In this video, I pull back the curtain on the six most damaging dating myths that silently sabotage women’s chances of attracting lasting, high-quality love.

After working with successful women for over 15 years, I have seen the same patterns of belief repeat themselves—stories that feel like truth, but actually block connection and intimacy. These myths are like mental soundtracks playing on repeat, convincing you that love isn’t possible, that you need to be someone else to be loved, or that the right man will magically appear when you stop looking.

It’s time to break that cycle.

Myth #1: “My success intimidates men.”

Let’s get one thing straight — your success isn’t the problem. While it’s true that a low-value man might be intimidated by a confident, accomplished woman, the truth is that high-caliber men are drawn to equals.

In fact, a recent study found that 92% of successful men say they’re attracted to women who are equally driven in their careers. Another 89% said they would prefer to marry someone who’s as intelligent — or even more intelligent — than they are.

So no, your success doesn’t scare off the right man. What might be happening instead is an energy mismatch. Many women bring their go-getter, executive energy into dating, when what’s truly magnetic is leaning into their feminine confidence — that calm, self-assured presence that allows space for connection.

At Love Strategies, this is where it all begins: with what we call Little Love Step #1 — Radiating Feminine Confidence. Because when you align with that energy, the right kind of men take notice.

Myth #2: “Just follow your heart.”

It sounds romantic — but “just follow your heart” can be dangerous advice when your instincts have been shaped by unhealthy experiences.

As Adam explains, following your heart without strategy can lead you straight back into the arms of emotionally unavailable men. That’s why at Love Strategies, we say:

“Follow your heart — but bring some strategy with you.”

You need a decision-making framework for love. Sometimes, that means walking away from a man who “feels right,” but you know deep down isn’t right for you. Strategy doesn’t make love less magical — it makes it sustainable.

Myth #3: “Love comes when you least expect it.”

We’ve all heard it. “Just stop looking, and love will find you.”

But waiting for love to show up while you stay safely behind your comfort zone rarely works. The reality? Love comes when you take radical action.

That means putting yourself out there — going on new dates, meeting new people, saying “next” to the wrong matches, and opening your heart even when you’re nervous. You don’t need to feel 100% “ready.” Taking action creates readiness.

As Picasso once said, “To know what you’re going to draw, you have to begin drawing.” The same goes for love — you learn what you want by being in motion.

Myth #4: “If he’s not chasing me, he’s not interested.”

Movies and social media often glamorize instant chemistry and non-stop pursuit — but real, healthy love builds slowly.

When a man comes on too strong right away, that intensity is often driven by infatuation or neediness, not genuine connection. On the other hand, high-value men tend to move with intention. They take their time because they’re emotionally mature and looking for something that lasts.

So if a man isn’t texting you constantly in the first week, don’t panic — that might actually be a good thing. Slow and steady is often a sign of emotional health, not disinterest.

Myth #5: “I should be able to figure love out on my own.”

We spend years — sometimes decades — investing in education, careers, and self-improvement. Yet when it comes to love, many women believe they should somehow “just know” how to do it.

The truth? Dating and relationships are learned skills.

There’s no shame in seeking support, structure, and tools to help you attract the right partner. Working with a coach, community, or program gives you perspective — and often reveals blind spots you didn’t even know were there.

Myth #6: “I have to heal completely before I can date again.”

This is one of the most paralyzing beliefs. Healing is beautiful, but it’s not a finish line.

Emotional healing doesn’t happen in a vacuum — it happens through experience. You don’t have to be 100% healed to find love; in fact, sometimes love itself is part of the healing process. Meeting a kind, emotionally safe partner can be one of the most transformative experiences in your journey.

So don’t wait for the day you wake up and feel “perfectly healed.” Start where you are. Take the next small step. Healing and loving can happen side by side.

Rewriting the Rules

These myths have one thing in common: they’re built on fear — fear of rejection, failure, or not being enough. But when you challenge them, you make room for something far more powerful: belief.

Belief that love is possible.

Belief that your success is magnetic.

Belief that the right man will meet you where you are.

If you’ve been wondering why your dating life doesn’t reflect the powerful, magnetic woman you know you are deep down — this is your invitation to rewrite the rules.