attract the man you desire

When it comes to trying to attract the man you desire, do you find yourself chasing emotionally unavailable guys? You probably don’t do this on purpose, but look back at the last few guys you went out with. I’ll wait. Yeah. You see a pattern, don’t you? Maybe he was slow to respond to your…

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he has a girlfriend

It’s damn hard to find a great guy these days. Am I right? But what happens when you meet a guy who seems perfect for you, only…he has a girlfriend? And he’s still pursuing you. WTF?! What do you do? This video was inspired by a member of our community who was being pursued by…

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I’m willing to bet you’ve met a player or two in your time. Maybe he strung you along, making you feel like he wanted more than just sex…but then ghosted when you got serious. Maybe he made you feel like you were the only woman for him…but then you found out he was seeing—and sleeping…

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he's not that into you

Ah, the good old days. When a man would hitch up his wagon, drive hours to spend just a few minutes with a special lady, likely in the company of her entire family, and then ask for her hand in marriage. Now you’re left with one dude after another who bulk swipes right on all…

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dating a divorced man

The idea of dating a man who’s been married, who has his own baggage, might be a turnoff to you. Is he over his ex? Did he cheat on her? What about his kids? Do they interfere with his ability to date? Before you write these guys off, I want you to keep yourself open.…

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mind games

Are you sick and tired of men playing mind games with you? Maybe you see your guy has a text from a woman and you ask who it is…and he goes off, saying you’re accusing him of cheating (when you weren’t) and demands you apologize for not trusting him. Maybe a guy strings you along…

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ways to make him addicted to you

Did you know that when you fall in love, your brain feels exactly like it does when it’s hooked on drugs? It’s a pretty intense feeling. Even better? Having a man feel that way about you. What if there were ways to make him addicted to you so that he’d have that high whenever he’s…

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Adam LoDolce

If you’re trying to get a man’s attention and failing to succeed, then it’s possible that you need a new strategy. In fact, you’ll probably be shocked at the top traits that will make him pursue you. They’re not what you’d expect. You wearing low-cut clothing is not on the list. Nor is telling him…

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desperate girl signals

Are you giving off desperate girl signals? While you’re trying to attract a great man, are you, in fact, coming off as a little cray cray? You may think that you’re showing off how confident and sexy you are…while men are actually turned off by how you’re acting. I’m going to share four desperate girl…

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All of the experts tell you to communicate your feelings in a relationship… …but is it possible to over-communicate? I’ve been guilty of this myself. Rocking the boat when the relationship was cruising along just fine. Watch the video below to learn the 3 toxic ways you might be over-communicating in your relationship.  Have…

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Have you ever dated a guy who was a complete waste of time? When the relationship ended, you discovered that he had ZERO interest in a serious relationship, and then you had to start all over again. Never again, my sexy single lady. Here are 5 signs that a guy is serious about a future…

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Do you care too much about what men think about you? I think the image below sums up this week’s video perfectly. Click on it to learn one simple principle to developing your inner confidence around men. Are you ready to stop caring? Then leave a comment below committing yourself to the principles outlined in…

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signs your guy friend is falling for you

You have a male friend who you really value in your life. But lately…things feel…different. You’re wondering if he might have feelings for you. If he does, you’re not sure how you should handle it. Would he be the perfect partner…or would it be a disaster? These signs your guy friend is falling for you…

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Are you constantly on his mind? Instead of “bait texting” him to see if he responds… …watch the video below and learn the 4 secret signs he thinks about you more than you know.  Have you ever seen these signs from a guy? Leave a comment below letting me know how it went. Your…

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When you first start dating a guy, you’re probably testing him.  Does he take charge of situations?  Is he a nice guy?  Is he respectful to the waiter? You know…standard things to look out for. And believe it or not, he’s testing you too…except his tests are VERY different than yours.  Fail these “tests,” and…

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In this video, I discuss five holiday dating survival tips that actually work. You’ll learn: How to stand out in a crowd of singles at any holiday event. Tips for holiday party conversation starters. How to stay positive when you’re single during the holidays. Watch this video to get out there, be social, and find…

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best friend couple

You’re no rookie when it comes to relationships. Maybe you’ve been married and divorced (possibly several times). Perhaps you’ve been in years-long relationships. Whatever you’ve been through, for better or worse, you now find yourself trying to find love after 50. I’m not going to lie: falling in love later in life looks a lot…

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dating your best friend

Do you find that your relationships fizzle out once the 3-month mark hits? You chase relationships with guys you have NOTHING in common with. It’s keeping you single and stopping you from settling down in a relationship. What’s the problem? What gives? In fact, you might be overlooking an all-too-obvious resource: your male best friend.…

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healthy relationship

Have you ever been in a relationship that was so exciting, where you never knew what was going to happen next? One that felt like a roller coaster? That guy was totally unpredictable, wasn’t he? Him: Man, I love you! I just want to be with you forever… You: [totally smitten] I love you too! Him: …But…

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online dating scams

You want to try online dating, but the horror stories you’ve heard have you scared sh#%less. Is every man on these apps insane? Are they all out to take your money? How can you actually find love if there are so many online dating scams out there? The Truth About Online Dating Scams While there…

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mindful dating

There’s a difference between mindless and mindful dating. Mindless dating is easy. It happens when you’re not being intentional about your dating life. With mindless dating, you find yourself swiping Tinder profiles for an hour during your lunch break. You go out with men who keep staring down your shirt rather than paying attention to what you’re saying.…

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soulmate signs

You’ve been dating this man for a while, and you admit: you’re falling for him. You’re now in Little Love Step #6 and to move this to the next level, But is this infatuation or something more serious? You’re looking for signs that he’s your soulmate to understand if your search for Mr. Right is…

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games men play

Before we get into talking about the games men play, allow me to present a couple of metaphors. There’s this really fun board game that Jessica and I like to play. It’s called Pandemic. It’s fun because we work together trying to save the world from a plague. The best part? We are in it…

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mixed signals

There’s this new phenomenon that’s happening right now in the world of dating. It happens when a guy texts you and works hard to win you over… …then when he finally gets you to respond positively, he doesn’t actually do anything about it. He doesn’t ask you out. He doesn’t want to see you. He…

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online dating profile examples

So you’ve bitten the bullet and created an online dating account…but now you have no clue what to write or what kind of pictures to post! You’re looking for online dating profile examples to attract men to inspire you, and you’ve come to the right place! Online Dating Profile Examples to Get You Started Look,…

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second date

Congrats! You’ve made it to that second date. Now’s a great opportunity to really get to know this guy and see if there’s long-term potential. But you’re still in murky waters. Going out twice with a man doesn’t necessarily guarantee that you’ll end up in a relationship…or even that you’ll go on a third date.…

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how men think

Imagine, being able to crawl deep into the male mind to instantly understand how men think without them knowing it. [SHUDDER] IF that were possible, you’d probably need to go take a shower immediately! Of course you can’t know exactly what and how men think, but it is still very useful to get a general…

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why do guys ghost

Why do guys ghost? Honestly, I don’t get it. I’m sure you’ve experienced ghosting while talking to a guy: Things are going well. You’re texting or talking on the phone regularly. He’s even starting to be a little vulnerable with you. You’re starting to feel like this might actually turn into a relationship. Then suddenly,…

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being clingy

You’ve been told in the past that you’re a clingy girlfriend. But what does being clingy really mean? You might just feel like you’re showing how much you care for a man…so why does he take it as you being clingy? And how can you keep from turning off your next boyfriend? 16 Signs to…

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dating statistics

My mission in life is to help amazing women like you create their own love stories. And I’m committed to giving you advice on this blog that I’ve seen work for my dating coaching clients. Today I’ve got something super special for you: a deep dive into dating statistics. Why? I want you to realize…

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signs he's the one

So you’re online dating, trying to find the absolutely perfect man, and you’re looking for signs he’s the one. You’re seeking the guy who has every single thing that you want on that long list you know you’ve got. He’s got to have the looks… …the job… …the personality…everything you’re looking for. So you’re trying to…

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how to make a guy laugh

Forget the old adage about the way to a man’s heart being through his stomach. Figuring out how to make a guy laugh is definitely going to be the most direct path to his heart. But don’t just take my word for it: researchers have been studying the connection between humor and attraction for years,…

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what is gaslighting

You keep hearing this term “gaslighting,” and you’re wondering about it. People have even told you that you’re being gaslit. So…what IS gaslighting? In a Nutshell: What is Gaslighting? Essentially, with gaslighting, a person, usually a romantic partner, denies the validity of things you know you’re experiencing. “You’re imagining things. You didn’t see me with…

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signs he's talking to someone else

You’ve been dating a man for a few weeks, and while you think it’s going okay, you find yourself looking for signs he is talking to someone else. You’re afraid to get too emotionally invested in this situation until you’re sure that he’s interested in you and you alone. Maybe you’re paranoid because you’ve been…

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get him to commit by pulling away

So you’re dating a man who’s having a little trouble committing to you. It may sound counterintuitive, learning how to get him to commit by pulling away, but you’ll soon see in this video and article that it’s actually a highly-effective strategy for getting the right guy to realize you’re worth working for. In this…

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learn how to love yourself

After going through some unbelievable ups and downs and maybe even serious heartbreak in your life, you might be struggling to learn how to love yourself. You know that you need to have compassion and patience for yourself, but either your own personality or the way men have treated you in the past has seriously…

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why won't he commit

I hear this a lot from the Sexy Confidence community: so many women feel like they’re surrounded by commitment-phobic men and that they keep attracting them. This tends to be their #1 frustration with the 21st-century dating scene. So why do so many men seem to fear commitment? Is it you? Are you doing something…

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get a guy's attention

When you’re trying to get a guy’s attention because you’re attracted to him…it’s frustrating, isn’t it? When you don’t want it, all the creepy guys out there seem to give you their attention… When you do want it from a guy you actually like, it almost feels like you’re invisible to him. Are you nodding…

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how to tell a guy you like him

This isn’t junior high. Your strategies for how to tell a guy you like him have evolved. While back then you might have pushed him or teased him to show your interest (counterintuitive, I know), now you need a more sophisticated way to let a man know you’re attracted to him. The Frustrations of Having…

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signs of a bad relationship

If you’ve ever experienced signs of a bad relationship, I think you’ll agree: the stress you felt impacted every area of your life. Work seems tougher because you were just a little off, thinking about the big argument you got in last night… Your social life suffered because no one wanted to hang out with your…

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first date

Dear Adam: The trauma and stress of my divorce are behind me, and I’m finally ready to get back out there. But now I’m petrified at the prospect of having my first date after divorce. Help! I hear this so often from women who were married for years — even decades. It’s scary to make…

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You’re really into a guy but you’re not sure how to get his attention.  You like the idea of learning how to play hard to get…but you’re not into games (good news: neither is the Sexy Confidence community!). Is there a way to do it without acting like a teenager? Learning “how to play hard…

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he doesn't want a relationship with you

If you’re looking up signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you…I’m pretty sure you’ve already identified a few red flags with the guy you’re dating. Am I right? Spend your life chasing men who don’t want a relationship with you… ..and I promise you, you will spend your life as that weird cat lady…

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how to communicate effectively in a relationship

It’s not every couple who knows how to communicate effectively in a relationship. Does this sound familiar? You: “We need to talk.” Him: “What the #%^& did I do this time?” You: “You never listen!”  If this is a typical communication session in your relationship, then this video and article are perfect for you because I’m going…

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40 and single

Now that you’re 40 and single, things look a lot different than they did when you were in your 20s and single. You’ve been hurt in relationships…and might even be divorced. You might have young kids…or be an empty nester. Whatever your specific situation, you might think that, at this age, there’s no one out there…

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finding your soulmate

If you’re like women in every country, at every age, you have spent at least part of your life dedicated to finding your soulmate. And maybe so far, you’ve only kissed frogs and are still looking for Prince Charming. Maybe you’re even giving up hope that you’ll ever find him, or that soulmates even exist.…

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how to attract men

I get it: you’re frustrated because, while you really want to know how to attract men, the truth is that you do attract them…only they’re the guys you don’t want. The Creepy Camerons… The Needy Nicks… The Lame Lewises… You get the point. You probably have no problem attracting certain types of guys…but you’re here because…

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While you like the guy you’re dating, you find yourself looking for signs he’s using you. Something just feels…off, and the last thing you want to do is be played. Well, I’m here to point you in the right direction. If any of the following signs he’s using you ring true, you need to exit stage…

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first kiss

Inquiring women around the world want to know: should I kiss on a first date? What will he think of me if I do (or don’t)? Does it set the course for the future of that relationship? I get it. That first date is so critical for determining whether you have chemistry with someone enough to…

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vulnerable heart

You search and search for Mr. Right…then you finally find him…and you struggle with a new challenge: how to be vulnerable with a man. Whether you haven’t been in a serious relationship before… Or you’ve been terribly hurt in one… Vulnerability does not come easy for most women (or men). But it’s also a key component…

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ldr couple

Looking for how to make a long distance relationship work? You’re in the right place. We’re about to do a deep dive into the whole long distance relationship thing, AKA the LDR. You’ve heard the saying: Does absence really make the heart grow fonder? My answer to this thought-provoking question? Yes and no. Long distance…

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how to start dating again

You’ve been out of the game so long, you’re not even sure where to begin. Whether you’ve been married and then divorced or simply were in a long-term relationship that recently ended, it’s understandable that you’d be apprehensive about how to start dating again. After all, the dating landscape has changed. Significantly. Where in your 20s,…

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Why Men Disappear When It Gets Serious

You meet a guy who seems perfect. Things are chugging right along and then one day, out of the blue… BAM. He’s gone. Either he ghosts or tells you he isn’t looking for a serious relationship. You’re left heartbroken and confused. Why did he date you if he was just going to dump you? The…

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sexy texts for him

Struggling to come up with sexy texts for him? I get it. Texting someone you’re into isn’t easy, especially if the last time you dated…texting as a form of communication didn’t exist. Maybe you just got back into the dating game after divorce, and you’re trying to understand the social rules of texting a man. Maybe…

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dating advice for women

Life has taken an interesting turn, hasn’t it? One minute you’re married…the next you’re Googling dating advice for women after divorce. Whatever happened that led you down this path, it’s okay. Whatever pain you’ve been through, you’re now doing well enough emotionally to think about opening up the door again to love. But even if you’ve…

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over analyzing men

Ok class, raise your hand if you’ve ever been confused by a guy before. Now, look around. What do you see? Everyone’s hands are up. You’ve all been confused by guys actions before. Heck, I’ve been confused by guys actions before. The question is, what do you do when that confusion strikes? If you’re like…

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men vs women

Rom Com movies have done you a disservice, they don’t tell you the true difference between men and women. Everything you’ve ever learned from fairy tales about love and romance is completely wrong. Do I have your attention? While you may be trying to turn your current boyfriend or your future boyfriend into Prince Charming,…

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woman online dating

Your friends convinced you to hop on Match. Or eHarmony. Bumble. OKCupid. But you’re overwhelmed at the idea of finding just one amazing guy with all the cruddy ones that are out there. Using a dating app or website can be frustrating, I know. They’re filled with clueless guys. Guys who will offend you. Guys…

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“So whaddya think? Is Jason my boyfriend?” It feels like every conversation you have over brunch with your girlfriends is obsessing — er, assessing — your relationship status. If only you had a crystal ball. Women want labels. Labels make them feel secure. If he’s your boyfriend, it means your affection for him is reciprocated. It…

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is he into you

So you went on one date and think it went well, but you aren’t sure. After all, you could have one great date and that guy calls, but you could have another great date with a different guy and… Crickets. I know. Guys can seem cryptic. But in fact, we’re really simple creatures if you…

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5 Signs You’re Dating a Narcissist

The line between narcissism and confidence is often a thin one. On the outside, they can look the same… … especially when you’re just getting to know a guy. And this is a problem… … because if you’re dating a narcissist, you’re in for a rollercoaster of emotions… … that rarely ends in happily ever…

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The #1 Reason Why Men Stop Pursuing You

It’s not your sense of humor… It’s not your physical appearance… And it’s not your sense of style… In fact, the number one reason men stop pursuing women… might actually shock you. The worst part is that you might think doing THIS is actually helping you win him over… It’s not. If you want to…

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How to Get an Amazing Boyfriend Without Playing Games

Most people treat dating like a game of chess. Sacrificing… Retreating… Trying desperately to back the other person into a corner and “win.” But not you. You’re more evolved than that. You’re sexy confident. So discover how to get that AMAZING boyfriend without playing games. It’s time to put the chess board away and start…

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5 Biggest Turn Ons For Men In the Bedroom

Put down the whipped cream… … return the ice cubes to the freezer… … and stop freaking out about that thing you’re thinking of doing with his toe. Cosmopolitan has convinced women everywhere that they need to bring something into the bedroom if they want to turn their man on. Nothing could be further from…

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7 Facts You Didn’t Know About Men (#5 is SHOCKING)

Sigmund Freud once claimed the only question he couldn’t answer was: “What do women want?” Poor Siggy probably didn’t understand that members of the female sex are equally mystified by their male counterparts. The more you know and understand about the male experience… … the easier it will be for you to find, attract, and…

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4 Flirty First Messages To Send On Bumble

Swipe left, swipe right, swipe left, swipe right. It can get a little tedious and time consuming. And… It sucks big time when the matches fade away like a train in the distance. That’s why I put together this short video to help you with one of the hottest new dating apps… Bumble! Sending just…

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How to Make a Man Deeply Desire You

Do you know the secret to making a man deeply desire you? If not, you need to check out my latest video right here: Inside this short video I break down exactly how to avoid landing yourself in the dreaded ‘friend zone.’ I also reveal what you need to do in order to make him…

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Is THIS Why The Modern Man Won’t Commit?

As you can imagine, I get a lot of questions these days – a lot – about the reasons why the modern man just doesn’t seem to want to commit. It seems as though we’re losing the value of commitment in all areas of life. Unfortunately, this same struggle is affecting our relationships as well.…

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THIS is the Meaning of Life

Have you ever sat back and just pondered… what’s the meaning of all this? Well, that’s exactly what I did yesterday – so I thought I’d share it in this week’s video. THIS is the Meaning of Life: Do you agree? Is THIS the meaning of life? Your Coach, Adam Summary – Over the past…

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1 Rare Quality ALL Men Secretly Want In a Woman

There is a lot of good in the world that’s come from our faster paced society. Unfortunately, there are always two sides to every coin. While we’ve been connecting with each other in a lot of ways, we have also been disconnecting. We’ve been losing sight of what really matters. In this week’s video, I…

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How to Overcome Social Anxiety in 3 Simple Steps

Do various social situations make you want to crawl into a corner and pray that nobody starts talking to you? Meeting new people can be a daunting task if you suffer from social anxiety. In fact, 15 Million people in the US suffer from social anxiety. So if you’re one of them… You’re not alone!…

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7 Reasons Good Men DON’T Cheat

We are going to break an old stereotype this week and talk about men cheating in relationships – hear me out, though… We are going to talk about why GOOD MEN will NEVER cheat on you. There is a lot of talk that floats around social media about how ‘ALL men’ cheat, but I want you…

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5 Reasons Why You Get Emotionally Attached Too Soon

Delia, I love Mike! He’s the best thing to ever happen to me. Um…Janice, can I just point out that you’ve only been dating a week? If you can relate to Janice’s jumping into a new relationship with both feet quickly… If you feel like every guy you date just might be “the one” after…

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3 Signs He Wants a Serious Relationship With You

Dating has changed a whole lot over the past 100 years. In decades past if a man was pursuing you it was meant he was courting you for marriage. Dating in the 21st century just isn’t that simple… and it can be down right messy. Is he relationship focused or just sex focused? In this…

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5 Things Men Think About Women (But Won't Say)

In a desperate effort to understand what men think about women, you might fantasize about swinging a hammer at a man’s head, cracking it open, and watching in awe as his innermost thoughts spill onto the floor. [Please don’t do this. There are better ways.] It can be extremely frustrating not knowing what men think…

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5 Things Women Do That Guys HATE

On the outside he might seem calm and collected. But on the inside he’s a ticking time bomb. You may even think everything is going smoothly… … until he ends it. And it’s all because you might be doing one or more of these five things: If you’re constantly noticing guys you date slowly pull…

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5 Things You Can't Change in any Man

Many of the biggest frustrations you will ever experience in a relationship come from trying to change certain things about the man you’re with. I’m not talking about little things like forgetting to put the toilet seat down either… Some things you just have to accept. And if you can’t accept them… … it maybe…

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My Vision for Sexy Confidence

This week’s video is a very special one as it marks a HUGE turning point for me (and the team) here at Sexy Confidence. In this quick video I explain the future of Sexy Confidence and how it might effect you moving forward. Don’t worry – it’s all good stuff, but I’d love to get…

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7 Proven Things Men Want in a Woman

Have you ever found yourself asking the question: “What do Men want”? Wouldn’t it be great if a bunch of computer nerds, slamming Red Bull in a room somewhere, just sat down and collected a bunch of scientific data to finally give you the definitive answers to that question? Well, I’ve got some good news…

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3 Signs He Loves You But Is Scared of Commitment

Has this ever happened to you? You’re dating an amazing guy, and while things are going well, you’re a bit confused. There are definitely signs he loves you but is scared. Let’s review. You meet a guy and the sparks are clearly there. When you’re together, it’s like you can conquer the world as a…

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7 Sexy Things Women Do That Turn Guys On

Let me level with you for a second, because this really needs to be said: You’ve got way more power than you may realize. What am I talking about? All it takes are a few of the right sexy triggers and ANY man will be lit up like a Christmas tree– dopamine surging, hormones blazing…

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9 Personality Traits Men Want in a Woman

How do you know if you’re THAT GIRL? How do you know if you’ve got “the right stuff” that drives men wild, turns us on, and keeps us hooked on YOU? We all have our personal preferences… … but there are SOME things that every man is looking for when it comes to “girlfriend material.”…

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5 Proven Ways to Be Way More Attractive to Men

We’ve come a long way, haven’t we? Together we’ve explored all sorts of strategies to help you improve your dating and romantic life–from how to flirt and improve your communication skills to developing inner confidence and much more. But none of that matters if you can’t catch his eye! That’s why I’ve decided that it’s…

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3 Easy Ways to Calm Your Nerves Before a First Date

Do you experience anxiety before a first date? Does your heart speed up? Do you feel queasy? Do your thoughts turn to worry or do they even race a bit? If you’re like most people then the answer is “uh… HELL YES!” First dates CAN be nerve-wracking… BUT they really don’t HAVE to be! If…

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How to Get More Guys to Approach You

“Why aren’t guys approaching me?” “Is it something I’m doing… or NOT doing???” This is one of the most common questions that I receive from my coaching clients. The thing is, unless you’re meeting all of your dates online (or YOU like being the one to “go out on a limb”) then you NEED to…

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3 Red Flags To Look For When You First Meet A Guy

Warning… Warning! Does your internal warning system ever go off when you first meet a guy? Sometimes it’s easy to pick up on the red flags… but other times it can be a bit tricky. In today’s video I’m going to talk about 3 of these red flags that you absolutely MUST look out for…

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Is He Lying to You? 7 Steps to Spotting a Liar

Do you ever get that sinking feeling that he’s telling you a lie? What’s going on when this happens? Is it a false alarm? Do you have trust issues? Or is he just being shady and is it time to say adios? Don’t worry, I’ve got you covered. That’s because in today’s video I give…

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“I have VERY high standards.” “I’m VERY picky.” These two statements can be a “nail in the coffin” when it comes to your love life. No joke. Here’s why: If you’ve already put up a wall around yourself to keep 99% of men from ever having a chance… ….how can you possibly end up finding…

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Why You Attract All the WRONG Men

Do you feel like you’re attracting all the wrong men into your life? If so, you’re not alone. This is a super common complaint I hear among women today. If you want to know what you can do about it so you can start attracting the RIGHT men, check out the video below:

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How to Make People Like You And Want to Be Your Friend Instantly

Life is just more fun when you’re surrounded by fun and interesting people, don’tcha think? Absolutely. But don’t worry if you’re not a natural when it comes to “winning friends and influencing people” yet… In today’s video, I’m going to share some simple strategies that you can use to immediately start attracting the right kind…

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How to Make Any Man Want You

So you’re single and looking for a relationship, and now you’re probably trying to understand the male mind. Well in this week’s video I’m going to dive into 3 powerful strategies that will melt any man’s heart. I know you’re gonna love it.

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Where to Meet Successful Single Men? EXPLAINED

If you’re like most women who are part of this community, you’re a smart successful woman who wants to find her match. But that raises a question…where do you meet them? One of my favorite Unity members, Amanda, recently asked me: I’m a smart and successful woman but can’t seem to meet the guys who…

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7 Reasons Why You’re Single on Valentine’s Day

Oh Valentine’s Day! It’s that time of year when you’re either feeling REALLY romantic and loved or you’re feeling a little left out because you’re single. Well this year I wanted to make a fun video about Valentine’s day outlining a few reasons why you might be single this time of year. I promise you’ll…

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Dating is stressful. To many women, it’s a lot like a roller coaster. One day he likes you, the next he’s refusing to answer your texts. One minute you’re having a great time, the next you’re stressing about if he’ll call you tomorrow. Women try and smooth out the bumpy ride by coming up with their…

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The New Year is upon us and with it, new dreams, new hopes and new dates. It’s a fresh start with a fresh batch of Tinder matches. It’s the “new you” with a new outlook and blank slate. Everything before was practice, mistake and ancient history. You no longer need to hold on to the…

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Why Men Cheat on Women They Love

Getting cheated on sucks. It warps your view on relationships, and for that matter, life. You’ll start asking yourself unproductive questions such as: “Why am I not worthy?” or “Is it possible to even find a committed relationship?” Getting cheated on will make you feel jaded and never want to date ever again.

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How to meet guys on Halloween

I’m going to just come out and say it: Halloween is my favorite holiday. I know, I know…it’s ridiculous. I’m a grown man and should be more excited for more “family oriented” holidays, but as a dating coach, I love Halloween because it’s by far the most social holiday in existence. If you are single and…

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Do you have any big plans this weekend? Well, if you’re like most people, you’re probably going Halloween costume shopping. And let me tell you, Halloween is one of the best times of year to meet single men. Why? Because it’s so easy to redefine yourself into the type of person you want to be.…

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How to attract any guy at the party

Have you ever walked into a party and just wished you had the magnetic power to attract any man? Well, believe it or not, this power does exist. And no, the power doesn’t come from showing off your boobs or butt. In this week’s video I’ll be sharing with you the one thing that forces men to…

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Why the men you want don't want you

Have you ever noticed that the guys you REALLY want, don’t want you? And then the guys you DON’T want, are drooling over you? It might just be one of the most frustrating phenomenons in the dating process, so I thought I’d make a quick video to explain it.

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How to Stop Being Clingy

Have you ever been in a relationship and lost your “sense of self”? And once that happens, you find yourself clinging to your boyfriend/girlfriend for dear life because your partner has become your only hope for happiness. Well, if this has ever happened to you, then you’ll probably agree that it can be very dangerous.…

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9 Signs He Only Wants to Hookup

Truth: Men are much more capable of having a purely sexual relationship than women. Do some women ONLY want sex? Yes, of course, but it’s much more rare than with men – even in the 21st century. There are some guys out there that ONLY want to hook up, and have zero interest in a relationship. They don’t…

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7 Signs Your Are Dating a Gentlemen

Has modern dating killed the gentleman? Many single women say yes. But I disagree. It’s just a matter of knowing what to look for in a man (and weeding out the guys who don’t meet your standards). So I decided to create this video outlining the 7 signs you’re dating a true gentleman.

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How to stop caring what people think of you

Six years ago, I decided I was going to be a “dating coach”. It was random, weird, and socially unacceptable to most people. So very quickly I had to learn how to stop caring about what people thought, because literally everyone on planet earth had an opinion about my work. Now maybe you’re not trying to…

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How to improve social skills

  If you’re single and looking to mingle, then your social skills will dictate your success with dating. But we’re no longer in high school, and it can be difficult to practice these skills during the week (unless you have a social job). So this week’s video focuses on one easy way to improve your social…

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Fun facts about men and dating

Humans are weird creatures. We’re judgmental, irrational and overly sensitive. If you don’t believe me, then this video is perfect for you. I explain 5 facts about men and dating that you’ve never heard before. Some of these facts are just weird, and some are absolutely hilarious. Regardless, I guarantee you’ll learn a few things.

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Many years ago I found myself single and overweight after a sudden breakup. I had gained the “relationship fifteen” —those sneaky pounds that creep up on you when you snuggle, eat ice cream and watch Netflix every night. Well, I was suddenly looking to mingle again but felt horrible about my physique. I knew something…

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I was once a boy, now I’m a man. It took me twenty-nine years to get there, but I’ve arrived. It’s more than most men can say. And that’s because age has nothing to do with being a man. Age is merely a number—actions define who he really is. But here’s the problem—most women spend their…

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1 Easy Way to Show a Guy You Like Him

Have you ever been really into a guy, but literally have NO clue how to express that interest? Do you pass him a note? No, you’re not in middle school. Do you call him and ask him out? No, leave that up to him. Do you seduce him by eating chocolate covered strawberries and staring…

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How to control emotion in relationships - featured

Emotions are how we experience life. If we’re constantly engaging our toxic emotions, then our lives turn into misery. If we’re constantly triggering our happiest emotions, then our lives will be full of love. It’s really that simple. So in a completely “off the cuff” video this morning, I’m sharing with you my morning ritual…

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It absolutely amazes me how even the smallest decisions can impact our lives forever. And because I find the holidays to be a very “reflective” time, I thought I’d share three personal stories with you that I’ve never shared on video before. You are truly my family, and I wanted to open up to you…

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Signs He's Emotionally Unavailable - Featured

Feelings. They are REALLY scary to us men, and sometime’s we’re just not ready to open up to them. And it’s critical for you to learn the signs of an emotionally unavailable man so that you don’t invest too much time into a guy who’s just not ready for a relationship. The best part? Usually…

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Dating Advice For Women I DESPISE Featured

Ever since we were young, we’ve been hearing “wise” dating advice from our parents, grandparents, teachers, and close friends. All of it “means well”, but most of it is misses the mark. My biggest beef with common dating advice for women is that it doesn’t actually help you take any real tangible action. It’s all focused on the idea…

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Men Love Confident Women

We’ve all heard it before: Women LOVE Confident Men. But this begs the ultimate question, is the feeling mutual? Do men also find confidence attractive? If you’ve followed my previous videos, you probably know my opinion on this matter. BUT, in this video, I make some very key distinctions between confidence in men versus women.…

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is chivalry dead

Times have changed. Men no longer “court” women and online dating has taken over as the “go to” way of meeting people. But does this mean that chivalry is officially dead? Do men now act totally different than they used to? Do women act differently? Is dating just bananas now a days? These are all…

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We all know love is totally irrational. Why? Because attraction is NOT a choice. You cannot CHOOSE who you are attracted to. Instead, you can only CHOOSE who you date (and ultimately marry). And weirdly enough, sometimes the very fact that a guy isn’t interested, makes you even more attracted to him. I’ve seen it over…

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I went out last weekend and had one of those “I am super weird” moments. It all began when I started aggressively twerking at a bar. And we all know that twerking was soooo 2013. But instead of hiding my weirdness, I decided to OWN it. Why? Because we as humans are all super duper…

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Have you ever looked at a dude from across the room and thought to yourself: “Creepy…” “Fun…” “Charismatic…” Or have you ever noticed how you can sense a guy’s “vibe” instantly? You can basically tell whether or not you like him before he utters a single word. Well, all you’re doing is reading his body…

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Some of you may actually love being single. You get the whole shebang: freedom AND fun – I mean, why wouldn’t you? However, others may be sick of watching Seinfeld reruns on Friday nights while eating Ben and Jerry’s Phish Food. Regardless of which one you are, there are 15 very real reasons why you’re…

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A “cute guy” says hello at Starbucks. He’s smooth. He’s funny. He’s charismatic. He’s…too good to be true? Maybe you’ve been hurt in the past, or you’re just trying to protect yourself for the future – you’re probably wondering how to filter out the bad guys, and keep the GOOD ones, right? Watch this video…

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So, you’re not getting any younger, and you suddenly realize that you’re no longer surrounded by other fun “girlfriends” who just want to go out and meet guys with you. At times, you might feel as though you’re stuck on a lonely, deserted island, simply hoping and wishing to be rescued. You might think to…

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Are you sick and tired of dating hamburger-eating smokers, who complain that they  “really need to go to the gym” every night? Have you ever stopped to realize that maybe this is a direct result of you meeting all these guys that hang out in the smoking section of the local McDonalds (hmmm…can you still…

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  “Oh, she’s just shy.” This was your mother’s justification of why you turned away from strangers when you were a strapping seven years old. Then, you grew older and moved on to middle school. All of the cool girls were naturally flirting with the boys; however, it just wasn’t your thing. You thought, “Well,…

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So, it’s your third date of the month. The last guy you went out with had a passion for taxidermy (creepy?), and the next guy can’t stop talking about Harley-Davidson motorcycles (macho douche-bag). You find it extremely difficult to flirt with guys that you have NOTHING in common with, right?

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The “ugly duckling” in middle school never received any ‘positive attention’ from the boys in the cafeteria. It’s just a sad, natural truth. Men are highly visual creatures, and thus, beautiful women catch our attention very quickly. But, the real question is, do you actually have to be “pretty” to attract great guys in your…

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Your friend: “You can’t just walk up and talk to that guy.” You: “Why not?” Your friend: “Because guys like the chase.” You: “Ah, dang it. You’re right. Hopefully, he’ll come by.” So, you wait and wait. Finally, he looks over, looks away, and then leaves with his buddies. Opportunity lost. In reality, he probably…

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“Guys suck.” “Guys are the enemy.” “No, no, no, they’re the “Menemy…” Fine. As you know, guys are complete disasters at dating. They have no clue what they’re doing out there. They miss your “signals” and say the wrong things at the wrong time. I totally get it. BUT, even though they (we) totally suck,…

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