You’re a force of nature, a high-achiever, and you’re done. Done with dating men who aren’t on your level, done with feeling like you’re “slumming it” in the dating world. You crave a partnership that’s more than just a relationship; you want powerhouse love.

But let’s be clear: powerhouse love isn’t solely about career success. It’s about building a genuine partnership founded on deep connections and true synergy, where together, you are infinitely more amazing than you are apart. Yet, finding two incredible individuals who fit together seamlessly can feel like navigating a maze.

We’ve heard it all from the incredible, high-level executive clients in our Lux program. They worry about scaring men away, about being perceived as “too masculine.” Most of all, they’re tired of feeling lonely, longing for someone to share their extraordinary lives with.

In this post, we’re diving into the often-unspoken secrets of dating as a successful woman, offering insights into how to integrate your quest for love into your busy life, embrace your authentic self, and master the art of meaningful conversations about work.

Here are 6 ways to attract that powerhouse love you deserve:

1. Make Your Relationships a Priority (It Will Make You More Successful!)

This might sound counterintuitive, but having a true partner – an ally, a confidante, a unwavering support system – will actually make you more effective in all areas of your life. It gives you a greater purpose, which is incredibly motivating and energizing. Research even shows that married people often earn more.

But here’s the crucial part: your behaviors reveal your priorities, not just your words. If finding love is important, treat it like all the other crucial elements of your life. Put it in your calendar. And yes, you might need to temporarily take something off your plate to make room – you can always add it back later. Stop being myopic; as a visionary, you think long-term. Invest in yourself and your relationships.

2. Don’t Diminish or Shrink Yourself

You are magnificent. Accomplished, successful, amazing – a true powerhouse. Don’t ever run from that. The right partner won’t be intimidated; they’ll be impressed and proud. They will fully celebrate and cherish every aspect of who you are.

That said…

3. You’re MORE Than Your Success

No one goes on a date looking for a business partner. So, leave your business persona at home when you step out. We all seek relationship partners with depth and substance beyond their work (let’s be honest, most people’s work can be mundane). It’s not about omitting who you are, but about order – lead with warmth and genuine connection first.

4. Don’t Try to Prove What You’ve Already Attained

You’ve already won. There’s no need to incessantly highlight your achievements. True winners don’t do that; they don’t narrate their own story. “Act like you’ve been there.” When you talk excessively about your success, it can signal that it’s new or unexpected to you. Instead, carry yourself as if it’s inevitable, obvious, expected – completely natural. Remember, people will appreciate what they uncover about you far more than what you overtly tell them.

5. Talking About Work (The Right Way)

Consider the story of the three stonecutters: A traveler asked three stonecutters what they were doing. The first said, “I am cutting stone.” The second replied, “I am building a wall.” But the third smiled proudly, “I am building a cathedral.”

The person you’re dating (like most people) might initially talk about their work like the first stonecutter – bogged down in the weeds and details, which can be, frankly, boring. Your job is to ask questions that help them (and you!) see what they do through the lens of the other two stonecutters. What’s their “why”? Their mission? Do they have a vision?

Not every person will have a grand vision, and that doesn’t automatically make them a “next.” Instead, consider this: what they might truly need and benefit from is a partner who helps them see the bigger picture. And you, a powerhouse woman, are perfectly equipped to do just that.

6. See What Others Don’t

Everyone has their “thing,” their go-to quality that makes them attractive – whether it’s their looks, sense of style, professional accomplishments, wealth, or charm. You recognize these qualities, and so does everyone else. Your challenge, your superpower, is to see what others miss. Be genuine, but actively search for something about him that he doesn’t typically receive compliments on. You get bonus points if it’s something he feels is truly under-appreciated.

For example, look beyond the obvious to appreciate his: sensitivity, generosity, calmness under pressure, deep thinking, care for others, or strong character.