a man is extremely attracted to you is he breaks the physical touch barrier (but not in a creepy way).

When a guy likes you and your connection builds, he will struggle not to touch you. I don’t mean being handsy here – steer clear of those guys.

And if you’re attracted to a man, you should also find subtle ways to touch him (appropriately). This sends a green light to the other person that says, “I’m into you.”

  1. His eye contact lingers

Have you ever said something to a guy and looked away, then looked back only to find he’s still looking at you? How about three times in a row?

When a man is extremely attracted to you, he will struggle to pry his eyes away from you.

It will be less of a stare and more of a deep gaze into your soul. You’ll know it’s happening when you see it.

  1. He will try to protect you from other men

Research shows that men tend to get jealous more than women, and a certain amount of jealousy is healthy for a relationship. So this is okay as long as it doesn’t become toxic.

When a man is into you, he will naturally be more protective of you. For example, his voice might drop when talking to other men, or he’ll be extra curious when you mention another guy you’re spending time with (even if it’s completely non-romantic on your part).

  1. He might tease you or poke fun at you

You know how when a boy had a crush on you in fourth grade, he would tease you like crazy, and this was his way of communicating, “I like you”?

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Well, if it wasn’t clear already, boys don’t really grow up that much.

So if a man is teasing you a little bit or poking fun at something (like a shirt you’re wearing or the way you pronounce a certain word) in a lighthearted way, this usually means he’s into you. Try not to take it seriously!

  1. He might touch his face a lot when he’s talking to you

When a woman is attracted to a man, she often starts playing with her hair. And when a man is attracted to a woman, he will naturally begin to touch his face.


He is grooming himself for you because he wants you to be attracted to him.

When I was dating Jessica, she called me out on this and said, “why do you keep touching your face?!”

I wasn’t doing it consciously; I was attracted to her!

  1. He might withdraw or be shy around you

The final sign a man is extremely attracted to you is if you notice that he withdraws a little in your company. This is often true for younger and less experienced guys.

Pay special attention to how he behaves with other people. If he’s generally more outgoing and comfortable with others but gets nervous or awkward around you, this is a strong sign he likes you.

My final piece of advice is to avoid getting into analysis paralysis over what a man is or is not doing. If he is talking to you, pursuing you, asking you out, and investing his time and energy into you, this demonstrates clear intent and is a sure sign he’s attracted to you. So relax, enjoy yourself, and be present with him.

Have you ever seen any of these signs from a guy? Tell me all about your experiences in the comments below.

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1 year ago

The weirdest thing happened to me on a first date. I met this very handsome man on a dating site, highly educated, divorced, no children.We went to dinner at a very nice restaurant for lunch and he walked me to my car and leaned in to kiss me and shoved his tongue down my throat. I am not a youngster and neither is he. I was totally caught off guard and disgusted by this especially after having such a nice relaxed time with him. It was a red flag for me. What do you think that was all about? I… Read more »

1 year ago
Reply to  Mary

That’s hysterical! Maybe he wanted to see if you had nice tonsils?? You can always bite his tongue if you don’t like it…

adrian mallin
1 year ago

You are wonderful- I so enjoy your videos – and yes – they / men/ also seem to want , like, fall in love – more — when they cannot have you –
Keep being great~!~

4 months ago
Reply to  adrian mallin

Oddly enough, my crush (who’s not around right now since he’s in Houston for vicarage) has done a lot of these things. We play the game geometry dash lite and have dinner together, but because of what he’s said, I try to tell people, “He doesn’t like me” even though his actions HAVE made me wonder if he does…at least a little bit.

Renee Pogoreltz
1 year ago

Yes got one doing this now….but he weirds out when we’re apart

1 year ago

I enjoy this one guy we have been going back and forth for about 1 year he get nervous around others but when we are talking alone together he is more relaxed what do I do to get more attention we have dated and all the friendship thing

1 year ago

Yes, I experience these things all the time with guys. There’s always ways they show they like you, accompanied by their verbal likes for you. Actions speak louder than anything- if a guy digs you, he will do what it takes to pursue you!!

1 year ago

You do a GREAT JOB, in video’s. Helps women understand men better.

1 year ago

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Last edited 1 year ago by Domingos
1 year ago

I have a gentleman basically doing all these things EXCEPT spending time with me. He’s a musician. He ‘protects’ me from ANY type of danger… he watches me almost the entire time he’s on stage. He touches me when he stops to talk.etc. I know this is to keep other guys away. BUT he will not ask me out. He’s told 2 friends… ‘I love her but it cant happen’. He’s told me….i want you but I dont like being around people. You do.’ So I suggest….lets go for a drive or a ride on your motorcycle… his answer, he… Read more »

1 year ago
Reply to  Virginia

Married? Attached elsewhere m

1 year ago

I am finding what you are talking about here with an on-line dating. But it’s all verbal due to the fact it’s all online. That is, we move to google chat he is in the military. Due to come back to the states in a couple of months. He is very expressive verbally.

Beverly L Floyd
1 year ago

I met a man on a dating site who lives a 3 hour drive away. We get along great. He texts often everyday and middle of night. He calls twice a week and is very lovey. He was in lockdown a year and now travels extensively with his work. Why doesn’t he make any plans to meet or even half way? He knows I want to meet him, and he teases. HELP..

melanie allen
1 year ago

I, too, am experiencing the same situation. We met on an on-line app. We chatted for a few days but He lives 3-1/2 hours away. He asked me for some dates where I would be available to meet. So after communicating w/him a bit more I opened my calendar and gave him several weekends I was available. He’s very handsome, educated, has values & is witty, and he is pursuing me at this point. Well after I sent the available dates, he asked if he could have some time to work out one or more of those dates. He owns… Read more »

1 year ago

Or pictures gives tips to strike up a conversation nail salon at walmart And don’t be discouraged if no immediate success because ‘It’s not a relationship.

1 year ago

I had a guy for 5 months who was the perfect man..he did everything right – kind, considerate, happy, generous, EVERY thing was perfect – except whenever we went out he would oggle beautiful BLONDE women..Im a brunette.. it became a point when I got very upset because the glances were longer than they should be..EVERY gorgeous blonde and ONLY blondes were his fancy. I’d spoken to him about it – he said he didnt notice. We went out St Patricks Day – same thing all night long..so when we got home i nicely asked him what he was doing… Read more »

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