How to Be His #1 Priority, Not an Option

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If you’re dating a guy, do you truly feel like a priority to him? Or do you feel like an option?

If he’s got a free night, does he call you, eager to spend time with you…

…or does he veg out on the couch, bingeing Netflix?

If he’s hanging out with friends, does he make sure to include you…

…or does he “forget” to invite you altogether?

When you want to be his priority, there’s a certain way to go about getting what you want.

In this video, I address two situations: one where you are only an option (and that’s okay) and the other where you should be his priority. It’s important to know the difference.

Once you are in an exclusive relationship, if you don’t feel like a man’s priority, understanding what his priorities are can be helpful. It may be a matter of this man needing to shift his mindset and change his priorities. You may need to give him time to adjust.

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But remember this: you shouldn’t have to force a man to make you a priority. If he’s not doing it after some time, he might not be right for you.

Talk to me in the comments below: have you ever felt like you weren’t a priority in a relationship? How did you handle it?

Your Coach,




P.S. Both of the scenarios I cover in this video are a part of the Little Love Steps program. Take the course, and you’ll be sure to move to the relationship phase!

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3 years ago

Adam so much of your stuff is awesome and I love these little reminders that I get in my inbox to keep the lights on up there in my head. I’m in a committed relationship now for 1.5 yrs on and off but I don’t feel like I’ve ever been a priority other than the first couple months we started dating. He’s a widow and definitely has some emotionally unavailable traits but he tries and is very good to me when we’re together but I can’t help noticing that I’m forever in maybe 3/4 in his list of priorities. Believe… Read more »

3 years ago

Molte Bene, Adam! You are the Best in the Biz! [When push comes to shove: Your easily digestible soundbytes condoning tact and civility sure beat: having to threaten to return my partner to his mother/father — for a do-over (smiles).] The sisterhood especially appreciates you! Thanks so much, Adam!

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Patricia Gray
3 years ago

I’ve been the option girlfriend before & it gets old real quick. He’said super good to you when you’re with him but there’s no guarantee when you’ll see him again. Usually this guy is seeing or talking to several other women on social media like Facebook & dating sites….just playing around & wasting all of the ladies time.One guy we had been seeing each other for over 2 years…texted me & said oh i’m in love with this other girl & I don’t want to date 2 girls at once. About a month later he was on a dating site… Read more »

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