3 Qualities Men Over 40 Look For in a Woman
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When you first start dating in your teens and twenties, you likely have ZERO clues on who you are or what you want from a relationship.
This is totally normal. You’re still learning, and figuring out this crazy thing called life.
Every time you move into a new decade, you’ve banked new experiences, learned a lot of lessons, and gained valuable wisdom along the way.
By the time you get to your 40s, you’ve got a much better idea of who you are and what you want. And chances are, this is very different from the you 20 years ago.
So, if you’re wondering what men are looking for as they get older, I’m breaking it down for you in this video.
FYI: Qualities one and two are based on data, while number three is based on my own experience coaching many men in the past.
Here are 3 qualities men over 40 almost always look for in a woman.
Of course, men are looking for more than just these three qualities, and every man is different. But as a general rule, you can bank on an older guy placing high importance on these three things.
Why?
Because they’re looking for a woman who they’re not only attracted to but can also spend a lot of time hanging out with.
Looks are important, but they don’t last, and men over 40 realize this and prioritize different things now to what they might’ve 20 years ago.
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As you’ve gotten older, which quality are you most attracted to in men?
Let me know in the comments below.
Your Coach,
Keep it up good job
The points you bring up are interesting; intelligence (a given on both side) friendship I understand it but I don’t think we want to admit that after a certain age. A man has to be youthful as well especially the older they get. No one wants a couch potato! It is very important, probably one of the main reason’s I date a man 11 years younger !
Hell yeah girl me too.. . I want to keep youthful together
Why I couldn’t attract the guy I love , actually I don’t know what he is looking for , we never go restaurant together we just met in the park during the Covid but I don’t know why I love him a lot and we break up and again after few months I text him and he responded but he believed I controlled his emotions I mean for having sex I scared to have sex with the guy I don’t know he likes me or not. I have hard time and he is 40 years, I am kind and caring… Read more »
I’m interested in men who are honest and considerate of all others.
There is no excuse for them to be without these traits as they have lived long enough to have developed them.
Honesty. A large percentage of men online are not honest about who they really are. I don’t want to waste my time or theirs to find out most of what they say is not true.
Oh my goodness Jo I’m with you! I just ended an eight week relationship with a guy who I met online. He started lying before I even met him!!
Because online most man is looking only for two things! Sex! Or money!
Very interesting. I would like someone who is kind,smart and also spontaneous.
Hi Adam, I definitely agree with all 3 things you mentioned and that’s what I believe in too. What I look for in a man in these age groups is up-front honesty. He should be attractive, in good health, meaning that he takes care of himself, and a warm smile, a “light” still, in his eyes,someone who just embraces LIFE and all the beauty of the world that we live in, in other words, he never let the “child” within go! He must LOVE LIFE! I know that there are men like this still in the world, but with so… Read more »
I completely agree with you based on my relationship with a man over 40. I look for a man who LOVES to live life, is positive, spontaneous and open-minded yet also reliable and committed, meaning I can count on him to do what he says he’ll do (and actually know what to do!).. Probably most importantly, I look for a man who makes me feel like I’m the most important thing in his life by his actions and how he looks at me, which I have been lucky to find post-divorce,
Interestingly enough, I want the same thing in a man that men want in a woman, intelligence, nurturing, supportive, and kind, and youthfulness. Perhaps men and women are more similar than many have thought.
Silly, loving and kind
I am ready to listen
I’m 41 divorced no kids.. I’m looking for a man who is open minded and nonjudgmental… I’m finding men from 30-39 in my experience are more of this than men in their 40s .. so I’m dating younger and it’s been great!
Honesty!!! I can’t say it enough and still men keep lying so I keep remaining single!!
I really enjoy these hints, tips and videos. But where can I go. To meet the man over 40 who is eligible and adventurous?
Most men over 50 are ready for the rocking chair, financially needy or want the woman to take care of everything! I’m an independent woman, but I’m probably the most caring and would give the right man anything. I’ve found that being nice, caring, and don’t expect a man to do it all; is always taken for granted. It seems like there has been a role reversal….
I hear ya Nicole. I’m not playing sugar momma anymore. I want a man who has his life together and like me wants someone to share all the adventures that life has to offer
You so right! I’m in same situation. Start giving up that such man exists. Most man wants women to take care he’s needs, house shores and still be playful with him at night. Really? How about give sone Support and then we both feel like playing??
What happen to times when you date and looks like then they know how to care for you.
Where a good places to meet a good man between 55-65
I agree with you in these 3 points! I have experienced it first hand.
I am looking for Active and positive and financially secure ( not that I am gold digger )
the man I desire. openminded,honest sensitive cares of my needs and desires truly loves from the heart. attractive t me , understands me ,great rapore. positive, softspoken adoration of the woman I am, in my heart and spirit. does everything with great passon,knows how to entertaine me,us love me , gentle ,emotionally intelligent. Am I expcting too much ?,been not dating for 30 yrs. any suggestions.?? respect ing, supportive and knows God, a gentleman for sure.!
Ahh that is great thank you ! Good for special needs too !
Caring, compassionate, not self centered, mentally stable & willing to take their time getting to know the person before jumping into a relationship & wanting sex. So many men want to rush into a serious relationship & jump into bed before they find out if you are compatible for a long term relationship.
The more pushy for a serious relationship & blowing up my phone the more of a tuen off & faster I kick them to the curb.
Long story short, I had a couple of brief conversation with a guy and kinda flirty when I lived down the street from him. I sold my home and I had a garage sale before I moved and he bought my lawn chairs from me and wanted to know why I was moving away. I told him that there is nothing here for me anymore. And my son lives in California and I going to start a new chapter in my life, because my husband passed away. That was 2yrs. ago now and I recently moved back, but not in… Read more »
Go for it and ask him out. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
I want a man who is kind, fun, ( great sense of humor) honest and available…emotionally and not married! The man I see now is so comfortable to be with and we can be honest with each other..so freeing! I guess that is more than three qualities!
I am looking for a guy that has emotional intelligence and ability to have a conversation back and forth.
Intelligence and humor…it has to be both!
The points you bring up are buy an essay online reviews; intelligence
It’s not just one. Financially Independent, honest and adventurous. I’m a young 58 and men I’ve met close to my age can’t keep up. So I’ve dated younger men. But now as I approach retirement, I want a partner that is there too so we can spend the rest of our lives playing together!
The quality I most value in a man are his listening and comprehension skills, without a rush to judgement; instead with curiosity, appreciation, and an open mind.
Honesty and transparency
The qualities I look for in a man to be in relationship with follow:
Emotional Intelligence
Fun, free spirited
Good Sense of Humor
Intelligent
Honest
Loyal
Caring & Kind
Masculine yet in touch with his feminine side
Positive vibes & Positive Outlook on Life
Drama Free Spirit
When it comes to love and dating, there’s no shortage of advice out there. But when you’re a man over 40, the rules can feel a bit different. Whether you’re getting back into the dating game after a divorce or simply looking for love later in life, there are certain qualities that men over 40 tend to be drawn to in a woman. Here are three of them:
1. A Positive Attitude.
2. A Good Sense of Humor.
3. Confidence.
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Great sharing!
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