“To be brutally honest…if you’re not changing it, you’re choosing it.”

Ouch. That’s a gut punch, right? A dose of tough love that might sting a little. But let’s be real, sometimes we need that jolt to wake us up. Yes, change is hard. It’s uncomfortable, it pushes us outside our comfort zones. But let’s face it: being miserable, unfulfilled, or stuck is wayyy harder.

We all have fundamental motivations – hunger, thirst, sleep. But psychology also tells us we have a deep-seated need to improve, to grow, to change, to become more capable. It’s why you’re reading this, isn’t it? It’s why you seek out content that helps you become a better version of yourself.

It’s the same reason our clients come to us. They’re frustrated. They see the lack of progress. They’re tired of things staying the same. They want more. And that’s where we come in – to push them, to support them, and to guide them towards the change they crave.

The Power of Tension

One of the most powerful motivators for change is tension. That uncomfortable feeling, that nagging sense that something isn’t right. It’s the friction that sparks the desire for something better. We’re here to shine a light on those areas of your love life that are causing you tension. We’re here to give you that “protective older brother” energy, to tell it like it is, so you don’t have to learn things the hard way.

7 Harsh Truths You Need to Hear:

1. A good morning text isn’t special. Let’s be real. Stop giving guys too much credit for basic things. A vague, positive text? He could be sending that to fifteen other women. It’s not asking too much for him to put in a little more effort, especially if he can’t make a date.

2. You’re procrastinating because you’re scared. How do you procrastinate? Making excuses? Creating barriers? Enforcing unrealistic rules? Being too picky to avoid rejection? Using dating app messaging as a crutch? “I can’t” often translates to “I’m scared.” It’s time to face those fears and meet in person.

3. You might care more about attention than connection. It’s fun to have lots of guys reaching out, chatting, and taking you on dates. But do you want a real connection, or do you just like the attention? Remember, the goal isn’t to be good at dating. It’s to find your person. Stop collecting connections and start focusing on genuine relationships. Dating isn’t networking. Date in a way that lets you quit dating.

4. If you’ve had a string of bad relationships, it’s you. You’re (part of) the problem. You’re the common denominator. You’re complicit in the outcomes you say you don’t want. You don’t attract only bad guys. You attract many types. But you select a certain type and then tolerate their behavior. Stop blaming, start taking responsibility.

5. Your relationship happiness is YOUR fault (or up to you). If your expectations are too high, you’ll always be miserable. If they’re too low, you’ll happily suffer. Your thoughts are the biggest barrier to relationship satisfaction.

6. Winners focus on creating their future, while others get stuck complaining about their past. Everyone has a past. But it doesn’t define your future. Treat it as a lesson, a superpower, an opportunity.

7. You don’t really miss your former partner. What you miss is the idea of what you wanted to have with them. The harsh truth? It never existed and never was going to. You’re holding on because it’s familiar and the unknown scares you. But it gets better, especially when you have support.

Choose Change, Not Complacency

“To be brutally honest…if you’re not changing it, you’re choosing it.”

It’s a stark reminder that we have the power to shape our own realities. Are you ready to stop choosing complacency and start choosing change? It might be uncomfortable, but the rewards are immeasurable.